Progress does not stand still, and now feelings have passed from reality to virtual space. Instead of going to parks, cafes, sports grounds or libraries, young people sit for hours at a computer, chatting, ICQ, forums and social networks. It is not surprising that acquaintances also went to the Internet, and with them love.
Virtual love is an already established concept. It is clear to everyone - this is love built on the Internet, love that began when people saw each other only in photographs. However, let's clarify: there is no virtual love, there is virtual communication. And love is always real feelings. It brings joy or pain, makes you smile or get nervous. At the same time, psychologists recognize that virtual love is a dependence on the person with whom you communicate via the Internet. In real life, you may never meet, nevertheless, those emotions that cause communication with him are quite real.
The disadvantage of virtual love is that it rarely translates into reality. The fact is that communicating with a person only by correspondence, we create an image that we like ourselves. And the person "behind the monitor" is also not real. It is not at all necessary that he is lying to you, he just wants to please you, and plays a role, ascribing to himself those features that he does not really have. On the Internet, we can come up with any fairy tale, any image - both for ourselves and for the person with whom we correspond.
Who is at risk of experiencing virtual love?
Let's immediately decide: virtual dating and virtual love are not the same thing. Every year in our country, the number of people who meet on the Internet is growing - in social networks, on forums, even on specially created dating sites for this purpose. In the USA, such dating has long been the norm and, despite numerous negative reviews, give their positive results. Such dating has its undoubted advantages. They are convenient for people who, for some reason, rarely visit public places and are not able to find a mate in a close environment. For those who came to live in a new place, for those who feel awkward when meeting in real life. Most of them simply selects a pair that is objectively suitable for some criteria. There are people who experience complexes in reality because of some of their qualities. For example, nobody wants to get acquainted with a very smart and interesting girl because of her unsightly appearance, without even trying to appreciate her inner world. Or, on the contrary, in a very beautiful girl, only appearance appeals and no guy notices her mind and talents. In men, problems are most often associated with money. Moreover, as statistics show, it is more likely with their abundance than disadvantage. Those who have already encountered the greed of female representatives in life go to the Internet and decided that he needs one that will evaluate him as a person, and not a bag of money.
And only a small percentage of these people are able to experience virtual love. These are those people for whom virtual life can replace the real one. They have no incentive in real life, and they are often lonely. Lack of communication leads them to the Internet, where communication is abundant. And if the lack of communication is also accompanied by self-doubt and complexes (and this often happens), then virtual love becomes the only possible one for them. Indeed, when communicating on the Internet, you don’t need to think about how you can prove your love and how best to declare love - just write about it, give a virtual flower or a heart.
Virtual love is dangerous because it causes addiction. There is nothing easier than, having played enough, to delete your page from a dating site or from a social network, and the person who was attached to you will suddenly be left alone with a broken heart, having no chance of just talking with the subject of his love. But there are a lot of such “just playing” in the network.
There is another problem. Even if the feelings are mutual, the transition to reality is difficult for such people. And this is not surprising, because both have to part with their illusions. And so many of them never meet, preferring to keep their dreams ...