Almost every woman is pleased when they give her flowers and gifts. And here her age and social status does not matter, whether she is a meek housewife or even an independent and strong-willed business woman. It is always customary to talk about her as a representative of the fairer sex, and to perceive presents as signs of attention and recognition of her femininity and beauty, even if only spiritual.
However, it is not uncommon that a man who until recently could not have come without a gift, forgets to congratulate his beloved even on days of great celebrations. As for husbands, they even become extremely “forgetful” in regards to the congratulations of their wife, but they will not miss a friend’s birthday by buying, for example, an expensive fishing rod. What happens, why a man does not give gifts, forgets about the holidays of the second half? It’s worth sorting out.
When did the bouquet and candy period end?
The peak of gift giving falls on the so-called bouquet-candy period, that is, the courtship period, leading to the engagement of a newly formed young couple. Beloved almost daily brings and gives sweets, funny soft toys, various pleasant souvenirs. Although there are more expensive gifts: joint trips, gold and silver rings and other jewelry, beautiful clothes, handbags. But at this time, most of the fair sex do not pay attention to their cost.
A woman literally bathes in men's attention and care, and she does not even have a question why a man should give gifts. He just has to, because he loves, because he is a man, and she is his chosen one. Joyful intoxication with love continues for all different periods. There are also such lucky ones to whom husbands, friends, loved ones are ready to give not only their adoration, but also attention, even if expressed in inexpensive pleasant little things.
But not everyone is so lucky. For some girls, even the courtship period does not bring the joy of receiving any pleasant surprises. If this is the case, you need to be prepared for the fact that in future relations with this man, little can change in this regard. And then wonder why a man does not give gifts, it is not worth it, because they were not there before.
We will understand the reasons
To understand the reasons for this behavior of a representative of the opposite sex, it is necessary to analyze the conditions that contribute (or not) to a desire to surprise a beloved woman. There may be several, and each of them has its own sources.
To receive a gift or to withdraw for money?
In some publications devoted to the resolution of this problem, direct text gives recommendations on how to raise a man for money, and not understand why a man does not give gifts to his beloved woman. A rather vulgar wording, more acceptable when it comes to relationships not related to love, romance and feelings based on mutual love and respect. In this approach, there is only one thing: to “pump out” as many gifts as possible from a wealthy fan, using all possible female things for this:
- take the gift for granted without expressing special gratitude;
- demand more and more expensive offerings, arranging long discussions about the importance and necessity of acquiring this particular thing, even if there is already a similar, but cheaper one;
- reproach the fan for his stinginess and greed, for the fact that he does not appreciate her best qualities, if the presented present, in the opinion of the woman, does not reflect the level of her female beauty and sexuality;
- combine the reproaches of the beloved with hugs and tears, continuing to munch on the thing you like.
There are other tricks that will help to pull out of his wallet as much as such a woman wants. It’s not clear how these actions can relate to the desire to understand why a man should give gifts to a woman.
Should it?
Some time ago, the phrase was in fashion that in the family where the girl grows up, a little princess is brought up. Many parents, having understood this phrase verbatim, raised capricious girls who could not do anything, but constantly demanding attention from men. They are fully confident that the chosen one should please his beloved and fill her with gifts. And let him be happy already by the fact that she is next to him.
Such an attitude is possible, and some are happy to accept it, but they become hostages to the vagaries of the beauty and may lose her if the presented gift is not expensive enough and status, according to the girl.
They are not like us
And yet, most women who marry for love do not look like those mercantile beauties for whom only the thickness of the wallet of a fan or husband is important. And everyone expects that her husband will remember her not only on March 8 or on her birthday, but also want to present a surprise just as it was before. These dreams come true not always and not at all. But psychologists say that you should not dramatize the situation. They are convinced that men are not misleaders and soulless "crackers": they simply are not like women. They are different, they think and perceive this world differently.
