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Sexual relationships play a huge role in our lives. Sex is not only a way to enjoy it - it brings you closer to your partner and allows you to maintain health. In fact, many of us do not even know how useful sex life is for the body and how its absence is detrimental to it. However, the majority of women on our planet today have a slightly different problem - in the presence of sex, many simply do not experience orgasm. Sometimes this also applies to men, although much less often. And these problems are carefully hidden, especially by the strong half of humanity. Today we will talk about anorgasmia in men and women and methods of dealing with this disease.
Reasons for the lack of orgasm in men
A similar problem worries women more often, but it also occurs in men. While maintaining sexual desire and erection, sexual intercourse does not end with orgasm. The reasons for its absence are divided into psychogenic and organic, because both physiological and psychological factors play a role in the formation of an orgasm.
Psychological factors and anorgasmia in men
Most often, psychogenic factors are to blame for the inability to achieve orgasm. These are injuries that could have been received as a result of sexual violence or an abnormal idea of sexual intercourse that appeared in childhood. For example, if a boy witnessed sexual contact of parents who aggressively reacted to his appearance, in the child’s subconscious mind sex will be associated with negative experience.
Stage of Oedipus and Electra. In boys aged 5-7 years, the first rudiments of sexual desire appear, which are based on the example of a mother. In this case, the boys often claim that in the future they will marry their mother. Such a statement should not be accompanied by a negative reaction of the parents, otherwise in the understanding of the child, again, sexuality will seem wrong.
If the mother shows excessive adoration for the child, he may develop a sense of guilt for betraying this ideal image of the beloved woman at a more mature age.
In addition to the above, sex therapists give many more reasons for the conflict between the body and the psyche.
Physiology and anorgasmia in men
The physiological reasons for the lack of orgasm are quite rare in medical practice. This can be damage at the level of the brain and spinal cord or nerve endings of the small pelvis. This can also include urethritis and other inflammatory diseases of the reproductive system.
In addition, male anorgasmia can provoke the use of antidepressants, which lower blood pressure, alcohol, and, of course, age-related changes.
Types of Female Orgasm
About 60% of women on the planet suffer from a complete or partial lack of orgasm. Doctors emit primary and secondary anorgasmia. And if the first is a complete, often congenital, inability to reach the peak of pleasure, then the secondary usually has a number of reasons.
Secondary type anorgasmia occurs even in cases when a woman experiences an orgasm during masturbation, but does not reach it during sex with a partner.
Among the main types of anorgasmia of the second type are:
- Situational when an orgasm is experienced only under certain conditions. For example, by masturbation. And with coital anorgasmia, a woman achieves pleasure in many ways, but not from sex.
- Sporadic. Orgasm is achieved, but not always.
- Nymphatic. A woman feels increased excitement, but does not experience orgasm in any case.
The female body is much more complex than the male. In the world of women, emotions dominate and control their behavior. Most often, the reasons for the lack of orgasm in women lie in a psychological state.
Female psychology and anorgasmia
Inability to open up. The type of women who are used to controlling themselves and their emotions cannot completely relax and trust their partner. An orgasm is an explosion of emotions that their subconscious mind does not allow itself to free, dissolved in feelings and tactile sensations.
Psychological trauma. Violence, guilt, or misconceptions about sex, instilled by parents in childhood, as a shameful act, can deprive a woman of the opportunity to enjoy sex. This may be a conscious or unconscious hostility to men, a fear of contracting a sexually transmitted disease. Any psychological factor can kill a woman's ability to achieve orgasm. Also, the inability to achieve orgasm sometimes manifests itself when the senses are cooled in a pair. Alas, many couples after a certain number of years of marriage begin to feel this cooling, which is very difficult to turn into former ardent feelings. This, in fact, is practically impossible, since it requires tremendous work on oneself and the desire to save the marriage on the part of both partners.
Sexual illiteracy. If a woman’s sexual partner does not sufficiently excite her before a direct act, or she restrains her feelings, this greatly impoverishes the sexual experience. The more literate a woman in the sexual sphere, the more vivid pleasure she can get herself and deliver it to her man. In this case, it is not at all about the number of sexual partners, but about the culture of sex itself.
Physiology and lack of orgasm in women
Dysgamy. One of the most popular situations when the lack of a female orgasm is caused by sexual incompatibility with a partner. For example, an overly large or small penis in a man or ejaculation too fast. It has been proven that women need twice as much time as men to reach orgasm. However, in a frank conversation with a partner, this problem can be eliminated.
