We are all not perfect and someday we make mistakes for which we have to apologize. Oddly enough, it is this moment in the relationship that turns out to be one of the most difficult for most people on our planet. It is so difficult to find the right words, to explain that in fact you did not want such a development of events and such a result. In addition, shame sometimes interferes with speaking. This is a normal feeling when a person is ashamed of something.
But when this shame prevents us from apologizing for what we have done, it already brings big problems. How to deal with this? And anyway, how do you apologize so that you can be forgiven? People have already come up with enough ways to apologize. So let's look at some of them. It is possible that it is among them that you will find a method that is most suitable for you in order to ask someone to forgive yourself in your own words.
Who are you guilty of?
It is very important. After all, you will not apologize to mom as you would to your own girlfriend. You probably understand the reason. There is no single pattern or rule on how to ask for forgiveness to still receive it. And if there are any methods, then you can’t apply them to any of the people, because the relationship with them and your social roles can be different. This plays a big role.
Get ready and tune yourself
If you already have any “scenario” of how you will ask for forgiveness, then consider it. Drive in your head the “scene” where you are already carrying out this scenario. Think about how your interlocutor might react to your words. Do not think that your method of apology is always perfect, even if you are already 100% sure of it. You always need to be prepared for the worst and keep in your pocket a couple of arguments that can remove the accusations that suddenly fell from the lips of your interlocutor.
Do not go astray
Do not forget that you ask for forgiveness. There is no other way back. So do not stray from it. If you are still accused of something, then it is no use arguing and defending your innocence. Have you not already been convinced that you cannot resolve the conflict in this way? Moreover, if you yourself understand that you really are guilty (since you decided to ask for forgiveness), then why are you still defending your innocence? This will not fix anything, and if so, then why do you rekindle this conflict? Of course, you can explain why you did just that if it again does not entail a continuation of an unforgettable quarrel. Note that this is not an excuse; you are simply explaining your action.
How to apologize to a lovely lady
Yes, yes, it’s about your girlfriend. How to ask forgiveness from a girl?
- It all depends on how much you "messed up". Sometimes you can quickly make up by making eyes like a cat from Shrek, and sometimes ... Sometimes flowers and sweets can help you. Just do not forget that if you are still not going to be forgiven, then these flowers may be with you ... in some places. Remember this and choose roses that will have fewer spikes, or even choose a different kind of flower.
- Always remember that "the best defense is an attack" in the case of a girl will not work. Do not use the phrases "and you ...", "but yourself ..." and others. Otherwise, you will not see forgiveness in this life as your own ears.
- Show with your whole appearance that you feel guilty. If you sit unemotional hemp, then no one will believe you. In this case, the girl decides that you are just waiting for the moment when she will calm down. And if so, then, believe me, she will never calm down.
- To effectively apologize to your girlfriend, remember what else she loves. If she likes the inscriptions under the windows, take chalk and paint, run under the window. If she prefers a more creative apology, then think and reflect in that direction.
- Be prepared for questions: "Why did you do this? Why ?!". Want to know which answer will be most effective in this case? "Because I am a fool! Because I’ve been stupid, forgive me ..." and further on the prepared (thought over in advance) text.
Show your remorse
The first rule on how to apologize correctly is to show with all your appearance that you are aware of your guilt. Do not forget to talk about it to someone you apologize to. Oh yes, if your opponent is a female person, then expect to be asked to explain what you are to blame. Accordingly, for this you need to reflect on your guilt, if you still do not understand anything. If all the same you don’t understand anything and really don’t recognize your guilt, then suppose what your opponent blames you and finally say what he so desires to hear.
What should I say?
To apologize is best in your own words. It’s so much easier, and you’ll look much more believable than going through all the effective phrases from various films that you once watched.
Poetry runs to your aid
Poems rescued a person in any life situation. Thus, one can apologize in verse. True, this method again is suitable only for women. Your girlfriend, mom, sister, aunt and, in extreme cases, your boss may like poems, if, of course, this is a female representative. But if you try to read poems to your father, trying to apologize in this way, few people know what can come of it all. But there is an assumption that your original goals in this case will not be destined to be realized. Write verses or read verses from other poets. But read with feeling, really, with arrangement! This is only if you are a son. With daughters, everything is different. Daughters can write or read forgiveness poems to anyone.
Take a pen, paper and sit down to write a letter ...
A few years ago, letters in our country were more common than today. But you can try to apologize with a letter. Then you have the opportunity to write a text in a calm atmosphere, which means that you can say everything you plan without forgetting anything because of your excitement. This method is perfect for those who find it difficult to apologize. If you want to see a person’s reaction to your apology, then just approach him with a letter in his hands. Then you will have the opportunity to observe how your opponent reads your letter. If, on the contrary, you are afraid of his (or her) reaction, then discreetly throw a letter into a person’s things, but it’s best to make sure that you notice your letter and are going to read it. Otherwise, all your labors may perish meaninglessly.
That's probably all that can be said about how to ask for forgiveness. The main thing is not to stir up a new conflict in the reconciliation process. You have already begun to ask for forgiveness, and if again suddenly for no reason you start to defend your position, then this will not lead to anything. And also speak sincerely, otherwise the person you are asking for forgiveness will understand that all this does not really matter to you. In this case, you will never be able to make peace.
Good luck with your forgiveness!