Lust is what always attracts the attention of people because it is still under relative prohibition. Although such reasoning is not at all to permit in this respect everything and everyone. But the enemy, if he is, of course, the enemy, must be known in person. Let's start small and consider the phrase “lustful look”. In addition, we will discuss the status of a concept that worries many. Is it bad, good, or at least neutral?
Meaning of the noun “lust”
Let the reader not worry, there will be no difficulties. In search of an answer, we turn to the explanatory dictionary. The adjective is one thing, but you must first understand what is hidden behind the noun. So, lust is "grossly sensual sex drive, voluptuousness."
If you decompose the last word in the definition into components, then lust is a rapture of passion. It is no secret that there are people who love sensual pleasures, and there are those who treat them not only indifferently, but calmly. So, tradition says voluptuousness is condemned by society. Of course, in this respect religion played a significant role. It is worth remembering one thought: the sin is not to be passionate, but to revel in lust.
Perhaps the most famous character of Russian literature in this respect is Fedor Karamazov. Feel what an unpleasant embodiment of lust and voluptuousness? True, today's world is more tolerant of lust. For example, today, with the lust of many, the protagonist of “Lascivious California” Hank Moody is associated.
In general, the 20th century has changed a lot in this regard. Names come up in something similar, but at the same time completely different writers - Charles Bukowski and Henry Miller. Anyone familiar with their work understands.
Lust and love
Why does a male lascivious look cause such a rejection in women? Probably because women share lust and love. The first is something base, and the second is, on the contrary, something sublime. But such a difference is very "artificial" and goes back to the novels of the 19th or even the 18th centuries, the most chaste of them. If you rename “lust” into “passion” (and these are close concepts), it will become obvious that without love there can be no love. A man will not care for and seek that woman who does not cause passionate thoughts, associations and fantasies in him. Although, perhaps this is too rude a look at things.
For example, in the film Legends of Autumn (1994), when the middle brother Tristan asked the younger Samuel about sex and his thoughts about Susanne (the bride of the latter), he said that he had no such thoughts. Probably because no, he was a virgin at that time. Simply put, I really did not imagine what to do with a woman. And Suzanne was not averse to falling into the hands of an experienced man, as further developments showed. And is there really nothing to do with love in an affair with Tristan? But lust, passion? There is something to think about, right? Therefore, the lascivious glances of men are not always bad. Let's discuss some more female fears.
Lust versus love
The notoriety of lust is due not only to religious moralizing about chastity, but also to life practice. It is not so rare that if a woman is looked at with a lascivious look, it means a consumer attitude, lack of serious intentions.
And this is both true and false at the same time. True, because a rare man will refuse an accessible woman, but not true, because a man can look at both an accessible and inaccessible woman with the same lust. How, then, to protect a woman? It is not necessary. Because accessible and inaccessible (decent) girls have completely different attitudes to issues of sex. And as you know, these "pure" types do not occur in reality. Reality is more diverse and more surprising than theories. You can achieve a woman for a long time, but life with her will not work out. Another thing happens: there was no courtship, there was a passionate impulse, and as a result, people lived together all their lives. A person chooses what is best for him at any given moment in his life. The recipe for happiness has not yet been invented.
And not only about men
Of course, it is interesting to look at the photo of the man’s lustful look, but not only the strong, but also the fair sex is sinful in this regard. Yes, when women are young, they are very afraid of lustful male eyes, and even more of their hands and thoughts. But the older a woman becomes, the less she already sees that in her youth she was so terrified. When the perspective changes, such cooling brings on the contrary sadness.
Misalliances happen different
In addition, misalliances are well known when a woman is much older than her husband. It is clear that the balance of power has changed, and now the young man has become the object of desire. To the mutual happiness of the sexes, I must say that there are women and men who still have time to understand in their youth: there is nothing wrong with passion. Moreover, such a tension of feelings can be fleeting in relation to the whole life, therefore one should not think about the sinful side of sexuality and the lascivious glances both thrown by a person and those caught by him.
Procreation is unthinkable without passion
Bulat Okudzhava has a line: "And from the love of the poor son, he will be pale." Here, after all, it is not only about high feelings, but also about passion. Of course, we do not advocate and do not advocate for bacchanalia and their aesthetics, it would be too much. But we also warn that children are not born from a spiritual marriage because the husband and wife do not have sex in it. Therefore, everything is good in moderation. Lust is not so terrible if it is tamed, and exalted love is not so sweet if it is deprived of its fulfillment of conjugal duty.