In the modern world, mature women look simply incredibly attractive. This is facilitated by the cult of a healthy lifestyle, as well as advances in cosmetology and plastic surgery. Every woman dreams of prolonging her youth, therefore she actively uses absolutely all available methods for this. And it bears fruit. Look around how many beautiful and well-groomed mature women are on the street, tired of loneliness and ready to plunge into love. Who can give them this emotion firework? Of course, young men. The relationship between an adult woman and a young guy began to meet more often. Do they have a prospect? And is it worth it to have an affair with a guy if you are already over forty?
Unequal relationships
Traditionally, women had access to relationships with men older than themselves. Until now, Russian society is considered patriarchal and looks at the novels of adult women with young guys very negatively. But since this phenomenon takes place, then you can’t close your eyes to it. We will try to consider it from all sides and find out the prospect of such a relationship.
First of all, we need to decide what age difference can be considered suitable for the definition of "unequal marriage" or "unequal relationship." Psychologists believe that if a lady is three to four years older than her gentleman, then this is not an obstacle to mutual understanding and a successful marriage. But when a young guy and an adult woman have a difference in age from five to fifteen years in favor of the latter, then we can safely talk about unequal marriage.
In a world where a woman is often successful and financially secure, romance novels between partners of different ages are very common. Not always they develop into a serious relationship, filled with sincere feelings and emotions. Usually lovers break up after a couple of months, when the passion fades.
Also in the article we will not discuss situations where a guy is an alpha and exists at the expense of his mature girlfriend, providing him with a certain standard of living. Such unions can last quite a long time, but to call this a relationship no one turns their tongue. Therefore, in the following sections we will talk about true love between a young man and a woman older.
Relations with a young lover in the eyes of society
Most often, ladies are embarrassed to acknowledge their love and publicize relationships. They are afraid of condemnation and censure, because evil tongues instantly hang a couple unflattering labels and begin to predict their future in black colors. The union is particularly exposed to slander, in which it is difficult to determine how much a woman looks like. After all, ladies who have decided on such a relationship, as a rule, look five years younger than their years, dress well and monitor their health. They already cause a lot of gossip, and an affair with a young guy will only add oil to the fire.
Interestingly, an independent and independent woman over the age of forty is always perfectly visible when she falls in love with a man younger than her. It is impossible to hide: it is given out by burning eyes, an elastic gait, a new hairstyle and outfits. A woman immediately forgets about her age and just glows from the inside. What are the advantages of such a relationship for a lady?
Pros of union with a man younger than himself
Many say the female age is short. After all, girls devote most of their lives to the family and try to realize themselves in their careers. And only by the age of forty can they calmly breathe and look around, evaluating the results of their labors. What is the majority of women behind this age? Usually one or two children, a divorce or marriage that does not bring any pleasure, and an established career. It seems that the time is coming to live for yourself and enjoy all that you have managed to earn for all the years lived. It was then that a young guy bursts into the life of a lady. And the woman just loses her head, returning to her reckless youth.
From a young lover, the lady receives the very portion of romance that is already impossible to take from peers. Young guys are usually very kind and tender to their girlfriend, surrounding her with care and love. And for a woman this is a kind of hormone therapy, which gives her a charge of vivacity and youth every morning.
Do not forget about the sexual component of such an alliance. It is known that the peak of female sexuality falls on the period after thirty-five years, and the male - for twenty-five years. Therefore, a pair of "young guy and adult woman" is almost always perfect for each other in bed.
We can say that a lady in love receives a lot of advantages from relationships with her partner. But what attracts him so much in a mature girlfriend?
Older men and ladies
In society, it is generally accepted that guys like young girls, and adult women are not attractive. But in reality, things are a little different. According to surveys of sociologists, most young men have the most pleasant erotic memories associated with girlfriends who were several years older than them.
And this is not surprising, because mature women are very sexy and that is what attract lovers younger than themselves. They look great, know their strengths and weaknesses, have rich sexual experience and are quite liberated. Many young guys tend to learn something from their partner, they like to learn everything new and unusual.
