Making a compliment seems like an incredibly easy task. But people get a hundred nice words from their friends, colleagues and acquaintances. And if you really like a person, I want your compliment to impress and be remembered for a long time. Today we’ll talk about how to stand out from the crowd of fans and fans just by saying a few nice words to the person.
Why do you need compliments?
Before you find out what to say to the person you like, you need to understand why, in general, please the person you are talking with cute words. People are all selfish. You may not have noticed, but in any conversation a person talks about himself. He can share worldly wisdom, tell amusing cases from his own practice or boast of something. Of course, talk about politics, books and films is widespread among people. But even in them “I think”, “I think”, “in my opinion” quite often slips. Therefore, to compliment a person is one of the ways to draw his attention to the fact that he is not indifferent to you. Yes, of course, pleasant words do not oblige to anything and, in general, carry a small semantic load. But the fact that you are not talking about yourself, but about him, will be postponed in the human mind. In psychology, this is called "directing the beam of the spotlight." And the easiest way to talk about your opponent is to say a few nice words to him.
The best way to give a compliment
We all know that a spoon is good for dinner. Therefore, you need to make a compliment on time. If you tell the girl that she had such a wonderful hairstyle last night, she will not take it in a positive way. Most likely, she will think that today she has a crow's nest on her head, and you are so subtly trying to hint about it.
Therefore, it is necessary not only to select words correctly, but also the moment of their presentation. It is advisable to talk about the present. One can say about the past only if it is somehow interwoven with the present day. For example, your interlocutor advised you to read a book a week ago. And yesterday you read it. Today it will be appropriate to say what kind of person has a good taste for literary works. It should be guided by the rule "never put off until tomorrow what can be done today."
Gestures and facial expressions are even more important. Each of us has heard at least something about NLP techniques. We know that a person is pleased when they look at him during a conversation. Moreover, the whole pose should show interest. That is, it should not be such that your head looks at the interlocutor, and the body is already deployed in the other direction and one leg is already walking towards the door.
Compliments to the girl
Women of any age are always pleased to hear how beautiful they are. Therefore, do not forget to remind them of this. A compliment is not necessary for clothing. After all, a dress without an owner does not mean anything. Therefore, it is worth telling a woman about how beautiful she looks in the new thing, that this color suits her, and her already graceful figure looks simply divine. If you do not want to focus on clothes, then what kind of compliment can a girl make? You can sing her spiritual qualities, and not her appearance. The hackneyed phrase "you have such beautiful eyes" is no longer relevant. It is worth saying that the girl is sweet, gentle, kind and smart. Such words may be commonplace, but it's very nice to hear them. It will be appropriate to praise the girl’s intellect, but this must be done in a timely manner. For example, when she quotes an excerpt from a classic work.
Compliments to the guy
Some people think that the stronger sex does not need praise. This is not true. How can I compliment a guy? It is possible to mention its attractiveness, but usually men already consider themselves irresistible. Therefore, such words for them will be taken for granted. It is better to focus on his gallantry and manners. Yes, it may
be banal to thank a person for helping you put on a coat or opening a door for you, but not all men do it. This can be emphasized. After all, your friend is one of the few who truly appreciate the female gender.
How to compliment a guy without focusing on his manners or appearance? You can pay attention to his achievements. All people enjoy being praised. And especially it is nice to guys. Indeed, in order to succeed in life, you need to go through a thorny path. And at the end of this path you should expect well-deserved praises and rewards.
Compliments to the older generation
At any age, I want to hear nice words. So how can you compliment, for example, your parents? Well, of course, they will be pleased to hear that their concern for you means a lot. Indeed, in most cases, parents spent their whole lives on raising children as good people. And at the end of their life, sitting in an armchair and drinking strong tea, they want to hear that all their efforts were not in vain.
If an elderly person is not included in the circle of people close to you, then you can make a compliment about their children. After all, all parents want to know that their merits are noticed by others. And children are the main project in the life of every person. Speaking about achievements, we can say that you can concentrate on them. People like to hear that their work benefits someone.
A compliment to the photo
In the digital age, it has become fashionable to share the best moments of one’s life with one another. These frames can be viewed on the social pages: VKontakte, Facebook or Instagram. People spread them for a reason. The purpose of such actions is to assert oneself at the expense of others, and to share with the world a piece of your life. Making a nice compliment to a girl or guy in a comment is pretty simple. One has only to think how to stand out from the crowd of people who write: beauty, cutie and charming. It’s nice to read such platitudes, but a conversation after such a modest compliment will not start. It’s better to write something like: “In this photo you have a gesture of a confident person who can achieve everything in this life” or “With a tan, your magnificent figure is as if cast from bronze by the hand of a great master.” These phrases are non-banal, at least it can be seen in them that a person spent his time pondering and writing a comment.
How to respond to a compliment?
In our country, people are not used to saying nice words to each other. And as a result, when a girl is given a compliment about her beauty, she most likely will not react in any way. But a person who decided to say nice words will be offended, and next time he will think twice about saying them again. Do not play on the feelings of people. You need to learn how to respond to compliments. Even a banal phrase about beautiful eyes should at least smile. And if a person cleverly screwed a phrase about your high level of intelligence into a conversation, you should not leave this without attention. It is advisable to thank the speaker. Thus, you will show the interlocutor that you listen to him carefully and do not miss a single trifle. And remember, if a person gives you compliments, then most likely you liked him. And if you like him too, then thanks to the response you can start a conversation, during which there will be an opportunity to get to know each other better.
If a dear person, for example, a wife, gives you a compliment, you should also not leave words unattended. After all, even after 10 years of marriage, romance does not die. And it is thanks to the sweet phrases and the periodic encouragement of actions and decisions in many marriages that love lives forever.
How to behave to receive compliments?
To get positive feedback from others, it’s not enough to buy a new dress every week. After all, as you know, the clothes only meet. Therefore, if you want to receive compliments all the time, you will have to monitor not only your wardrobe and figure, but also your intellectual development. Girls and boys should be interesting interlocutors so that people can quickly find a topic for conversation with them. For this purpose, it is advisable to spend your leisure time not by the TV, but by reading books. It is advisable to develop a broad horizons. This is quite possible today, if instead of the standard comedy series at breakfast, you watch a program about technical breakthroughs or about new products on the pharmaceutical market. Such interesting facts can then be shared with friends and relatives.
What is not worth saying?
Sometimes people give such compliments that they want to close their ears and leave for another room. It is worth remembering that it is not always necessary to be original. If you do not know what to say, it is better to remain silent, so you will appear smarter and not fall into an absurd situation.
How to compliment? You need to say nice words, focusing on the act or certain features of the exterior. Phrases such as: "you are done," "you are smart," are not specific. It will be difficult for a person to understand why you praise him. If you want to use this design, add it: "you are well done that you so quickly fulfilled my request."
If you want to compliment your loved one in a crowded place, do not call him the sun or cat. It is better to turn to a person by name, and leave tenderness for a personal conversation. Do not mention the details of your personal life as a public compliment. It will not be pleasant to everyone.