The sexual revolution gave men and women the freedom to choose sexual partners. This was the impetus for creating same-sex couples. Along with this, new concepts have emerged regarding certain aspects of life and the manner of behavior of people with non-traditional sexual orientation. As a rule, these words are of foreign origin and are not entirely clear to citizens who are far from the “blue” and “pink” topics.
For example, not everyone knows what a cuming-out is. What is its difference from the similar concept of "outing". Meanwhile, in certain circles, this is a frequently used expression that even has its own holiday of the year. But first things first.
What is a cuming out?
This word is borrowed from the English language and translated means "disclosure", "exit from the closet." A man or a woman, openly and, very importantly, voluntarily confessing their non-traditional sexual orientation or in their attitude to the gender minority, commit an act called cuming out. As a rule, this definition is applied to lesbians, gays, bisexual and transgender people (in short, this group of people is called LGBT), who openly admit their sexual preferences or that their body does not correspond to their mental state.
Outing is also a public display of the fact of an unconventional personal life, but by other persons in a violent form, against the will of the homosexual himself. Usually this is done in order to compromise a person, spoil his reputation, career, change people's attitude to him, because in any country there are homophobic sentiments. Even in modern society, not all people are ready to open the doors to their bedroom, but there are those who specially arrange a public come-out to attract attention and gain extra popularity, while being heterosexual personalities. This phenomenon is very common in show business.
Some historical facts
The first time they thought about the main idea of a cuming-out in 1869. This was done by a German lawyer and journalist protecting the rights and interests of minorities, Karl Heinrich Ulrichs. He was of the opinion that if you want to become noticeable, you need to loudly declare yourself through a cuming out. The significance of this act, according to the German, is great, the newly opened homosexual will be able to exert a greater influence on people and enjoy authority.
The first public important person who was not afraid to tell the truth about himself was the American poet Robert Danken. He made a cuming out, and soon he was reduced from the army. After that, in one of the magazines, he stated that minorities were oppressed in the country and throughout the world.
In the middle of the 20th century, the concept of “cuming-out” thanks to the psychologist Evelyn Hooker, who has devoted many of his works to the study of gay communities, ceased to be jargon, moving to the section of scientific terminology.
The Importance of Cuming Out
Moral satisfaction from life occurs only if a person lives in complete harmony not only with himself, but also with society. To achieve this result, you need to have the courage to openly declare your sexual preferences. If a man or woman is really homosexual, they accepted this fact and are confident in their choice, then do not hide it, camouflage heterosexual relationships, even marriage against their will to please society. This negatively affects the mental state of the individual. Only cuming out can help here. The value of the deed will positively affect the state, mood, long-awaited relief will come.
This is in case of understanding from the audience. But, as practice shows, this is not always the case. That is why there is a lot of literature on the topic "what is a cuming out", how and when is it better to commit it. One of the most famous is a manual written by the American organization "Parents, Families, and Friends of Gays and Lesbians."
Recognition process
Cuming outs are complex multi-stage processes. Psychologists advise gradually opening up their sexual orientation to everyone, preferably starting with a close friend or family member with whom they have the most warm, strong, trusting relationship. It often happens that all his colleagues and friends know about a person’s unconventionality, but close relatives do not know. Sometimes it’s easier to tell a stranger than your own.
Some
research papers on cuming out and the general openness of a person to society have shown that the less a person hides from others, the less he has to lie, get nervous, worry.
Confession to parents
One of the most difficult stages of a cuming out is recognition in front of parents. They are not able to receive information correctly, with understanding. Parents are shocked to learn that their child is not like everyone else. They need time and help from a psychologist. Most parents refuse to accept this fact, they can punish children, ignore, drive them out of the house, refuse them. Some for some time try to avoid any talk about a sexual topic, believing that all this is a whim, the costs of age, and if you do not focus on this, then everything will go by itself.
Other parents seriously consider homosexuality a disease, begin to treat their children with the help of reparative therapy. With all these actions, mothers and fathers cause serious harm to the psyche of the child, only by heating up the situation.
2013 - the year of the cuming out
October 11th is considered an official day when everyone remembers what a cuming-out is and also observe public confessions of not only friends, relatives, but also important famous people from the scene. From year to year the number of LGBT politicians, musicians, athletes and actors is growing, which suggests that people are less and less afraid of popular condemnation, and non-traditional choice is becoming the norm. We can safely say that in 2013 we did not stop at just one day of recognition, extending it to all 365.
It is impossible to tell about all the confessions, there are a huge number of them, but here are the most expected and high-profile statements:
- Jodie Foster made her cuming out during her awards ceremony at the Golden Globe.
- American actor Wentworth Miller announced his homosexuality in a letter of refusal to come to Russia, since there are many homophobes.
- The British water jumper Tom Daily shot a video with his confession and posted it on the Internet.
- Canadian actor and singer Victor Garber admitted that he is gay and has been in a relationship with a man for 14 years.
- NBA basketball player Jason Collins, who decided that you need to be honest with everyone.
- Philippine singer Charris.
- Robbie Rogers said he was gay and left football.
- Irish actor Andrew Scott, who ceased to study the Russian language based on V.V. Putin's speeches after he published a homophobic law.
- Professor of Psychiatry Dinesh Bugra.
- Skater Brian Boytano.