Frustration ... What is it? This is a state of dissatisfaction arising from the mismatch between the expected and the actual, that is, on the way to the desired goal there is some insurmountable obstacle that leads to a strong experience.
A frustrated person finds a way out of his feelings either through aggression directed at others, or he despairs and closes, blames himself.
The phenomenon was studied by such scientists as Simonov, Maslow, Freud, and many behaviorists. Definitions of needs were given and expectations associated with them were identified. Needs are biological, social, ideal (spiritual). If a person cannot satisfy any need, then a mental stress arises, which leads to frustration. In other words, frustration is an emotional stress.
Effects
Frustration is a trigger mechanism to start a conflict. Destructive behavior is directed at another person or object (such people break everything, break it). A persistent individual who knows how to analyze the situation and control himself will try to use external conditions and his own internal forces to find the best options for getting out of this situation. On the contrary, a person who does not know how to control himself becomes impulsive at the moment of the onset of a frustration situation, loses self-control, gets angry, scandals, insults, can use physical force.
Sometimes a person reacts to the situation by leaving. Aggression is not manifested openly, but is compensated by psychological barriers, such as sublimation (aggression - sports, sex - creativity); fantasy (dreams, dream world); rationalization (intellectual justification of their behavior). In some cases, a person begins to regress, i.e. replaces a difficult, unattainable task with an easier one. Fixation occurs when an individual goes in cycles on an unattained goal, resulting in a complete paralysis of activity (he cannot think of anything else, he cannot do anything).
The main frustration reasons
Interpersonal relationships:
- Relations in the family (domestic problems, money, children).
- Relations at work (discrepancy between the labor spent and the remuneration received leads to dissatisfaction with the bosses, colleagues, etc.).
- Sexual relationships (excitement does not find a way, discharge).
Frustration is a traumatic situation. It causes a certain behavior:
- destruction and aggression;
- apathy;
- prolonged arousal;
- fixed behavior (stereotype);
- regression.
Frustration. Treatment
Frustration is not a disease, and it cannot be cured. In order to understand a situation that entailed dissatisfaction, disappointment, the collapse of hopes, you need to have the ability to introspection. Psychotherapists advise to “roll back” the situation, like a film, and try to imagine all the events in a different way, that is, draw a different picture with a positive ending. This is necessary for an early exit from the state of frustration.
In sexual relations, frustration can lead to neurotic disorders, sleep disturbance, hysteria, sexual dysfunction. If you do not turn to a psychologist or psychotherapist in time, then serious consequences are possible, up to impotence in men and sexual coldness in women. At best, couples break up.
To overcome the state of frustration, it is necessary to develop the stamina, the ability to analyze the situation and accept it as another experience, and not a blow of fate.