As soon as the child begins to realize himself and the surrounding reality, he also understands that the world is not so simple. It’s not always possible to get what and when you want, if you fall, your knee hurts, and mom and dad can be scolded for being wrong. These are all problems that become more and more serious with age. You must admit that what you were experiencing as a teenager seemed frivolous by the age of twenty, and you would have happily exchanged twenty-year-olds with yourself at the age of forty.
Over time, however, it seems that you can cope with any situation. It turns out that the solved problem is any? Yes, but sometimes, being faced with a difficult situation, it is not easy to find a way out. In this post we will tell you how to cope effectively with difficult life circumstances, so that later proudly say: "This problem has been solved!"
What is the problem?
Any situation that makes us feel uncomfortable is called a problem. Not all problems are equal. If you broke your fingernail or torn your pantyhose before an important business meeting, this is a nuisance of one kind, which is quite easy to handle. If life deprives a person of work or shelter over his head, this is a difficulty of a completely different nature. The problem to be solved is any, but in order to avoid confusion, it is customary to divide the problems by type.
Types of problems
Problems can be divided into objective and subjective . Objective are those life circumstances that seriously interfere with the life of an individual. For example, a person loses loved ones, a source of income, gets sick.
Subjective problems are situations that may not be visible or understandable to others, but they pose a threat to the life of an individual, no less than objective. For example, these are quarrels with relatives or relatives, misunderstanding with colleagues, phobias, complexes. Very often, subjective problems are associated with any fears of the individual. In a way, subjective problems are more dangerous for a person than objective ones. After all, you can cheat yourself without real reasons for this.
Another classification of problems: external and internal.
External problems are those that a person connects with the outside world. “Dogs often bite me,” “The boss does not like me, always yells at me and loads me with tasks,” “I have problems communicating with the opposite sex.” These are real problems going to a person from the outside world.
The inner ones are connected with emotional experiences. "I am afraid to communicate with girls," "I fear dogs," "I hate to be alone with my boss, I feel uncomfortable with him." This type of problem is more subjective, it is based on feelings, intuition, perception of the world.
Next, we will tell you how to solve a problem if it arose on your life path, since any problem can be solved, even if you encounter the opposite when meeting with it.
Step one - take it easy
A man does not fall upon his fate more than he can bear. Remember the darkest days of your life when it seemed that you simply would not survive. So what? Time has passed, and you recall the situation, if not with a smile, then in any case, just survived the problem and continue to live. Based on the knowledge that you can survive everything and even feel completely happy in the future, take it for granted that you should not immediately treat the problem as the end of the world.
The problem to be solved is one that you initially relate to simply, and not one that is easy to solve. Do not wind yourself, do not sprinkle ashes on your head and do not cry over what has already happened. Accept what happened, mentally move to the future, where everything is already fine, and then the situation will not seem catastrophic to you.
Don't keep in yourself
Probably, hardly anyone is delighted that he is used as a vest. But for this, you need close and dear people, right? If you have trouble, then it’s not at all embarrassing to go up to a friend or family member and say: “Help solve the problem!”. This is just the case when two heads faster than one will figure out what to do in a difficult situation. In addition, telling an outsider about your problem, you streamline the situation for yourself and look at it more soberly.
Do not bring work home and personal life to work
If you want to be a successful person, organize life competently, it makes sense to distinguish between work and family life. So, if you have quarrels in the family, a break is approaching with a loved one, or you learn about betrayal, it is very difficult to keep calm and be balanced at work. Meanwhile, it will be necessary if you do not want to gain the fame of a hysterical person.
Also true and vice versa. Conflicts with colleagues, problems in relationships with the boss or work is not glued? This is all very unpleasant, but it is wrong to take out your anger and fear on loved ones. Remember that the problem is shared - calmly explain the situation to your dear people. Perhaps, from the outside, your circumstance will not seem complicated or insoluble, and you will not only ease the burden, but also get good advice. Remember that the problem to be solved is any, whatever it is connected with, but it can be solved only if you try to do it.
Not all at once
Some people manage to organize their life very easily, and it seems that problems of such people do not arise at all, and if they arise, somehow they quickly disappear. In fact, it is a mistake to believe that others are doing well, and only I am not lucky. Difficulties arise for everyone, and sometimes they go one after another. But there is one caveat. If you have a black streak of bad luck (and this happens, you can’t get anywhere from this), do not try to resolve all the circumstances at once, in one fell swoop.
People who solve problems easily and quickly do it gradually. It is impossible to cope with an array of difficulties at once, as it is impossible to complete several diverse tasks at the same time. The result of trying to cover everything at once will be that you will not solve a single problem. Decide for yourself what is more serious and urgent, and what can wait, and act in the order of the planned order.
Don't let stress get the better of you
Problems can not leave indifferent even the most seasoned person, and as a result, you may encounter stress. As a result - sleep and appetite disturbances, apathy, unwillingness to do anything at all, loss of interest in life. Stress is a serious nervous disorder that affects not only the psycho-emotional state, but also the physiology of the body. This is fraught with illnesses and a feeling that you feel bad already at the level of the body.
In order to prevent stress from mastering you, develop. It is very difficult to relax when you have a problem or even a few, but if you do not unload, you can be seriously ill. Spend time in the company of loved ones with whom you should not talk about your difficulties. On the contrary, be distracted and imagine that nothing weighs on your life. If you are uncomfortable with the company, you can go to a concert or exhibition, visit the movie premiere, rent a hotel room and spend time in a new comfortable place.
What's next
All the steps described above are a ready-made and working system that solves the problem. Only in this way - at first distancing yourself and reducing importance, looking at the situation from a different angle of decision - you can find a way out of the most difficult situation. Remember that locking yourself in the most difficult moments in life is not an option. Surround yourself with dear and close people with whom you can share and be distracted. A good unloading from painful thoughts will also be an active rest, getting pleasure from works of art, communication.
It will pass
If you all cannot get the problem out of your head, then remember King Solomon’s ring. Imagine how many difficult and complicated situations a king may have! Meanwhile, he was known among the people as a ruler wise and balanced. Perhaps his ring helped him to look at life correctly. On the inside of it was an engraving "It Will Pass . " This is what happens in life - a philosophical view of the frailty and fragility of all things solves many problems.