In the 1974 film "Krechinsky’s Wedding", A. Kolker sounded a romance with the words:
The female share is this: Timidly trying to please. Someone giving in to someone's love, Proudly to be called the chosen one (Kim Ryzhov).
He perfectly illustrates public opinion in the 19th century about the role of women in love relationships. Should a modern girl wait for a young man to take the first steps forward, or is recognition of a guy’s sympathy a norm of today's society? And if so, then how to do it right?
The importance of recognition
Boys are brought up by future men, suppressing any manifestation of feelings and emotions:
- You can’t cry.
- Need to endure.
- Complaining is ugly.
In adolescence, adults are often found who, in response to emotionally expressed recognition, show indifference or misunderstanding. Therefore, in the future, in romantic relationships, young men have a fear of being rejected. For them, it becomes important to “reinforce”, the manifestation of sympathy on the part of the girl, so that they continue courtship and strive to develop communication.
It is about the emergence of feelings and the beginning of a romantic story. It is at this moment that the recognition of the girl’s sympathy for the guy becomes important.
Non-verbal methods
Many girls think: young people themselves have to guess what they like. After all, behavior can tell a lot. What needs to be done for this?
- Allow yourself to express emotions in the presence of a guy. Glitter of eyes and a fleeting glance, after which visual contact with the object you like again is sought, is a good start.
- If you want to straighten your hair, play with hair, doing it. Such movements literally fascinate guys.
- Demonstrate hands, your beautiful wrists, magnificent manicure.
But one should not exaggerate the capabilities of the strong half of humanity. Not everyone can distinguish ordinary coquetry from sympathy.
The exchange of views is very indicative, because the eyes are not accidentally called a mirror of the soul, but recognition of sympathy for a guy must be expressed in words.
Poems to help
Poetry allows you to express emotions in a romantic way. Confession to a guy in sympathy in verses can be either direct or indirect. Help may come:
- masterpieces of world classics;
- samples of emotional lyrics from the Internet;
- own creativity.
An example of indirect recognition is the participation in a creative evening when the girl has the opportunity to read poetry in the presence of the addressee. For example, such:
To see you and to see, and to see you, and to see, and to see, and suddenly decide to raise your eyes to you ... (Vera Pavlova).
The recitation can be accompanied by a look that will only enhance the impression.
It is better to read directly addressed lines in person in a private conversation when a comfortable emotional atmosphere is created for this:
"It's great that you are in the world. And a ray of sunshine, mom and sister, Cherished dreams come true: I became the owner of a kitten. But most importantly, what are you in the world ..."
Confession of sympathy to a guy in prose
It is very important to consider the individual characteristics of the young man. If he does not like poetry, do not express his attitude towards him in this form. Even if for the girl herself - this is one of the main hobbies. In this case, prose may come to the rescue.
Recognition of sympathy for a guy in this case can also be expressed indirectly. For example, giving a book to read, you should ask to take a closer look at a particular chapter or sketch on a particular page. To say that the protagonist (for example, Sanya Grigoriev from “Two Captains” by V. Kaverin) is a real man, whom the girl is ready to go through life. In her view, the young man is very similar to him and has the same set of positive qualities.
It is from the real literature that one can pick up lines that will be appropriate when expressing direct sympathy for a young man:
What a blessing it was to ride a bicycle with him ... He kissed me in the back of the head ... You know ... There was nothing better than this in life ... ("You never dreamed," Galina Shcherbakova).
Having cited the words of a teacher recalling her youth, one can thank the guy for taking the girl on a bicycle, motorcycle or car. And add that it was great. Like in a book.
Most common mistakes
Recognition of sympathy for a guy in his own words is the most successful option. For he is the most sincere, exciting and touching. It should be prepared for it. And not only find the right words, choose the right moment, but also tune psychologically for any outcome. There is a chance that the guy will not be able to reciprocate. That is why you should not make confessions in deeper feelings, limiting yourself to the phrase: "You are very pleasant to me."
You can admit an element of self-irony: "I never thought that I would like a guy so passionate about sports." Humor is also pertinent: "Your last name struck me so. I could not resist!"
You need to choose the right intonation, making it soft and confidential, in no case do not laugh and do not precede your words with the phrase: "I would like to talk with you." It scares the guys off.
You should not trust your admission to SMS messages or emails. It is impossible to convey emotions and intonation in them, there is no visual contact. But if there is no other option, then the following is possible:
"I wanted to please you with something, to make something pleasant. I want to meet with a smile every morning, because there is me, a girl who constantly thinks about you."