No matter how bitterly stated, the bulk of them believe that at the end of the bouquet and candy period, the deed was done and there was nothing to play in romance. They are more mundane, they don’t understand why now he, the husband, needs to constantly kiss his wife and tell her how beautiful, smart and gentle she is, because otherwise he would not marry her! And he does not understand the question of his wife about why the man stopped giving gifts. He simply does not see this as necessary, because everything is fine.
And he has an empty pocket
There are more serious and unpleasant reasons why a man does not give flowers and gifts. In fairness, it is worth noting that among them there are really a lot of greedy and too prudent, trembling over every penny and then reproaching his wife for wastefulness. Such people themselves will not buy a wife a gift, and she will not ask to do it.
But in most cases the situation is different. A man may not have enough money for the right present, but he does not have anyone to borrow the right amount from (he should not ask his wife or bride!).
It happens differently. After the wedding, all the money from the husband’s pocket is transferred to the wife’s purse, which gives him insignificant amounts under the report. If a man making money is in such a humiliated position, it is difficult for a woman to count on any gifts at all.
Do you present your man?
A lot of jokes and funny phrases were invented about the attitude of women to receiving and giving gifts, one of which is as follows: “Well, on February 23 we presented socks and shaving foam, now on March 8 we will wait for fur coats and diamonds.” Funny as it may seem, this is the case in many families. For some reason, it is believed that a man does not like gifts. But in vain. He gratefully accepts a present from his beloved woman. True, not a teddy bear and a bouquet of flowers, he is formed, and not even a fashionable jacket, but electric drills of the latest model. What to do: they are pragmatists, but they also love gifts. Therefore, please your men with useful presents, and they will not remain in debt.
Help him make a decision
If a woman decided to find out why a man does not give gifts, she may unexpectedly come up with an amazing answer: he is afraid. Yes, but not the gift itself, but the opportunity to give not what you need or like. If you know that a husband or beloved man suffers from just such a phobia, and you want to get a solid present, psychologists advise you to gently help him:
- periodically talk about the benefits and the urgent need to purchase this thing (about the benefits - required);
- Explain where she saw her and how she got there;
- inform about its cost (the ability to take on credit).
Such a “treatment” will not be left without attention: a man will understand that such a gift will be very useful and appreciated. A woman will receive it, and a strong half will be satisfied that the present has pleased. If a man does not know how to choose and give gifts, you do not need to be shy, but take and teach him. In the end, it will only benefit!
Psychologists advise such training in the form of a game in which both partners for the same amount will have to buy gifts for each other.
To do this, you should go to the supermarket, where there is a large selection of various pleasant things. Having agreed on a time for choosing a presentation, both spouses go to shop windows and counters, and then meet, for example, in a cafe located here. The couple exchanges gifts, thanks each other and explains the priorities of choice.
The main thing is not to forget: to buy from the heart, wishing to bring joy to the partner, and to thank for the gift received from the heart. No need to be afraid to seem ridiculous by offering such an unusual game. Beloved will understand and will be happy to connect to her.
Take gifts right
Often, representatives of our beautiful half of humanity cannot understand why men do not give gifts to loved ones. Women know that they are loved, but surprises are not presented. And they are not aware that they themselves weaned husbands, loved ones, friends to give them gifts.
Remember what a woman often says when she accepts a present:
- Yes, there was no need to worry.
- It wasn’t worth it.
- Oh, why so dear. "
- D is not a gift of happiness. "
Well and so on. And as a result of such propaganda - the absence of these same gifts. Is it a shame? Yes, and who is to blame? Herself!
And I love you very much too
To the question why men do not give gifts to women, one can find the answer in how the gift is received. When a wife or beloved is dissatisfied with the present, its price, if the one who is gifted from the heart thanks the donor, regardless of the value of the gift, realizing that he tried to make her comfortable, the man will want to “distinguish himself” the next time. He will try to please his beloved woman, and the question of why the man does not give gifts will be removed. You will again feel loved and desired!