You are about to meet the guy’s parents? Hands sweat, legs give way, in the wardrobe, it turns out there is not a single decent dress, and all the complexes that were successfully defeated in youth threaten to come out again to the light of day? No problem. This article will help you figure out how to behave in order to make a positive impression on the family of your chosen one. However, the tips outlined below are suitable for those guys who have to get acquainted with the girl's parents.
Of course, you need to survive a responsible meeting, because the future depends on how much you manage to please the boy’s relatives. But will it be at all? Indeed, even anecdotes compose the harmfulness of mother-in-law. However, let's not talk about the terrible ...
The first thing you should remember is to remain yourself. But do not forget about the framework of public etiquette. If you are used to saying everything you think, and not always in the correct form, hold on to your ardor for a while. But you don’t need to pretend to be a good partner either, the falsity will be felt, and, believe me, your fiancé’s relatives will not appreciate it.
If you are going to get acquainted with your parents, you should try to hide your excitement, but not behind a mask of pretense of impudence and looseness. You need to behave as naturally as possible.
It is a mistake to think that talking about the interior of an apartment is a good choice. No need to express regret or admiration for the decoration of the house. Most often, acquaintance with parents takes the form of a family dinner. At the table, always monitor your posture, you should not relax.
In no case do not show excessive activity in the conversation, do not sprinkle with jokes, questions and compliments to the hostess of the house. It is better to answer modestly if you are asked about something, and keep quiet for the first time.
Even if you are on a diet, you will have to try everything that the future mother-in-law puts on the table, adding to the meal with words of delight about the taste of the phenomena. It's okay, tomorrow you will make a fasting day. But not eating or refusing any dishes is a clear sign of disrespect for the hostess.
Getting to know your parents can be hopelessly ruined if you grab the excess. One glass of champagne or wine for the evening is enough. And even if the brother of the groom or the future father-in-law will pour you alcohol, do not succumb to provocations.
Regarding cigarettes, we can say that a girl should not smoke at all when meeting with the boyfriend's parents. But a young man can do this only if an offer comes from the owners of the house.
The first visit and getting to know your parents should not be long.
Most often, such meetings are timed to any holiday. Then you are doubly discouraged: not only that in general there is such a difficult task as to please the parents, you can also not guess with the present.
Expensive gifts should not be made, otherwise the relatives of your fiancé may feel obligated, or even worse, they will convict you of sucking.
The book in this case is an excellent choice. On the flyleaf you need to make a dedication inscription. If the parents of your chosen one are passionate about any kind of art, only then can you bring them musical instruments, sculptures or paintings. The future mother-in-law should not be given underwear, cosmetics or perfumes. Not only is this uncivilized, but you also risk not guessing. If the acquaintance with the parents of the chosen one is timed to the birthday of one of them, you can not donate money.
What to do? Do not overdo it much. For the first meeting, a good bouquet of flowers will be enough. Just need to consult with a florist so as not to give a mother-in-law a man’s bouquet, and vice versa.
Getting to know your parents is not a reason to panic. This is a great opportunity to show them everything that your boyfriend loved you for.