Boyfriend’s friend gives me attention signs. How to behave with my boyfriend's friends?

Getting to know a guy's friends is like getting to know the parents of your soulmate. That is, the event is terribly responsible, and it is not yet clear whether they are ready to accept you and consider you a close person.

And this is far from a joke. Things may never reach the meeting with parents and other relatives - some live quite far from their home and see their mother and father no more than 1-2 times a year. Whereas it’s necessary to meet a guy’s friends, and they will meticulously evaluate you. And some of them may like the new girl in the company so much that they will try to establish a relationship with her and recapture her from a friend. And what do you want to do in this situation?

The roles of the new girl in the company

How to behave with boyfriend's friends? Every girl thinks about this before the party at which she has to find out, and ideally - to love her comrades and - oh, horror! - friends of her boyfriend. And they also need to be liked, because if you dislike it, it will depress the guy.

That is why girls choose several standard roles, which they then adhere to:

1. “Princess” is a restrained, soft, polite girl, a little detached from the bustle of the ordinary world. Sweet Miss Perfection. One of the good options, but it’s easy to cross the line and turn into the “Snow Queen” - cold, unsmiling and arrogant.
2. "Sexy beauty." He wears the most fashionable and beautiful, always with makeup and hairstyle, often in a dress and high heels. In general, she seeks to say with her whole appearance: “Look how lucky my boyfriend is.” The mistake is that this image requires serious efforts, in addition, a company may find someone who “pecks” at your beauty, which will seriously complicate the situation.
3. “Normal” is too polite and shy to show its best side. Therefore, more often he is silent, does not interrupt anyone and keeps his thoughts to himself. Not the best option, as the company will consider you mediocrity.
4. “My boyfriend” - the girl tried so hard to please the boyfriend’s friends that she became “mine on the board”. And now he discusses in the company all personal and sometimes quite intimate things. This will definitely not please the boyfriend.
5. “Bitch” - an image is created specifically or is obtained involuntarily. The last option is when you try to hide the hostility to the boyfriend’s friends (and they may turn out to be far from pleasant people), but she still breaks through.

Friends

“What if my boyfriend’s friend doesn’t like me?” - This question is often asked by girls after meeting with a boyfriend's company. In fact, there is no disaster in this. You just need to limit your stay next to this person. But only his own, not a loved one.

It is not necessary to reduce everything to a conflict of the type “either I or he”. This is often a dead end situation in which your loved one will be forced to choose between two close and dear to him people.

Typical mistakes of a girl when meeting with a guy's comrades: a man’s look

Sometimes when you meet a guy’s best friend, you realize that he rated you extremely low. And later, it will affect the opinion of all the people in the boyfriend's company. But what went wrong? Young ladies often make the same mistakes at the first and subsequent meetings:

1. They behave extremely defiantly, on the verge of decency, vulgarly. This is such a symbiosis of images of “sexy beauty” and “bitch”.
2. Public and deliberate demonstration of your ardent feelings - hugs, kisses, stroking and other “sweet” signs of attention. In a crowded place it is worth restraining your emotions.
3. Ask about your ex-boyfriend and how much better / worse you are. In the company of such girls they like to troll with stories about how all the former were better.
4. Show off their achievements - a lot, often at every meeting.
5. Rude to his boyfriend and humiliate him in public.
6. They do not support conversation, as they constantly correspond with someone on the phone.
7. Openly show their negative attitude towards the company. They can get up and defiantly leave. Or comment on what is happening in a negative way.

How to behave with boyfriend friends

In fact, the surest way to please a guy’s best friend and all the other people in the company is to be yourself. Just the way you are alone with your loved one, that is, free and relaxed.

It remains to understand how often you need to spend time with them. Everything is simple here - if you are the only girl in the company, then such meetings should be very rare. Do not too often “decorate” the male team with your presence: they won’t say such things to your face, but they will say for your eyes that you are bothering them.

If the company is met in pairs, then if you wish, you can spend time with them at any opportunity.

How to understand that a company liked you

Often girls are interested in: “What if a boyfriend’s friend gives me attention signs?” First, make sure that these are really signs of attention, and not just a couple of smiles and friendly support.

Typically, men who secretly fall in love with their partner's chosen one behave like this:

1. Dramatically moving away from you and from the company as a whole. But with rare encounters they cannot hold back joy. As a rule, this suggests that the person decided not to ruin someone else's happiness.
2. It appears in your life more and more often, and tries to choose a moment when the boyfriend is not nearby.

At the same time, a man in love is actively interested in your life, even through other people, enjoys meeting, smiles broadly and looks in the eye, remembers any dates and events from your life well and generously showers compliments.

What to do in this situation

When a boyfriend’s friend begins to actively show attention, there is always a very awkward situation. On the one hand, I don’t feel like pushing a boyfriend and his friend - such a conflict will not lead to anything good. On the other hand, accepting compliments and gifts from a boyfriend's friend is not a good idea.

In this case, the right decision will be to speak frankly with the man in love and explain that his actions are inappropriate and cause you to feel awkward. A smart person will understand and will no longer bother.

“Is it worth telling my boyfriend that his friend is trying to look after me?”, - such a question can often be heard from young ladies who first got into such an awkward situation. A boyfriend should be said if, after a frank conversation, there were no changes. But preparing for the conversation should be like a court session - with a full bag of strong evidence, backed up by various sources.

That is, if you show a couple of congratulations on the social network, then they may not believe you. This is insulting, but you need to make a discount on the fact that we are talking about a friend.

Another way of talking: “Look at what N sends me every day. He distracts me constantly. Talk to him". That is, do not speak directly about attempts to care, but simply indicate your position and show your boyfriend that you don’t like this and that.