We should not exclude the fact that some guys subconsciously look for the image of their mother in their beloved woman. They need love, care and understanding, which are not received in childhood. But a mature girlfriend can fully give her lover all the attention that he needs.
In addition, in a relationship with a young guy, a woman is not demanding. She does not need flowers, long courtships and trips to the restaurant. Relationships look simple and understandable, it is to such unions that men of any age always gravitate.
Risks of unequal relationships
A young guy and an adult woman can be a very beautiful and harmonious couple, but they cannot avoid problems and difficulties in this union. Naturally, almost the entire share of risk is assumed by the one who is older. Indeed, it is often the lady who decides whether or not to have such a relationship. What pitfalls await this alliance?
First of all, a woman who is capable of having a love affair with a man younger than herself should have remarkable courage, self-confidence and wisdom. After all, you will have to constantly compete with younger people and at the same time feel more attractive. Sooner or later, this psychological stress can cause devastation, which will certainly lead to a cooling of relations in a couple. After all, a woman wants to relax, and not always look like an ideal.
Many ladies make a big mistake trying to seal a love union with a stamp in their passport and having a baby. All this is done in order to keep a young man close by, but as a result, in most cases, leads to a loss of understanding and broken hearts.
Do not forget that in an unequal relationship, a woman should be ready to let her partner go before he begins to move away from her. Of course, history knows examples when love held people together, regardless of age. But more often than not, passion fades and the relationship ends. If a woman is not ready for this, then she can get serious psychological trauma, which will be very difficult to survive.
An affair with a young guy: how to start a relationship
Many women notice interest in their person from men younger than them, but they can’t decide on a romance. At the same time, friendships are often struck between two people, which you would like to translate into something more serious. Friendship or love? How to make a novel work out? Let's try to give some recommendations:
- Be open to opportunities and psychologically tune in love relationships;
- be honest and frank, this is what attracts young men in more mature partners;
- get ready to open a completely new world, which is part of your man, and show him all your charms;
- take care of your appearance, because it raises self-confidence, self-esteem and mood;
- Do not try to emphasize your experience, knowledge and age from the very beginning.
Become an extraordinary discovery for your gentleman, and then the romance will begin without any effort or awkwardness on both sides.
What to expect from a romance with a young guy?
Total. Typically, such a relationship develops very rapidly and is quite bright for both partners. They are completely immersed in each other's world, and this is accompanied by incredible discoveries that give invaluable life experience.
Psychologists say that a woman in union with a younger lover constantly exposes herself to self-torture. She doubts herself, thinks about what they are using, and worries about the impossibility of giving her beloved child. But in parallel, a woman experiences a huge psychological and emotional upsurge, fueled by sexual energy from her young partner. This has a positive effect on the general well-being and health of the lady.
But do not forget that such novels are often fleeting and should be treated as a pleasant and fascinating adventure. Otherwise, the woman runs the risk of "losing face" and staying with a broken heart.
Characteristics of women entering into relationships with a man younger than themselves
Of course, all ages are submissive to love, and unexpected love can flood into any lady. But nevertheless, psychologists clearly distinguish several female characters who are able to have an affair with a young lover:
- Consumers. These ladies are very confident in themselves, they are well off financially and know what they want to receive from life. They are physically attracted to a young body and do not consider this fact something shameful. Such women often change gentlemen who are younger than them in age.
- Tired This category of fair sexes worked a lot in life and began to be gravitated by their freedom to a certain age. Now ladies are eager to get everything that they were deprived of before. And for the role of partner, they choose a young man who can compensate for them with a lack of love and tenderness.
- Notorious. Such women have never been self-confident, and the attention of a young man is very flattering to them. They themselves can not decide to enter into a love relationship with a man younger than themselves, but they obey with pleasure if they are chosen to play the role of girlfriend.
I would like to note that the latter option from the point of view of psychology is the most difficult. After all, the inevitable gap women experience extremely hard, falling into depression with a suicidal bias.
