The first date is not only an exciting meeting. She is also very important. As a rule, they don’t go on dates with anyone. Usually they go to such a meeting only with the person with whom in the future there can be a serious relationship. So the first date is like preparing the soil before planting the plant.
What do you need to remember?
On the first date, the girl (as well as the guy, in fact) should make a good impression. On how smoothly everything goes, depends on whether there will be a second meeting.
Each girl first thinks: what questions should a man ask? After all, it is interesting to know the interlocutor as a person, and not just discuss certain topics.
Well, the most important thing is to be restrained. A guy should not feel like being interrogated or meeting with an interviewer journalist. The relaxed atmosphere is great for a pleasant conversation. Few people will like it if the girl starts: “Have you been married? What is your ex-wife? Is she older or younger? How long have you been together? Why are you divorced? Why get married? Do you have children?" This is too much for a first date. And the themes of former relations should be avoided altogether.
Tricky questions
Girls are still impatient beings for the most part, they want to find out all the most secret about their interlocutor. But to do everything so that he does not feel it. Well, it’s possible, but you have to turn on imagination and cunning.
Many girls in our time are interested in the material condition of young people. But it’s indecent to ask a man questions about his finances at the first meeting. However, you can approach from the other side. For example, to touch on the topic of leisure. Just ask: “How do you like to spend your free time?” Such questions can also provoke interesting questions to a man: “And where do you like to relax? What places do you go to? ”
You can even start with yourself. For example, like this: “I really like to travel to different countries and cities, study the local culture, get acquainted with the sights. The last time, for example, was in Greece. Do you like trips? Where was the last time you saw what? ” The interlocutor, having heard a little revelation from the side of the girl, will feel that he must also share something. Moreover, upon learning that she could very well afford the journey, he would reject suspicions of self-interest and reveal at least some cards.
Behavior rules
When asking questions to a man, in no case should you be intrusive. It is annoying. In addition, you can not bombard him with questions. Conversation is a dialogue. And it’s important to let it happen. And when a guy tells something, you need to demonstrate interest, even if the topic is not very interesting, at least out of respect. Then it will be possible to tactfully transfer it to another channel.
You can’t interrupt either. It is important to let the interlocutor complete the thought and speak out. And if he asks questions, you need to answer them. Ignoring them, you can simply lose the thread of communication. And when a guy does not want to develop a particular topic, you do not need to force him to do it. Maybe she is unpleasant to him or causes some bad associations.
And of course, you need to filter your speech. You need to express yourself competently, correctly and without jargon. Even if there is such a negative habit. And before asking a man a question, it is better to build it in your thoughts. That there was no such thing: “And this ... well, in short ... how to say it ...” The parasitic words and protracted attempts to say something are not the best characterize the girl.
What you should not be interested in?
In brief, it is worth noting the topic regarding what questions men are strongly advised not to ask. In addition to the former relationship, there is still a mass of "industries", affecting which the girl will not show herself in the best light.
It is necessary to remember some more forbidden topics. These include politics, religion and the family. Discussion of the first two topics can cause a lot of disagreement (if suddenly the interlocutors do not turn out to be like-minded people), and the third is simply too personal.
Do not rush to ask the guy about the availability of a car and an apartment. About what kind of wedding he would like, how many years he plans to get married and whether he wants to have children, one should not be interested either. In the vast majority of cases, these questions scare a man, and it just doesn’t reach the second date.
The topic of sex also does not need to be raised. Asking about the favorite poses of the Kama Sutra, about the last sex, his preferences and skills in this regard, the girl will not show herself in the best light. A man will simply perceive her as an easily accessible person. And to justify the fact that all this was just a banal interest will be meaningless.
Intelligent conversation
Talking about what questions a man can ask, it is worth noting the attention of another topic. She is special because she is intelligent.
Many men, going on a date, are already mentally prepared for the fact that the girl may be interested in his occupation and financial situation. Now is the time. But if she begins to touch on intellectual topics, then he will be surprised at least a little.
You can ask the guy about whom he studied. Why did he choose this particular specialty, that he found in it personally interesting for himself, was it difficult to master it. Then you can ask whether the acquired skills came in handy in his life, whether he got a job in this area. The conversation will be productive if the girl asks about the hobby of a young man, about what he knows how to do, in which direction he continues self-development. In parallel, you can tell about yourself in this vein. As a result of such a meeting, both one and the other of his participant will have an approximate description of the opponent.
Everyday life
This is a great topic for discussion. And it should be used, making up questions for the man before the first date. Interesting topics in fact, but they are often forgotten, but in vain.
You can ask your interlocutor about his daily routine. Is it not interesting to find out how and by what principles a person lives, with what his morning begins? Suddenly you can get some useful advice? If something turned out to be particularly entertaining, then you can focus on this. And when the guy will share, you can insert brief comments, like "I do it too!" or "Oh, you are just like me." Such exclamations are difficult to attribute to "interruption." Often, on the contrary, they make the guy understand that the interlocutor is interested in his story.
By the way, as part of the household topic, you can take an interest in the taste preferences of the opponent. What he likes to eat, which drink he likes the most. And in which case, furtively make a reservation about his skills in cooking the dishes he named. It’s worth asking about your beloved music, and about films. In general, you should not be afraid of everyday topics - you just need to turn them into the most interesting channel. And then the girl will no longer be bothered by the thought of what questions to ask a man at a meeting.
Humor and compliments
That's something, but it definitely will not be superfluous. The date should be positive, so that you can’t do without jokes and compliments, which can be the best way to relieve the atmosphere and cheer you up.
What questions can a man ask so that they cause just such an effect? The original. You could say something like this: “Listen, do you always look so good?” Or say, “What will you spend your million dollars on when you have it?” And when the man protests: “But I won’t have a million dollars,” slyly squint and retort, “I don’t think so.” This will make the man understand that the girl sees in him a promising and self-sufficient person. Representatives of a strong half of humanity like this attention.
Stories
Finally, it is worth saying that a date does not hurt to diversify with something interesting. Stories fit perfectly. Of course, the girl did not need to talk about how she once was at a party, and there she and her friend got so drunk that they started doing crazy things and even got problems with the police. This is an example, of course, not everyone has such stories, which, of course, pleases. Everyone has their own skeleton in the closet, but there is no need to talk about the craziest. But here are some mutual stories with related questions that demonstrate interest in the story, will make the date definitely better.