The dominant in sex is the partner who is paramount. He leads and dominates. The concept came to us from such a sexual trend as BDSM. A person who needs to dominate him is called submissive in this sexual practice.
What is BDSM?
BDSM is a subculture that belongs to the genus psychosexual. There are erotic authority, games with submission and dominance.
The acronym BDSM stands for:
- bondage and discipline;
- dominance and submission;
- sadism and masochism.
The main principles of BDSM:
- security;
- rationality;
- voluntariness.
This is reflected in the abbreviation SSC, which is in the slang of the flow:
For many, BDSM is associated with pain and humiliation, but this is not always the case. For example, fans of the database (bandage and dominance) love handcuffs and tying with ropes, that is, a complete or partial restriction of the partner's mobility by a dominant in sex.
The category of BDSM also includes role-playing games based on education. For example: a general educates a rookie girl, a strict teacher punishes a student, the dean wants to expel a student.
SM (sadomasochism) is a practice associated with causing pain. SM fans practice the use of hot wax, lashes, electric objects, and other things that cause voluptuous torment.
Psychologists claim that the desire to obey has genetic roots. In ancient times, everyday life was associated with constant dangers. The body of primitive people is used to the constant release of the stress hormone - adrenaline. Times have changed, and those with stronger genetic memory make up for the need through the thrill of sex.
What qualities must dominant in sex have?
Partners can change roles in sexual games. The dominant in sex can be a man, and a subwoofer can be a woman. Then they can change roles. A dominant must possess certain qualities.
You can trust him. Since the submissive fully surrenders to the master, there must be complete trust between the couple.
Confident. The dominant should be highly developed self-esteem. He knows his worth; faith in himself must be unshakable. If, at heart, the dominant is actually weak and does not believe in itself, then over time it will begin to assert itself at the expense of the subwoofer, which is very bad. In this case, the dominant will not allow the development of a partner who submits to him.
Wisdom. A person who tries on a dominant role should be prepared for the fact that he will have to solve not only his problems, but also the subwoofer. Wisdom is the ability to apply knowledge to solve specific problems.
Self control. The dominant must have a strong nervous system. If you do not want to find yourself in a subwoofer role, if you disobey, to see a tantrum with beating utensils and an ingratiating whining, then make sure that your partner has a strong inner core. Even worse, if the gentleman has an unstable psyche, and he “accidentally” breaks you several ribs.
Ability to speak and listen . BDSM practice implies constant communication of partners. The dominant must listen to the subordinate, so as not to miss the stop-words. They are used to stop the gentleman in time if something went wrong.
Male domination
Many men are hunters in their hearts; they subconsciously look at a woman as prey. Just think of how they like to look at girls in heels. Female caviar in heels is tense, and the leg resembles a limb of a horse, roe deer, goat. That is, an animal that you can ride and hunt.
A male dominant in sex is a very common option, but practice it, like any other BDSM option, only if both partners agree. After all, submission to sex is a testament of trust and respect. The partner agrees with male superiority, and thereby she shows her defenselessness. The submassive is completely given into the hands of the dominant. This incredibly turns the upper man on, I want to take the woman powerfully, and then press him to her, warm and fall asleep together.
Female dominant in sex
Domination in sexual relations is not only BDSM practice. Female dominance can be expressed in a more active position, when a lady takes everything into her own hands, and a man plays by her rules.
If you are impressed by this style of behavior, then talk with your partner. Domination is not always hard BDSM with a whip in a leather outfit. The dominant girl in sex can be dressed in lace underwear, and instead of handcuffs, use silk scarves.
BDSM statistics
According to statistics, more than 40% of couples in the world practice BDSM. Moreover, they do it regularly. After all, sexual games using handcuffs or just slapping the priest during sex - this already applies to the practice of BDSM. Causing real physical pain is practiced by no more than 3% of couples. At the same time, 33% of men love when a woman is the dominant sex, 48% of men love to change roles, and only 18% love to be top. Women prefer submission more (75%). Only 25% want to be mistress.