Attention! Japanese scientists have found that the higher the intelligence of a person, the more difficult it is for him to relax and surrender to the power of the senses.
Physiological problems. Congenital dryness of the vagina, adhesions, infectious diseases and inflammation of the reproductive system can cause pain during sex, which negates the pleasure. An important role in achieving a peak of pleasure is played by the hormonal background, the state of which is influenced by many factors.
Also, the reasons for the lack of vaginal orgasm in women can be covered in a large distance between the clitoris and the vagina. The first in this case is practically not stimulated by the penis.
Effects
For both women and men, having an orgasm is very important for health. People deprived of sex for a long time suffer from insomnia and poor mood, and stagnation in the pelvic organs negatively affects their activities. Women may also be disturbed by seemingly causeless migraines.
Experts note that the absence of sex itself negatively affects the orgasm - excitement comes slower, and it is more difficult to reach the orgasm.
Anorgasmia in women - how to fix the problem?
Psychology. First, determine the reason for the lack of orgasm. If the problem is a psychological factor, try to figure it out. With the psychological causes of anorgasmia, it is very, very difficult to cope independently with your subconscious. In this case, it is better to contact a sexologist who can find the root of the problem and suggest the correct ways to solve it. However, remember that a person can do absolutely everything if he really wants it, and no matter how difficult and obsolete your psychological unit is - your will is still stronger.
Currently, in the West, an appeal to a sexologist no longer seems exotic. But couples who did not have experience with this specialist can be nervous, embarrassed, which as a result negatively affects the results of sexual therapy.
Anatomical features. When lack of orgasm is associated with anatomical features, try experimenting. Most often, a similar problem is eliminated by a change in posture, which will allow you to more strongly influence the point G. Examine your own body and you will find a solution. You may need to enhance sexual stimulation by having a deeper effect on the clitoris.
Exercise and orgasm. Exercise is widely recommended. First of all, of course, the Kegel exercise, which allows you to train the muscles of the vagina and increase blood flow to the pelvic organs. As a result, brighter sensations are provided not only to you, but also to your partner. Learning to do these exercises is very simple - the main thing here is to do regular training.
In addition, people who widely practice female spiritual practices recommend trying the Reflex Orgasm complex, which many women practice. It is physically difficult enough, since each exercise is performed for 10-15 minutes. Therefore, without preliminary physical preparation to make the complex is almost impossible. However, the "orgasm reflex" effectively releases sexual energy. Girls who have tried it, speak about this technique more than positively. You can see examples of exercises with Larisa Renard.
What treatment methods do specialists use?
Drug treatment. In the presence of gynecological problems, which entail a lack of orgasm, treatment should mainly be medication. And only after eliminating the disease, you can focus on getting an orgasm. Correct your hormonal background, eliminate the factors that make it fluctuate, cure inflammatory diseases, if any.
Also, doctors sometimes prescribe drugs that affect the psyche - sedatives, antidepressants, if necessary.
Procedures. Doctors sometimes advise using methods such as electrical stimulation, hydrotherapy, vibration massage. These procedures are appointed individually by specialists.
Treatment of anorgasmia in men
Anorgasmia is very rare in men. But when they encounter a similar problem, it is usually much more difficult for them to decide to go to a doctor than women who are more flexible in this regard. Shame should not prevent you from enjoying sex, because anorgasmia is fraught with serious complications, including oncology, not to mention the fact that the lack of orgasm in a man leads to a deterioration in relations with a partner or spouse.
Remember! Do not “treat” anorgasmia with drugs that artificially increase potency, since this will not fix the problem - you will only temporarily forget about it.
If there is a psychological trauma, an appeal to a psychotherapist or sexologist is necessary. Perhaps, liberating trainings, hypnosis, family consultations will help. And, of course, it is very important to find the problem that led to secondary type anorgasmia. First of all, you should probably relax, take a break from work, relieve stress and finally enjoy real, quality sex. But the lack of orgasm in men is far from always caused by overwork.
Physiotherapy. Men are prescribed methods such as acupuncture, manual therapy, electrical stimulation, vibration massage, hydrotherapy. There are a number of drugs that can help with this disease by acting on the brain.
Conclusion
Anorgasmia is a serious enough problem that should not be ignored. Study your body and do not forget about its needs. Only when you will be in peace and harmony with yourself will you be truly happy.