There is an opinion that a woman should have a secret that men would solve all their lives. This stereotype, most likely, was introduced from the works of literary work, in which the mystery woman was often presented as one of the most striking and colorful characters. Numerous studies and polls show that men do not need this “mystery” at the household level. For they value their companions above all reliability, loyalty and predictability, which is not comparable with the "mystery."
Riddle woman - fiction or real character?
Where did the girls get the idea that they must possess mystery? First, they are sure that it is a magnet for men. The guys, according to their deep conviction, again, it’s not clear where they came from, they hate “simple” young ladies - give them someone “more complicated”.
Secondly, mothers and grandmothers have been imposed on someone since childhood that a mystery woman has more chances for a successful marriage and, as a result, for a successful and prosperous life. Other girls got this attitude from women's magazines and websites, which simply trumpet that a woman must be a rebus, which only a real man can solve.
Such propaganda is based on the theory of the hunting instinct of the stronger sex, which forces them to "run" all the time in search of something new and fresh. And the constant guessing of one girl will discourage him from looking around: why, because there is still so much new and unknown!
What do men really want?
The mystery woman is, of course, good and exotic, but only as a lover or girlfriend who is not taken seriously. It’s unpleasant, but just like that, for the most part, adequate men relate to “mysterious” women. As a wife or companion, they prefer to see balanced, sane, predictable and reliable young ladies. Why? Yes, because the “female riddle” and normal family life are simply incompatible.
An ordinary man needs good food, fresh and clean clothes, well-fed and well-groomed children in the house. And it should always be so, and not so that it is today, but tomorrow, suddenly, at the whim of the wife, this will not happen. Waiting for a stable life from a mysterious woman is a utopia, as these are mutually exclusive phenomena. Therefore, a normal man will marry a girl “understandable” and decent, focused on building a strong family, and not on turning her into a ball of secrets and intrigue.
There must be a mystery in a woman. Why is this stereotype needed?
There is not a single gloss (not important, print or virtual) in which its creators would advise their readers to be simple, accessible and predictable girls. On the contrary, the representatives of the fair sex are imposed the idea that they should be without exception bastards, seductresses, temptresses, insidious and cunning individuals, setting up their nets for catching men. The idea that a real woman should be a "mystery" for the men around her is circulated. Against this background, whole trainings are offered on the topic "How to become a mysterious?"
And all this is based on the fact that a man will be much more interesting with such a woman, and that he will never abandon her. But as we have said, this has nothing to do with reality.
For the words “mystery” and “riddle” on a subconscious level are automatically associated with something fickle, unreliable, one might even say a scam. But nobody wants to live like a powder keg when you don’t know what awaits you at home and what to expect from your spouse. So what’s “not working” is in real life - the one that ordinary people live, and not the one that exists on the pages of glossy magazines.
I'm all so mysterious ...
But still there are enough women who want to become "mysterious." True, often they themselves cannot figure it out: is this desire brought in and imposed from outside, or does it really belong to them? In the end, it doesn’t matter, since they are interested in the question of how to become a mystery woman and whether it is possible to do it at all if by nature you are simple “like doors”.
If you wish, you can become anyone, at least turn from a gray mouse into an aggressive and bright lioness. Another question is how long can you play a role that is unusual for you by nature. When you see these newly-born "mysterious" young ladies, you just want to say: "I do not believe!"
The girls, having read such magazines and their recommendations, try their best to pretend to be fatal women, who with their mysteriousness should completely beat men and keep them close to themselves for almost their whole lives (until they get bored, of course). Having seen the fruits of this reincarnation, many of them stop “making up” Cleopatra and Semiramis, while others remain in this role further, sincerely not understanding why their personal life does not add up.
Woman - mystery, challenge, mystery
The thing is that almost all girls either do not understand the meaning of such a phenomenon as a mystery woman, or, due to imposed stereotypes, interpret it fundamentally incorrectly.
After all, a woman in itself is a mystery of nature. Because each is unique both in terms of external beauty and the structure of its inner world. It can be compared with an unexplored distant planet, an endless and all-consuming cosmos, with a separate Universe in which there is a different system of life, priorities and values. A real woman does not need to specifically become mysterious, because she is already aware of her uniqueness and does not need to prove this with any more contrived tricks.
Mysteriousness or femininity?
A true woman will always be a "mystery" to her man. And this has nothing to do with those fateful and mysterious beauties that glamorous magazines advise to become.
True femininity is the only quality that has always been appreciated and will be appreciated by normal men. Perhaps many girls simply miss her or they think that mystery and mystery are synonymous with femininity.
This is so, and not so at the same time. A real woman has all these properties, another question is how she “presents” them to her man. This is precisely what distinguishes her from those who, striving to be fatal ladies, actually want to find real femininity.