You can congratulate on the day of marriage registration not only young, but also their parents. Although many people think that congratulations on their parents' weddings are something new in the ritual of the holiday and not so long ago came into use, in reality this is not so.
The tradition of congratulating the marriage of not only the newlyweds, but also their parents for centuries. With the wedding of children, the older generation was congratulated everywhere, including in Russia.
How to congratulate parents?
There are no special requirements, due to traditions, to what should be the congratulations on the wedding day of the parents, with the exception of one. Warm words and wishes should be addressed to both sides - to the parents of the bride, and to the mother and father of the groom. Moreover, this should be done immediately, and not in turn.
As for the priority, etiquette ascribes the newlyweds the right to first contact their parents. After the congratulations on the wedding day of the parents from their children will sound, the order can be anything. A simultaneous appeal to the young and their parents is allowed, within the framework of one toast. In this case, you should first mention the newlyweds, and end your speech with an appeal to your parents.
How to say?
Traditionally, congratulations on the wedding day of parents contain three components:
- a mention of the fact that their children grew up, which was the reason for the holiday;
- praise for education and care;
- wishes.
What will be the festive appeal in form - poetic, prosaic, in the parable or mixed - does not matter. You can and should choose what you like more. However, one must remember that the sister of talent is brevity, and do not drag out your speech for long.
What to say in verses?
Poetic versions of congratulatory addresses are one of the most popular and popular. They give way only to banquet speeches in the Caucasian style, that is, parables.
You can pronounce a congratulation in verses as follows:
“Today is a holiday for young people, but I’m not talking about them.
Parents, bow to you low,
From your grown children and the guests sitting here.
Saved from dashing troubles,
The nights did not sleep close with the cradle
But soon you will raise children again.
Let it be right away - grandson and granddaughter. ”
Newlyweds wishing to say thanks to their parents should not depart from the structure of the text. That is, they should also mention their own growing up, thank the older generation and complete the speech with wishes.
What to say in prose?
Congratulations on the wedding day of parents in prose can be said simply, in your own words. However, for many, this option seems boring. If you want to distinguish your toast from the rest, but not to read for this poem, you can pronounce a drinking parable, that is, a speech in the Caucasian style.
You can say the following:
“In ancient times, in a valley full of greenery, lying between sheer inaccessible cliffs, a wedding was celebrated. We walked for a long time and cheerfully, but it was time to congratulate the young and disperse. And then a huge eagle descended from heaven, made a circle over people and flew away. The guests fell silent, and the old people began to wonder if this was a good sign.
While judged and dressed, the giant bird returned again and brought in its claws a young roe deer. The eagle made a circle over the guests and threw the roe deer at the feet of the parents of the newlyweds. He made a laryngeal cry and soared into the sky. And the guests were ashamed that they congratulated only the young people and drank their wine for their health, forgetting about the parents who had raised, fed and released a new family.
The young got up from the table and bowed low to their parents. And after them congratulated them and other guests. Parents wished much at that wedding. But the main thing the wise bird had already wished for them, having brought their gift, namely, prosperity, for many years in satiety and health, without need and calamity. Since then it has become customary to congratulate on the wedding not only the groom and the bride, but also those who gave them life.
Let’s drink for our young parents, we wish them health and many years filled with joys and kind cares, the laugh of grandchildren and the attention of children! ”
How to congratulate the newlyweds?
In a congratulatory speech for young people there should be an appeal to both spouses at once, this is mandatory, although this requirement of etiquette is often violated. In addition to the appeal should mention the wedding and list the wishes.
Only parents of the bride and groom or their older relatives, such as grandparents, can pronounce any parting words or instructions. If the guest is not in kinship with the young couple, then even the elderly person should refrain from educational elements in the table speech.
What to say to parents?
Newlyweds listen to a beautiful congratulation on their wedding day from their parents with special trepidation, regardless of the style of speech.
The best speeches for children are those that parents speak themselves, without using any blanks. However, the older generation is often very worried and cannot find the right words. Therefore, it is quite possible to use the example of speech and on its basis to make your own.
“Children, you are our dear ones, dear and beloved! Today is your wedding day. A holiday that opens before you a long and difficult road, full of sudden turns, fogs and other obstacles. This road is called - the family. And you walk along it all your life, without turning anywhere. And if the weather suddenly thickens, then we are always with you and will help everyone in difficult times. Do not forget about it.
I wish you happiness and an easy journey along the long road of life. Congratulations! ”
Such congratulations on the wedding day from the bride’s parents or from the groom’s side may sound, there are no priorities in the order. The only thing that should not be forgotten by the older generation is the need to contact both newlyweds at once. As a rule, the parents of the young wife remember this condition, but congratulations on the wedding day from the parents of the groom often contain a nominal appeal only to the young husband. That is why the presenters usually ask to acquaint them with the contents of the feasts of relatives.
How to highlight your child in a congratulation?
Unfortunately, parents do not always approve of the choice of their own children. As a rule, hostility is not openly displayed, at least at the wedding, but it is veiled. For example, the older generation refuses to address in a congratulatory speech to the newlyweds as a whole.
If there is a strong desire or need to allocate your child, then this can be done, of course, extremely unobtrusive and very tactful.
Example of wedding greetings from the groom's parents:
“Dear son, now you have already become a fully grown man. You have taken on great responsibility. There is a long difficult path ahead of you, full of trials and difficulties. On this way, not only your wonderful wife will be nearby, but also we. Indeed, for parents, the son remains a child, even if he himself already becomes a father.
We wish you happiness and a cloudless sky. We wish you not to forget about dreams and achieve all those goals that you strive for. We wish to fly up and never know the bitterness of the fall. And your family will always be a support in this, the birthday of which we are all celebrating today! ”
Example of congratulations on the wedding day from the parents of the bride:
“Today I look at you, my girl, and cry. From happiness and joy. From pride in how we were able to raise you as a clever and beautiful woman. But we do not give you to your spouse, not at all. Today we take our son into our family.
Happiness to you, (name of the bride and groom), health and eternal youth, which true love always gives. For love! ”
It is necessary to think over a congratulatory speech in which there would be no general appeal, since it is rather difficult to make such a toast. But it is more ethical to forget about your emotions during the holiday and at least take a couple of hours to perceive the newlyweds as a family, that is, turn to both at once.