She looked through themed sites, choosing a wedding dress. Girlfriends made bets, who would be the lucky one who caught the bride’s bouquet. He watched football with friends and did not even realize that his girlfriend was waiting for an offer. By what signs can it be understood that a man considers the relationship frivolous? Is this possible in principle?
Let's be acquainted, let's get married
At all times, there were jokes about the fact that the girl begins to gather at the crown, only having caught on herself the interested glance of the gentleman. And if it came to a date, you can choose a name for the future joint child. It’s just that it’s not at all fun then that the hopes are not met. The maiden soul can suffer long from resentment and disappointment, trying to find the reasons for failure. Is it possible at the first stages to determine what are the true motives of men? How to understand that for him this is another acquaintance for a frivolous relationship?
As soon as the first women's magazines appeared, it became obvious: the love theme is the most popular among the population. Universal tips for attracting grooms and secrets on how to get married faster have always been in special demand. In the modern era of the Internet, recipes for a successful life have become especially common. Popular authors claim that they know all the signs of a frivolous relationship. It is worth considering the main ones in more detail.
A man does not talk about his childhood
It is alleged that a person in love will definitely want to share memories of his young years. However, it would be worth clarifying here: to have a desire and to do is not the same thing. Maybe the groom feels the need to pour out his soul, only the previous unsuccessful experience of revelations stops him. And this applies not only to the male population. Almost everyone can recall a situation where, having entrusted their childhood experiences, they had to bitterly regret it. That which is expensive and touching for the survivor is ridiculous and stupid for the listener. Having not received the expected reaction, the person closes and promises himself to continue to be more restrained. But often the one who was entrusted with the secret allows himself to joke about it for years and aggravate the situation. So the lack of revelation about the first semolina can hardly be considered a reliable sign of a frivolous relationship.
This terrible ex
Another self-confident statement that the guy clearly considers his girlfriend an empty place is based on his unwillingness to talk about past relationships. For some reason, it is believed that if the previous union is really closed for continuation, then talking about it should be easy. Otherwise, the beloved should be suspected of surviving feelings for an ex-girlfriend. And in general, maybe he still runs to her on Mondays. Especially if you do not answer calls at this time.
Silence is gold
In fact, the fact that the man does not discuss his ex-girlfriend with the current one speaks more about his tact and respect for both. Any reasonable person understands that from unnecessary knowledge only sorrows are added. When the brain has nothing to do, it vigorously takes on relishing the painful details, which include the previous passions. The more nuances are known, the more active are the experiences. Obviously, such a mood is completely not to the benefit of a calm, benevolent relationship. The desire to climb where it would not be worth it, but not the secrecy of a man, will make them frivolous. So one should only be glad that the beloved does not belong to the numerous estate of talkers, and live in peace.
Familiarity with the family is a prerequisite
One of the most common misconceptions is based on the fact that partners are simply obliged to invite each other to family dinners. If a man has not yet done so, then he is treated like a woman for a frivolous relationship.
In practice, there are many more reasons why getting to know your parents may never happen:
Relations with relatives are badly damaged. And not necessarily the fault of the man himself. It is possible that all his life they pressed him, disregarding the opinion. At the first opportunity, he broke free and was in no hurry to return.
One of the parents is an alcoholic. Even in a completely decent family, from the outside, there can be a problem with drunkenness. Such a misfortune usually comes up at solemn feasts. What begins with a glass for acquaintance ends with the obscene behavior of the drinker and the pain of relatives. Obviously, such prospects are not encouraging, and the participants in the alcohol tragedy try not to give a reason for the breakdown.
Previous experience with unsuccessful family events. Perhaps the man was already inviting guests home. Not necessarily an ex-girlfriend. And something went wrong. For example, many mothers consider it normal to show all those present children's photos of “their boy” without shorts and in a panama hat. And some fathers consider it obligatory to unleash political battles in order to determine "their" and "strangers."
With confidence, only one thing can be said: if acquaintance with the family of a lover does not occur, there is certainly a reason. But it is unlikely that there is a frivolous relationship between partners.
Dates are boring and monotonous
This observation is explained by the fact that the man is not trying to impress. It is argued that even males in nature tend to hit a potential mate with their feathers and tails. And Homo sapiens is simply obliged to do something grand and unforgettable at every meeting. Otherwise, a man is only interested in meeting his needs with minimal cost.
In fact, dull joint evenings are more likely to speak of a frivolous attitude of a girl. The times when, for the sake of young Assol, raised red sails, are long gone. Largely thanks to the efforts of the beautiful ladies themselves. Therefore, a sensible woman will not focus on reality shows in which the main character, based on the script of the editor and the budget of the channel, organizes daily trips to the moon. It is better to talk with your partner in advance about plans for the next date, possibly suggesting your options. Having correctly assessed the man’s reaction, one can make useful discoveries for himself: his interests, his willingness to compromise, and material opportunities.
Subtotals
First of all, you should understand for yourself that a lot does not look at all as it seems. Even our own actions sometimes turn out to be inexplicable to us. Trying to guess the true motives of a person by indirect signs is a futile exercise. To judge plans for life by one-time actions is to spend strength and nerves, moreover, both partners.
Interesting information for thought.
A man quite often buys tickets to the glorious city of St. Petersburg. Does this speak of him as a lover of museums? Is it possible to assume that this person is very fond of walking along the embankments?
Meanwhile, one of the popular reasons why tourists go to St. Petersburg is dating for frivolous relationships. Not only the Hermitage and drawbridges are of interest to visitors to St. Petersburg, but also the snow queens who want to find solace in the arms of the provincials.
Does this mean that everyone who booked a tour of the sights of the Northern capital, in fact, is looking for love joys? Or maybe this is a sign of high education and a passion for education?
The most effective advice ever
Even a completely non-religious person should sometimes heed the biblical commandments. If only because it is age-old wisdom. And the main one says: love your neighbor as yourself. It is understood that self-love should initially appear. Then most doubts will simply disappear. This applies to any field.
A person with adequate self-esteem in a relationship with a partner should first of all be concerned about his own feeling. How comfortable is the current union? Here and now.
Trying to figure out tomorrow is an initially futile exercise. Sometimes one cannot vouch for even one’s own feelings. That's how you live with your spouse for 30 years, you raise children, you pay the mortgage. And in the morning I got up and realized that you can no longer be near him for a minute. What can we say about the other person.
What to do?
First of all, it would be worth answering yourself the basic questions:
And if the answers are positive, then the union should be maintained and strengthened in every way, so that both would feel good and joyful. Otherwise, it's time to think about the appropriateness of continuing such communication. There should be no attempt to bring feelings in a pair of standards and templates. Reflections on how serious the relationship is should be driven as unnecessary. The views from the side should be used to ignoring. Otherwise, there will never be peace in the soul. Only your own feelings and partner behavior are really important.
Where are the criteria by which you can judge the relationship? Cohabitation? Is there a stamp in the passport? It is worth looking around - and it becomes obvious: no guarantees exist in any alliance. You can meet once a year and think about a person every minute. Conversely, sleep in one bed and dream about another.
Attempts to translate frivolous relationships into serious ones with the help of various tricks are by default a waste of time. Because where is she, this line? Every second couple lives in the same apartment, brings up joint children and has the most non-serious relationship of all possible. A light flirtation is often the beginning of a strong union.
So the main thing is to love. Myself. Partner. A life. And tomorrow will be tomorrow.