A sadomasochist is a person who has deviant behavior. It differs from the standards that are accepted in society by the majority. When it comes to sadomasochism, it is precisely the sexual deviation of the person that is implied. Next, we consider all the features of this phenomenon.
Deviation
A sadomasochist is a person with a mental disability. The essence of his condition is that a person is satisfied when he hurts a partner or himself. Moreover, suffering can have both physical and moral character. Causes of pain occur during sex with a partner.
A conscious sadomasochist is a person who understands that he enjoys physical or moral pain. Also, sadomasochism may have an unconscious character, in this case everything happens on a subconscious level. Thus, it turns out that a person does not openly show his sexual desires associated with satisfaction through pain. But in fact, it is a pleasure if they occur in his sex life.
Sadism and masochism as a single phenomenon
Deviant behavior is expressed in the fact that a person directs his actions to hurt his partner and put him in the role of a victim. Make another person obey him.
If a person is satisfied that he is hurting his partner, then he is a sadist. And his action is called sadism. What is the difference between a masochist and a sadomasochist? There may also be a reverse situation, this is when a person experiences moral and physical saturation from the fact that he is hurt. Such people are called masochists. Masochism is the receipt of any satisfaction, both moral and physical, from pain. It is worth saying that a person with such disorders can be both a sadist and a masochist at the same time. Such cases are not uncommon. They are found quite often in medical practice.
Role-playing games
It should also be noted that in normal relationships, partners can practice role-playing games in sex. They can use flip flops, biting, and more during them. In the case when such actions are not the main source of satisfaction, they are considered the norm. And the couple can calmly pinch each other further. Sadomasochism refers to having sex when a person cannot enjoy themselves without humiliation and causing physical pain. In an action such as sex, role-playing is a frequent occurrence if there are sadistic or masochistic deviations.
It is worth saying that there are various pathologies of sadomasochism. They differ in the direction of aggression. Namely, there are cases when actions are not aimed at obtaining sexual pleasure. This variant of human behavior refers to another mental disorder.
Pathology
A sadomasochist is a person who has a psychological pathology. It is generally known that the tendency to sadism and masochism are present in some people. This is not an isolated case. However, addictions to sadomasochism do not prevent people from having a normal sex life, having sexual partners and having families.
In addition, it is worth saying that such an option is possible when a couple is created by a sadist and a masochist. If such a meeting has occurred, then this alliance may be ideal, as both partners will be completely satisfied. Thus, they will not at all experience any discomfort in society. Since they get sexual satisfaction from pain.
What could cause the development of such a deviation?
The main reason for the formation of sadomasochistic deviations is that in childhood, aggressive parents suppress the child. Children who grew up in an atmosphere of physical punishment and humiliation of a moral nature, in adulthood, perceive such a behavior as normal. Often there are cases when those guys who were beaten by their parents use physical force on their children. Although in childhood they suffered from such violence against them.
Such educational measures can grow from a child a masochist. This is due to the fact that he will begin to perceive punishment as a way to give pleasure to parents. And in the adult state, for him, this behavior will become the norm. Therefore, parents need to be especially careful about the educational process, in no case do not show aggression towards their children, give them the opportunity to develop in different directions.
Sadism and masochism: negative impact
It is worth paying attention to the fact that both men and women are subject to sadism and masochism. Such a perception of the surrounding reality can extremely negatively affect a person’s life. This may prevent him from having normal partnerships with the opposite sex. As a result of this, it will be difficult for a person to start a family, have children and more.
In addition, it is often the case that sadomasochists begin to abuse such things as alcohol and drugs. Thus, they destroy their lives and cause a lot of trouble to the people around them.
If a person who is prone to sadism cannot cope with his frustration, then there is a chance that he will commit sexual violence or even murder. Under the guise of an educational process, a sadist can punish his children. Although in fact he receives satisfaction from the actions he performs.
What does a sadomasochist mean? How is he manifested?
There are a number of behavioral manners that betray this personality. If you pay attention to them, we can conclude that this or that guy is a sadomasochist.
Before revealing behavioral characteristics, a few words should be said about what character traits this type of personality has. Namely, sadomasochism is considered a person who combines the qualities of both a sadist and a masochist.
Sadism refers to the fact that a person wants to experience constant power over his partner. Moreover, it should be both moral and physical in nature. In order to feel satisfaction, a sadist hurts his partner, he wants him to suffer and beg for mercy. A feature of sadists is that they demonstrate their strength not only during sexual intercourse. But also in everyday life. Usually, such people are very selfish and are daffodils, that is, they like themselves.
Masochist. How to identify it?
If we talk about masochism, then this concept is the antonym of sadism. Namely, the masochist receives satisfaction from the fact that he is inflicted with physical suffering. If they humiliate him, hurt him, then he likes such actions. It must be understood that if the actions of a sadist are aimed at causing aggression in their behavior, then the actions of a masochist motivate him to be hurt. That is, he behaves in such a way as to be punished, he makes a provocation in his direction.
Kinds
To understand what the concept of "sadomasochism" means, it is worth saying that sadomasochists are of different types. We will analyze them now:
- Sadomasochists civilized type. This category of people is not at all dangerous to society. Their sadistic and masochistic features are in a chronic form. They may not manifest themselves throughout life, and in a sexual way too.
- Sadomasochists of a psychological nature. A feature of such people is that they constantly humiliate and insult the people around them. It is especially difficult if you have to live with such a person. In fact, this type of person receives satisfaction from what offends another person. Outwardly, he is hiding behind allegedly taking care of others. The fact is that such sadomasochists constantly insult. Therefore, there are cases that they bring loved ones to suicide.
- Sadomasochists household character. This category of deviations is quite common. In this case, a person to obtain sexual satisfaction, starts various quarrels with assault. A distinctive feature is that after such a conflict, the couple has violent sex. This behavior is also considered a deviation from the norm. In the future, partners simply can not have sex without a preliminary quarrel.
- Sadomasochists of a criminal nature. Very dangerous personality type. People of such a warehouse are rapists. They receive satisfaction when their crime is made public, and they are punished. Usually they commit violence after prolonged sexual abstinence.
- Incestual type of sadomasochism. Violence against children and adolescents. Moreover, actions can be applied even to members of your family.
- Sadomasochists who commit violent acts against animals.
- Necrosadomazohisty. This deviation is due to the fact that a person commits violence against a corpse. There are cases of group maniacs. When it comes to a group act of violence, it is usually a sect.
Is it possible to cure sadomasochists and what therapy is needed for this?
There are several ways to treat such mental abnormalities in humans:
- Treatment through drugs. In order to medically rid a person of sadistic and masochistic desires, it is necessary to drown out the state of anxiety and stress in him. For this, the patient is prescribed antidepressant drugs. Also, the specialist’s task is to reduce the level of testosterone that is observed in the patient’s blood. This is achieved by prescribing such antiandrogenic dosage form preparations.
- In addition to prescribing drugs, an important stage of treatment is psychological therapy. Two directions apply here. Namely:
- Cognitive psychotherapy. Its action is to change the person’s internal attitudes, which are aimed at obtaining satisfaction from sex through sadism or masochism.
- Behavioral therapy. Its action is aimed at eliminating the negative habit of behavior. In addition, this method instills in a person the skills to enjoy through ordinary actions without violent shades.
Little conclusion
In the article, we figured out in detail who such a sadist, masochist, and also sadomasochist are. We examined all the features of this phenomenon. We also indicated when treatment for this pathology is required.