Compliments to a friend are not the same as what a man or work colleague says. It often happens that even the most sincere intention to say something pleasant when pronounced aloud sounds like a mockery or resembles rude flattery.
To prevent this from happening, before you begin to compliment your girlfriend, you need to understand how they can be and when appropriate.
What are they like?
Compliments can be delivered independently, separately from the conversation, or be an integral part of the conversation.
Independent are poetic or prosaic texts containing a listing of those qualities of a woman that cause admiration. As a rule, they don’t say such compliments to a friend aloud, but write on postcards on any special day, for example, on the anniversary of friendship. Although, of course, there are no restrictions in order to simply pronounce such a text, this should be done in connection with a special occasion. Independent poetic or prosaic compliments do not apply to those that should be used in communication constantly to people connected only by friendship.
The second category of compliments are those that can and should be said every day. At its core, it is praise for something - a dress, shoes, working ability, hair color, and so on. In turn, the pleasant words that you can always say are also divided into separate groups.
What are everyday compliments?
There are not many pleasant words. However, if they are out of place, then the compliment will look like flattery. That is, instead of evoking positive emotions in a friend and realizing how pleasant communication is, the opposite result will be achieved.
All everyday pleasant phrases fall into one of the categories:
- veiled or indirect;
- designed to make laugh;
- sliding or devoid of emotions;
- supporting;
- built on the opposition;
- direct;
- interrogative.
Each type of compliment has a place in the conversation, only then will it become an organic component of communication, and will not take the form of repulsive flattery.
Indirect
This type of pleasant phrases is not taken as a compliment, but can significantly increase a woman’s self-esteem.
An example of such a phrase: “You know, but with you everything is so easily and quickly done. I thought I was doing this all day and still didn’t have time. Thank you, (name), huge. "
At the same time, it is not very important what the friend helped with - with shopping, cleaning, baking a cake or something else.
Funny
Such compliments a friend needs to say only if her sense of humor is familiar, otherwise a person can simply be offended.
Example phrase: “Eat my gold, eat. I was just watching the plot that the sidewalks would be expanded in the city. Do you want another eclair? ”
Compliments of this type are not only a reason for laughing at oneself or a situation, but also motivators.
Moving
Such phrases are pronounced casually between cases, without focus. They can be said to everyone and constantly, even to the most suspicious and touchy women.
An example of a compliment: "And you have cool jeans by the way, you will also need to buy."
Having said the phrase, you should continue the conversation or do what is before it.
Supporting
Such phrases are used when a woman is not sure of something. For example, can’t decide to buy a coat or fur coat. If a thing really looks good and fits a woman’s face, then you need to support her.
An example of support words: “And what do you think? Watch how it sits, as if sewn on you. In addition, here I am sorry for being blunt, but in this (name of the thing) you look ten years younger. I want this too. ”
However, if in fact the thing does not fit, you should not say this.
What to say in an independent compliment?
Such pleasant words are confined to personal dates, for example, to the anniversary of friendship.
This may look like a compliment to a friend in verse:
"My golden girlfriend,
You, like the sun, warm in the morning.
For me you are a big mug
Which has no bottom visible.
You know how to cry with me
To be silent, sometimes to fool around.
You and I are like a paw and a bast shoe.
Nobody can divide us. ”
And so you can say compliments to a friend in prose: “(Name), you are the best person on Earth. Only you can tell everything that is uncomfortable to think about. You are my dear. ”
"Hello dear. How beautiful you are today - you cannot take your eyes off. And I even know why. Because you and I have been friends for a number of years. ”
You need to give compliments, but it is important that the words are honest and sincere, only then the compliment will be pleasant.