Many dictionaries give a cruel and unemotional definition of the word "courtship." It is usually noted that all the exploits that a man performs in the candy-bouquet period, have as their goal not only to get the woman's attention, but to drag her to bed. In addition, the interpretation says that such a process requires the gentleman to please the lady in all her whims.
Theory of Courtship
For several millennia, the rules of conduct during this phase have not changed significantly. The active side has always been a man. His goal was to interest and attract a woman. This distribution of positions is due to the fact that the female is responsible for the offspring, therefore it depends on her choice whether the couple will have healthy and strong children.
The first step has always remained the prerogative of a strong half of humanity. Even today, in the 21st century, only part of Europe and the North American continent have departed from these stereotypes. There, the privilege of first choosing a satellite is granted to the lady.
Nature is the foundation that was laid in the candy-bouquet period. How long it lasts, in theory, depends on the woman. From time immemorial, the male’s goal was to go to mating as soon as possible and look for the next “prey”, while for the opposite sex it was important to make sure that the potential partner is better than all other gentlemen.
Therefore, one should not be offended by men for striving to find more partners. Their natural task is to organize pairing with this object and move on to the next one more quickly. This system was imposed by nature, and primitive people lived by these rules .
Dating is the core of relationships
Over many centuries, society has moved from polygamy to monogamy. Advanced civilizations increasingly turned to the institution of marriage. However, until 1700, marriage was perceived to a greater extent as a business agreement, rather than a logical continuation of love relationships. They walked down the aisle by agreement, and the girl came out from the custody of her father and passed under the tireless guidance of her husband.
The world learned about the candy-bouquet period during the period of women's emancipation. At this time, their rights increased, and the power of parents and life partners gradually decreased. It was then that the dates arose that form the basis of romantic relationships today.
The purpose of such meetings at present is not to make sure that the satellite will be a good party for procreation, and not to find a partner that is profitable in terms of material wealth, but to make sure that young people are suitable for each other.
Laws and Rituals
The candy-bouquet period is a kind of courtship stage, which is laid down by nature in the nature of all sentient beings. The theory of flirting is as old as the history of man.
In addition to natural needs, both parties involved in the relationship must obey certain principles. If in fish the courtship process does not do without the so-called dances, and in insects - without singing, then a person has his own rituals.
One of them is to preen. The next feat, which, apparently, the man is fully prepared only during the courtship, is submission. He demonstrates a woman's readiness to fulfill all her whims. That is why the candy-bouquet period is so sweet for the young ladies and so unbearable for the strong half of humanity. For its part, the lady plays the role of a defenseless and weak creature in order to develop a sense of self-confidence in the boyfriend.
The first month is honey
Usually the courtship phase is divided into several stages. It is worth noting here that the stage of gifts and bouquets in different pairs continues in completely different time periods.
The first step can be described with the word “caution”. Young people look at each other, keep their emotions under control and try to present themselves as profitably as possible.
How long a candy-bouquet period lasts and whether it will be at all depends entirely on this phase. If a gentleman does not consider it necessary to give his girlfriend symbolic gifts and attention, and the young lady is not ready to accept material signs of sympathy, then perhaps their relationship will either break up or be deprived of elementary notes of romance.
If partners are willing to spend time and effort, then their feelings move on to the next stage.
Second phase sweetness
On average, the first segment lasts from a few weeks to a year maximum. Then the lovers live in a state of constant euphoria. A sense of shame is dulled, but affection arises. Candy-bouquet period reaches its peak. Partners are absolutely open, nevertheless remain interesting and new to each other. This stage provides for everything that will cause a smile on the face of a loved one.
Surprises also apply to methods that may help at this time. It is worth noting that this period involves not only one-sided impact. Guys at heart are no less sentimental than girls, so they also want attention, gifts and even sweets.
At this stage, the most romantic dates, the most emotional suggestions and decisions that change life. In addition to love, friendship arises in a couple, which becomes the key to support and trust. Such a phase can last on average from one year to three.
Stress tour
After the top there are difficulties of the candy-bouquet period. As with any phenomenon or activity, passion begins to subside. Life turns into a routine. A man ceases to perform feats in the name of his lady of the heart, since she already belongs to him. The woman, in turn, stops encouraging her partner to continue to subjugate her. Bright romantic adventures, bouquets of flowers and expensive chocolate disappear from life. But as gifts, banal, but such necessary socks, shaving foam, kitchen sets and shower gels are increasingly appearing. Unpleasant changes lead to stress.
The further fate of the relationship depends on how the partners react to such climate change in the pair. If the turn is very sharp, then the likelihood that young people will not part is small. Conversely, lovers who will smoothly move on to another stage will stay together.
Gift art
There are many secrets of how you can continue the candy-bouquet period. Where to start a relationship in which there will be a sea of flowers and gifts, psychology will tell.
First and foremost, you need to teach your partner to understand the essence of presents through the prism of bribe and gratitude. That is, the thing that was handed at the start of a joint journey (on the eve of going to a restaurant, kiss or sex) will be perceived as bribery. And a gift after a successful date plays the role of a symbol that will say that the partner is happy with everything and that he is ready to continue communication, to reach a new level. After all, few will fork out, realizing that there can be no future.
Chain system
Another, no less important rule - you need to learn how to take surprises, no matter how commonplace they may be. Phrases such as “why do I need this” or “it was not worth it to buy this” make the partner feel his own inferiority.
The last law of a long candy-bouquet period is chain theory. You should not wait for the holiday to make your loved one pleasant. Give things and emotions regardless of calendar days. And, most importantly, start the chain mechanism, that is, respond to any gift with a gift.