Relations between two people of the opposite sex can be very diverse: friendly, comradely, collegial, at the level of primary or long-standing acquaintance. But they are all relegated to the background when it comes to the intimate relationship between two people. Love and its attendant moments are directly reflected in the relationship that arises between lovers and changes over time. It is either fueled by their passion for each other, or fades and goes out on the background of the emergence of new objects of sympathy. In view of this, the problem of lack of attention, affection, care and intimacy in the relationship between two people often arises. Moreover, legalized relationships over the years often experience a crisis in bedding due to the appearance of children, new worries, hassle and lack of time for each other. And then the logical question arises: what to do if the husband is not satisfied himself and does not satisfy his spouse?
The essence of the problem
Sexual relations between a man and a woman are a sacrament accessible only to both of them. What husband and wife do in bed at night is their personal, intimate side of life, which does not tolerate other people's interference. But quite often it undergoes serious difficulties that can arise against the background of a wide range of problems, starting with a lack of mutual understanding in relationships and ending with an aversion to each other.
The essence of sexual problems often comes down to the dissatisfaction of one of the parties with their partner. If the husband has ceased to satisfy his wife, this, contrary to the opinion of many, in most cases is not a problem for men. After all, sexuality should come from a woman, the representative of the beautiful half of humanity is given the beauty of a naked body by nature, it is she who is the source of sensual and passionate energy that attracts a strong part of the world's population. And if one day a woman who suddenly returned home opens a dumb scene where the husband satisfies himself - this is not a reason to indignantly accuse him of a kind of infidelity. This is just the same reason to think about what led him to the fact that he does not use the services of his wife, so to speak, but resorts to this kind of “self-service”. After all, such behavior often results from problems of a man with an erection during an intimacy with his wife. One can also argue whether it is a sin of the husband’s inability to satisfy his wife and whether he should be accused of a penchant for masturbation if he could instead find another way out and engage in carnal pleasures with another woman.
Reasons for dissatisfaction with spouses
Each psychologist works according to his own methods, based on the results of many years of practice. But all the specialists in the field of sexology are unanimous in their opinion that the troubles of the intimate life of spouses come from the underlying root cause. By identifying the root of the destabilization of sexual relations, it is possible to quickly and painlessly eliminate the problem itself as a whole, since the underlying causes of male problems in terms of erection can be various background. And they often need to be searched not for the man in his physiology, but for the woman in herself. Indeed, if a wife is not satisfied with her husband, it means that something is stopping him from fulfilling his duty in a quality manner, that means he is not trying to please her, is not trying his best, is not experiencing desire and attraction towards her. The logical conclusion from the current situation: a woman should think about the fact that the problem is in it.
How to bring back former passion
Faced with the described obstacle, each representative of the weak half asks the question: “My husband does not satisfy me - what should I do?” Many are ashamed to turn to a sexologist, although this is a truly reasonable and effective way out of the current state of things. But trying to regain the former passion on your own is an equally effective option if you deal with it closely and bring the matter to an end. The primary task in this matter for any woman in such a situation is to find the cause of temporary male dysfunction. Having found the source of his experiences, obstacles in the intimacy and the premises that impede him, we can develop a further strategy to eliminate the threat looming over the marriage. And if the husband does not satisfy his wife for the reason that lies in the wife herself, such a problem can be easily eradicated, having patience and a stubborn desire to restore her former full sexual life. It all depends on what exactly became the catalyst for male insolvency in sex with his wife.
The external transformation of a woman as a lever of influence on her husband
Very often, the negligent behavior of a wife in relation to him and to herself plays a fatal role in erection instability of a man. It is not surprising that a woman who gave birth to two, three, or even just one child, to some extent loses interest in her spouse, completely switching her attention to the little treasure that appeared in her life. However, she does not fully realize that the long-awaited baby takes away from her a piece of love for her husband - the person who gave her the opportunity to become a mother. Here one cannot condemn or blame a happy woman in childbirth that she is inattentive, since the appearance of a baby is the appearance of a bunch of new troubles and worries that occupy almost all of my free time. But it is worthwhile to understand that such an attitude offends a man, involuntarily offends his pride, because he is deprived of the attention of his wife and left to his own devices. And then: for all these new concerns, a woman ceases to pay due attention to herself, she begins to dress worse, stops taking care of herself to the extent that it seemed possible before, loses the picture that she had before and which attracted her legal spouse. Perhaps you should not be surprised that the husband is getting cold, losing his former zeal to earn praise for his wife, to give her pleasure in sex.
If the husband does not satisfy his wife because of her sexual unattractiveness, she just needs to deal with her appearance and femininity with renewed vigor and new zeal. Renewing your wardrobe and acquiring a new flirty dress, visiting a beautician and restoring your skin to its former freshness and firmness, buying a subscription to a fitness club and trying to restore your prenatal forms is what a woman who wants to return her husband’s passion should do. Such a reincarnation is guaranteed not to go unnoticed and will be appreciated by a satisfied spouse.
