Today, women have become more active and free than they were several decades ago. Sufrazhism, feminism, gender equality - all this pushed society to some changes in the upbringing and consciousness of modern youth. Therefore, it can be considered natural that the question arose: “At the moment, who chooses whom: man, woman, or vice versa?” Let's try to understand this problem.
A bit of history
It's no secret that almost the whole world has lived in patriarchal traditions for a long time. And this happened long before the beginning of the current reckoning, and this is a very, very long time ago. Some kind of genetic information of a person is transmitted from generation to generation with the knowledge that men are always the main thing in everything: they rule the world, act as heads of families, solve problems that can be called global. A woman always went to a man for advice, decided only with him all the important issues, was guided by his opinion and thoughts. Often she did only what the man said. The slightest attempts by the fair sex to change this state of affairs were in every possible way suppressed and punished.
Modern realities
More recently, in the middle of the last century, a new female movement arose. The suffragists decided to give women a little more freedom. Over time, it grew into a more aggressive and radically-minded trend - feminism - the struggle with men for leadership. However, this trend quickly lost its relevance (although the foci of feminism can be observed from time to time now). At the moment, women have decided to act more wisely and begin to achieve not yet dominant positions in the “man-woman” struggle, but to begin with at least equality. They called their offspring gender equality, i.e., gender equality. However, not everything is done as quickly as we would like. Overthrowing the social order (patriarchy), which has existed for many centuries in a row, is quite difficult all over the world; changing the opinion of women themselves is even more difficult. But while in the countries of Europe and America gender equality is much easier and calmer (on both sides), and more and more women occupy dominant positions and even occupy seats in parliament, then the countries of the post-Soviet space are still quite a long way off. Here, such innovations are not too welcome, and society is still closed to such changes (including on the female side).
Simple conclusions
Having glanced a little in history, it is already possible to draw logical conclusions, answering a question about who chooses whom. At the moment, in our country this is still the prerogative of men. Modern girls and women are rarely able to come up first to meet a man, invite a guy they like to a dance or a date. However, there is one thing. If a man must take the first step on his own, a woman can help him somewhat by prompting with his behavior or ambiguous phrases-hints what is required of him. It turns out that the man actually chooses, but he most often chooses what the woman wants. The ability or even the gift to inspire men with their thoughts and desires - probably for this very reason women were burned at the stake in the Middle Ages.
Upbringing traditions
When answering the question: “Who chooses whom?”, It is also important to pay attention to the traditions of upbringing the majority of people living today. Most of the population of our country was born in the Soviet Union and raised in the strict rules of the time. The best qualities of the girl of that time were shyness and hard work. Well, how could a lady think that she herself could choose a man? Even the song says that the girls are standing and waiting on the sidelines ... while thinking about who will be left alone. That is why the older generation is likely to act in accordance with the standards of their upbringing. As for youth, the question is twofold. On the one hand, these same youths were brought up by mothers who still consider the Soviet moral standards normal, bringing them into the life of their child. However, another weapon enters the battle - the media, which dictate how modern girls should do better in order to become successful and achieve much not only in their careers, but also in their personal lives. Various "Bitch Diaries" and other literature tells modern women that they should choose with whom to live and communicate, slightly changing not only the behavior model of the beautiful half of humanity, but also their consciousness. And to tell the truth, it’s not a few, but very specific!
What men’s choice is based on: historical moments
And without having a clear answer to the question: “Who chooses whom: man, woman or woman, man?”, You need to try to make a short list of criteria that guide both sexes in choosing a life partner. What is most important for the stronger sex? How does a man choose his woman?
Nature has laid in the minds of people that men are conquerors and miners, women are guardians of the family hearth and continuers of the clan. It was always important for men to have healthy offspring. It was previously believed that the more magnificent the woman’s form, the better, because this means that she does not go hungry and can easily bear, give birth, feed and raise healthy offspring. At the moment, this criterion no longer works, because today a fat lady, as a rule, does not differ in excellent health, rather, on the contrary: obesity and related sores gradually destroy the body.
The second dignity of women, by the standards of bygone years, can be formulated as follows: says little, works hard. It cannot be said that modern representatives of the stronger sex would refuse this, but such ladies can hardly be found somewhere. But even if our contemporaries always work and often earn very good money, they do not intend to remain silent. And without a twinge of conscience, they express their displeasure with men on various occasions. And also without any reason.
And the woman should have been able to cook well what the man will bring from the hunt. Today, in principle, little has changed, and men, just as before, love to eat deliciously. This can once again be reminded to everyone by a well-known proverb that says that the path to a man’s heart lies through his stomach. That's just women do not always want to spend time at the stove ...
Men's Choice: Modernity
Today a few more selection criteria have been added. So how does a man choose his woman? The first factor is appearance. And if earlier this was not particularly paid attention to, then today beauty and grooming are the guarantee that the desired man will pay attention to the lady. Yes, guys love with their eyes, so a girl should always be attractive. Light makeup, a tastefully selected outfit, a well-groomed body and seductive forms - all this is probably the first criterion today when choosing a life partner for men. It is also important for modern men that a woman be educated, well-read, have a specialty and can earn money on her own, and not hang on their neck. As before, today too often men choose women who look like their mothers. And the girls, respectively, are looking for guys similar to their fathers (or, alternatively, the exact opposite of their parents).
What do women do?
Earlier, we found out that there is no unequivocal answer to the question "who chooses - man or woman". But in most cases, after all, a man takes the first step towards creating a new couple. What does not stop women from finding ways and options to arrange everything so that, acting as the initiator of creating new relationships, they leave the appearance of male choice. So, for example, a huge help in this direction is provided by social networks. Girls can easily be the first to add to friends to guys, like their photos and write comments, thereby showing their interest. The woman’s choice was made, however, it remains to wait until the chosen one decides on the seemingly first steps. There are also situations when a guy is surrounded by several women who are actively fighting for his attention and favor. So who and who chooses in such a situation? It will take a long time to figure this out.
Men selection criteria
And which men do women choose? At all times, ladies preferred excellent earners. Today, little has changed, and for a woman it is important how much a man can provide for his family. A guy should not be offended if a girl is interested in his financial condition or place of work, position and salary, because it is first of all important for her offspring to exist normally.
No less important criterion today (and it used to be) was the appearance of a man. But not so much bright beauty, but the presence of muscles, and therefore - strength. Again, the ladies want to see an educated man nearby. That’s probably all. Of course, there are still many different nuances, criteria for personal choice, which can be equally important for both girls and men.
General conclusions
What can be said about the current situation? Today, everything is so mixed up and merged that it is simply impossible to give a definite answer to the question of choice. A woman can notice a trend: she chooses - they choose her. But over time, the situation may change dramatically. The model of upbringing, and, consequently, of female behavior, is today greatly changed. Often, ladies try on the role of a man, and no one will condemn them in this desire. Women become more powerful and free, while men begin to relax, lose their masculinity and dominant position. To say whether it is good or bad is difficult. These are the realities of our time. Who chooses who they choose? .. To answer this question, one article is not enough. If only because first you need to decide: why choose? Everyone judges to the best of their ideals. One thing is for sure: if a woman decided to conquer a man, she will do it openly or stealthily, leaving the representative of the stronger sex the opportunity to consider herself the main initiator.