Nature arranged people so that usually a man and a woman are drawn to each other. Many people openly or secretly dream of a large and happy family. But not everyone is ready to put up with this state of affairs. This is what will be discussed in this article.
Definition
First you need to decide on the name. Translated from Greek (not from Latin), androphobia is translated as hatred, aversion of women to marriage or men in general (andros - man, phobein - to be afraid). This is a psychological deviation expressed in fear of a male. This problem is often characterized by similar symptoms and causes of the appearance of many women. Leaving such a situation without intervention would be wrong from a humane point of view, because everyone is worthy of happiness and love. Androphobia is a barrier to the happiness of any heterosexual woman, and indeed just any person trying to arrange his social life. This psychological disorder must be treated if the patient is determined to find a full life.
Persons a priori avoiding the male company may seem unusual to others. But the fact is that there is a problem, and it is necessary to combat it with psychotherapeutic methods.
As studies in this area show, the greatest role in the rejection of men is played by the negative experience of past relationships.
Androphobia is hatred and fear of men, with whom close and open relationships can be created. Treason, betrayal, deceit and other negative experiences in relations with the former lead to the complete exclusion of women from men. Androphobia in women is manifested in the fact that they are ready to brand all other representatives of the male sex with the qualities that they had to face with their former lovers. This transfer of negative experience to other people does not allow girls and women to rebuild their personal lives.
Androphobia is when a woman endows all men with qualities such as hunting instinct, sports excitement, deceit, cunning. Such a negative impression of the masculine gender can be created in a collision with a partner who causes serious mental pain. The experience gained is instantly fixed in the biography of all men - there is no longer any relationship.
Like any fear, the fear of men - androphobia - defies any logic and rational judgment. The basis of this fear lies in misconceptions about men associated with omnipotence, selfishness, and inattention to people around.
Such causes of androphobia, however, do not apply to homosexuals and children.
Androphobia and feminism
Some mistakenly accept androphobia for feminism. There may be a corresponding assumption that sometimes some women with androphobia join the environment of feminists. Such a decision is made with the expectation of a total exclusion of males from their lives.
Androphobia is fear?
Let us first understand what fear is. Often fears are fictions that were invented by people. People are afraid of those things about which they have not the slightest idea, sometimes the fear is so strong that it replaces the real with the fictional and gives it at face value.
Truth is far from a frequent guest of imposed fear. At its core, truth cannot be scary. Everything that happens in a person’s life is events to which he himself draws some kind of evaluation, quality, and so on. Yes, the truth can be uncomfortable for each person individually. But that is precisely its essence. To manage his life, a person needs to properly adapt to the truth, and then he will no longer have to suffer from his own illusions. There are only facts and attitudes towards them.
In turn, the rationalization of one’s life can lead to the flow in the right direction. That is why it is so important to establish the symptoms and causes of androphobia, which, fortunately, can be eliminated with the help of an experienced psychotherapist (the psychologist will not help here).
Illusory past or present?
Androphobia is a woman’s strong illusion regarding males. The fact is that she is afraid of things that absolutely do not threaten her. The fear lies in the future actions of men, which, as the woman suggests, they can commit against her.
Reasons for fear of men
What makes a woman afraid of the opposite sex? The reasons are purely psychological in nature. These include the following:
- unpleasant childhood memories when a father or brother used physical or psychological violence;
- parental divorce - offended mothers are far from flattering about the male gender, which leaves a special imprint on the psyche of the child;
- strict Puritan upbringing - women are charged with modesty in dealing with men and the whole Talmud of rules, as well as they are shown their “inappropriate” position, infringed on their rights in comparison with permissiveness permissible for the male sex;
- negative sexual experience - adultery, rape, and so on (the emotions that a woman experienced during these situations are very important here - they put a stamp on all further attempts to establish a sexual life; a woman may wish with all her heart to get closer to the opposite sex, but she is inexplicable fear );
- excessive anxiety - if a woman suffers from social phobia (fear of people), and is also fond of watching movies or programs, where the main emphasis is on violence and cruelty on the part of men, constant disturbing thoughts attract women of those same "villains" that can reinforce her suspicions and increase fear.
Androphobia today
As many psychologists note, a fairly large number of modern women tend to avoid serious relationships. This is due to fear of deprivation of liberty, to receive the role of "subordinate man." But they forget that the outdated model of relations between husband and wife has long undergone multiple modifications. However, things are still there. Independent, independent women are afraid to fall into the trap of a skilled boyfriend and complicate their well-defined life.
The negative experience of first falling in love sometimes takes precedence over rational judgments and does not allow a girl to enter into a new relationship. Indeed, young guys are selfish and easily injure the tender feelings of girls who are ready to do anything for their sake. Just do not forget that the guys themselves can have such an experience, everything here is purely individual. The main thing in such situations is an understanding of the fact that a single case is not an indicator for the whole society. Some are rude in pain, while others become self-contained and stop making any contact with men.
The phenomenon of feminism, which had a positive underlying motive at the beginning, turned into a movement of man-haters, who willingly spread negative information by talking / thinking about what kind of villains all males are. Moreover, such statements may not have any solid foundation at all, but the main thing for them here is not the establishment of the truth, but the desire to confirm their innocence and omit the male sex. Thus, they try to assert themselves by humiliating someone on the basis of birth, not noticing that they are putting themselves to be a laughing stock. Such an approach will not allow them to gain proper confidence - they only accumulate a clot of negative information in themselves, leading to nowhere or to the gates of a makeshift hell.
Be that as it may, the causes of androphobia lie precisely in the past of women. If she evades meetings, is afraid of them, and so on, this is the first sign of a psychological illness.
Ah, if my dream came true ...
Often, a woman may want too much from a potential groom, which can lead to a collapse of hopes. After facing real circumstances, a disappointed lady may stop wanting any relationship at all. Therefore, entering a rut of new relationships, it is better to stop projecting your thoughts and expectations onto another person altogether. At times, we are even incapable of figuring ourselves out where "the alien darkness" is already there.
Symptoms of fear of men (identification of possible stages)
Androphobia is a disease that can remain undetected for a long time if a woman stubbornly denies her problems. Self-deception is also not an option in this situation. Sometimes an honest recognition of the problem is already the path to recovery.
Irrational fear - this is what indicates the presence of this disorder in a woman. If she is afraid of contact and bonding with worthy men, she can most likely be diagnosed with androphobia.
Other symptoms of a psychological nature:
- fear of a large congestion of men;
- negative associations;
- idealization of men;
- tendency to violent feminism;
- paralyzing fear of touch or sexual contact.
Physiological signs:
- hand tremor;
- sweating above normal;
- hyperemia of the face;
- vomiting
- urge to urinate or defecate;
- panic;
- the use of harmful substances to drown out inner experiences.
Disposal methods
Treatment of androphobia occurs exclusively individually and under the supervision of a good specialist. Typically, the course is designed to conduct psychotherapeutic work, which is designed to eliminate the internal causes of fear. If a woman has increased nervousness during the test for androphobia, she is prescribed sedative drugs.
The therapist's task is to change the woman’s attitude to the opposite sex. As a result, she should receive positive emotions at the sight of a stronger sex.
In some cases, an experienced psychotherapist may resort to the use of hypnosis - he is able to change subconscious negative affirmations into positive ones.
The method of auto-suggestion is also very successful. Nobody canceled the law of attraction: what you think, then attract.
Conclusion
Thus, the work of getting rid of false fear is far from the last thing in the life of modern life. Otherwise, she will have to face either loneliness or an undesirable outcome of events. But no one wants to stay with nothing, in the end , right?