Identification of the wife with the husband's sexual idol
Sometimes, the savvy and resourcefulness of a woman who is not indifferent to her man helps to shake the withered relationship. If the husband does not satisfy her to the extent that she would like it, she can try a sexual experiment with the transformation of her appearance into the image of a movie actress or TV star, the femininity of which is admired by her husband. Wearing a miracle woman costume or acquiring a dress like that of his television lover with a sexy neckline or a flirty cut on his leg is an uncomplicated, but rather original way to return a full-fledged erection function to your man.
New sensations in bed
An equally effective method to interest a man who has sexually cooled his wife is to use new positions in the act of so-called adultery. If the husband does not fully satisfy his wife or fulfills his conjugal duty poorly or unwillingly, she should shake him with new sensations. To try new positions in sex, to offer him a new model of sexual intercourse using role-playing games - this is the key to the treasured treasure called “orgasm”, which will inevitably be achieved with the mutual desire to restore the original passion and sexual attraction between spouses. The pledge of any basis of carnal pleasures: if a woman satisfies her husband diligently and selflessly, he will answer her the same. Few men will try to please his wife in bed if she regularly has a “headache”.
A trip to a sex shop
Many ladies, being avid conservatives by nature, do not recognize the newfangled "toys" used for the thrill of sexual activity with their partner. But if a woman wants to satisfy her husband, if she is faced with the problem of his coldness in bed, she obviously will not stand aside from this problem. Today, the industry of sexual comforts is so actively and widely developed that anyone can go to the store with the appropriate attributes and freely acquire the right item for their bedding comforts. Many representatives of the beautiful half are embarrassed by such things and do not know how to satisfy her husband during sexual intimacy using an unconventional method. But those who really need to regain their relationship with their former passion, emotional richness and harmony in bedding should pay special attention to such a store as a sex shop, and to the merchandise that can be purchased in it.
Improving the family background of intimate relationships
In families where the wife satisfies the husband and the husband the wife, not only the basis of sexual relations is at the proper level of understanding. The fact is that the background of sexual intercourse and the intimate atmosphere between spouses in bed can also depend on the general family background with all its everyday and working moments. That is why, in addition to passion and attraction to each other, people should also try to find a compromise in the environment of their permanent habitation, in a family nest with all its troubles and minor marital conflicts.
In a pair where the husband does not satisfy his wife, it is necessary to analyze not only the sexology of their sex life, but also her attitude towards him in all directions. It is necessary to identify all the nuances and draw conclusions about how demanding she is to him, what is the strength of her pressure, how irritable she is in conversations with him. Indeed, it is often the “wife-saw” that does not give a man the opportunity to concentrate during intercourse and subconsciously prevents him from delivering the same treasured pleasure to her. To establish relationships within your couple, stop daily reproaches and complaints, resolve all internal conflicts - this is what a wise woman who wants to return regular quality sex to the intimate life of her marriage should do.
How to beat your lover
If it so happened that the wife is not satisfied with her husband due to the fact that he was carried away by another woman and does not even try to spend her energy on her legal spouse, she needs to immediately make a choice: leave the wrong person or try to save the family. Having chosen the second, the wife should develop a strategic policy of her behavior that will make the man return to her. And one of the priority areas in this regard belongs to the intimacy and sexuality of the spouse. Having understood himself, revealing his shortcomings, comparing himself with his mistress and making certain conclusions for herself, a woman who decides on a rematch should strive for her own improvement, the refraction of her conservative views in terms of intimacy. She should try to make love to her husband again and in fact prove to him that she is no worse than his temporary profursetki.
Another option for the prodigal spouse to return to the family nest is to try to make him jealous. Putting yourself in order, updating your wardrobe, making yourself pretend to be in a good mood and periodically leave somewhere without warning - this behavior scheme will lead a man to suspicions about adultery, and a sense of ownership will prevail over him.
Sexology Literature
Many women think that they all know that they do not need additional help from outside, they do not need advice. It seems to them that no one but themselves has the right to interfere in their intimate relations with her husband. But when it comes to avoiding intimacy with your spouse, you need to drop your prejudices and begin to act decisively. While the husband has not yet left the family, you need to try to earn his attention, try to return to his former attraction and passion for his wife.
In addition to going to a psychologist, literature on sexology can be an excellent option for trying to restore bed life with your husband. Fortunately, today the written industry is developed quite actively, and any necessary information can be subtracted from open sources absolutely unhindered. In books on sexology, you can not only pick up useful novelties in carnal joys, gain new knowledge not only about how to get an orgasm with a husband in a traditional style, but also find out how a husband can satisfy his wife with his hands, fingers, additional paraphernalia without even resorting to the main, so to speak, instrument of the act.
Modern women too often sin on men when they get cold and stop giving them proper pleasure in bed. According to most psychologists regarding sexology, it is from the representative of the weak half of humanity that quality, desire, passion and attraction in sexual intercourse depend. Therefore, before accusing the spouse of physiological insolvency, you first need to pay attention to your appearance, your behavior, your attitude to your husband. Perhaps, it was the wife who somehow became that deterrent that prevents the man from making her a happy, satisfied wife.