Adult woman and a young guy: relationship psychology
Having decided on an unequal union, you need to remember the difference in the psychology of man and woman. This plays a decisive role in unequal relationships. Even when the real age of the man and woman is the same, psychologically they are at different stages of development.
Girls grow up earlier than young people, they try in their actions to be guided by reason and feelings. They feel the world more subtly and strive for elevated relationships. Guys, on the contrary, up to twenty-seven to thirty years, most of their relationships build, guided by instincts. They are not ready to make decisions and take responsibility for anyone.
Therefore, when a woman is older, in a relationship with a young lover, she always takes the role of "mommy", ready to advise, help and support. She has a lot to close her eyes, be wise and restrain her emotions. Typically, such unions are built in two ways:
- "Mommy" and "sonny." A woman initially takes a leading role in the pair, she makes all decisions and openly emphasizes this. Initially, this suits the young lover, but over time he gains the necessary experience and begins to be weighed down by the control of his girlfriend.
- Wise Counselor. If a woman is smart enough, she will very carefully guide her partner and help him grow psychologically. In this union, he is quite comfortable, because each of the couple will fulfill the gender roles assigned to him.
In general, it can be said that in most cases, a loving relationship with a young man rests on a woman. She is the host and determines how bright this novel will be.
Relationship perspective
Naturally, even the most daring and beautiful mature lady is hard to decide on an affair with a young man. Is it worth it to have an affair with a young guy? How can it end? This is difficult to judge. After all, each specific case is individual and may not fall under established stereotypes. But still there are statistics that are hard to argue with. Therefore, it is precisely on it that we will rely in this section of the article.
Psychologists argue that if the age difference between partners does not exceed seven years, then the relationship may well be successful and develop into a family. This is especially true when a lady meets her beloved at the age of thirty-five. At this time, the woman is still able to give birth to her chosen one's child, and outwardly she can give odds to any young girls.
But when a romance is struck between a lady of about fifty and a young man no older than twenty-twenty-five years old, then the statistics are inexorable - the love affair will be bright and short. You should not count on a long relationship, if your chosen one, of course, is not an gigolo, ready for the sake of monetary gain to continue the novel.
Reasons for breaking the unequal relationship
Experts say that the novels of mature women and young men rarely end in marriage, but can last for years. What usually gives rise to the breakdown of these relations?
Paradoxical as it may seem, a union that lasts several years and looks quite strong and successful can be destroyed due to any problem or discomfort that has arisen. This is the peculiarity of relations of different ages - they instantly fall apart when the youngest of the partners becomes uncomfortable to be together for some reason.
Psychologists argue that unequal relationships, lasting several years, can easily destroy the age of a partner, which is becoming more noticeable. Passion becomes dull, and the man begins to notice that his lady’s hearts appear wrinkles, sagging skin and other age-related changes. In turn, a woman becomes more and more intrusive, feeling that she is losing the attention of her lover. She constantly monitors him, is jealous of her friends and arranges surveillance. Ultimately, this leads to a break.
Also often the reason for the separation is the desire of a woman to get young with the help of clothes. She begins to choose for herself outfits that would rather suit a young girl, and wears them with pleasure. A man becomes embarrassed for his beloved, he tries to minimize joint exits somewhere. Over time, the pair is scheduled to cool, and the union breaks up.
Some useful tips for women
If between friendship or love with a young man you definitely make a choice in favor of passion, feelings and emotions, then our tips will help you make the relationship long and more harmonious.
- Do not buy love and respect with expensive gifts. In one case, you get a gigolo, and in the other you can seriously offend a man who sincerely treats you.
- Take your partner as an equal. No need to put pressure on him from the height of the past years and constantly convince of his innocence. Not all men are looking for a "mommy" in a mature lady.
- Do not stoop to jealousy of young rivals. This degrades your dignity and destroys the harmony in the pair.
- Get ready to constantly compete with other women. You will always have to look young, fit and sexy. Otherwise, the novel is doomed to transience.
Conclusion
No one can predict how exactly your love relationship will unfold. Therefore, if fate has given you a chance to feel young and beloved, use it. After all, a woman at any age deserves admiration and adoration.