Women throughout the history of mankind have fought for their rights. They always proved something to someone, affirmed, declared themselves, spoke out about infringement of their rights. And here it is necessary to put an end. Stop, why to someone? They proved it to men - precisely to those who infringed these rights. Yes, time has passed, now men and women are completely equalized, the latter are in no way limited in their rights. But still, men often try to hurt the weaker sex, touching primarily gender. “Who should wash the dishes? I? Yes, I’m a man! ”,“ Take off these sneakers, you are a woman! ” And also this, the most terrible: "Well, you are BABA." What is it? Why do men humiliate women? Let's try to understand this article.
A family
Psychologists say that children always repeat the fate of their parents. And why? From the point of view of this science, such a phenomenon is explained quite simply. The father of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, said that all problems come from childhood, because the child, being a creature who does not know how to separate what is needed for himself from the unnecessary, accepts what he sees. And who does he see most often? Of course, parents. Especially for a little man they are the only authority. Therefore, no matter what actions they take, the child at the subconscious level will consider them the only true ones, and when a similar situation occurs in adulthood, at the level of world understanding, a person will act in the same way as his parents once acted in it. This also applies to family relationships. "Why do men humiliate women?" - many ask. Perhaps their fathers treated their wives badly.
Example 1
Boy Petya constantly heard his father’s insults to his mother when she did something wrong. I did not have time to cook borscht before the arrival of my husband - a lazy person, I was late at work - an infidel, I bought myself a new dress - an egoist and so on. Peter grew up, got married, got a job, where he was engaged in sociological research. At the last meeting, he was given the task of preparing a study on “Why Men Humiliate Women.” He decided to become the first test subject and wrote on the form: “I believe that humiliating a woman is terrible, but if she does stupid things or strange things, I don’t think it’s bad to offend her.” Thus, we can conclude that insults for Peter are a completely normal and natural thing precisely because his whole childhood is built on this. He does not even consider this act humiliating. This is the norm, part of life.
Low self-esteem
In order to better understand, it is worth delving into the story. Who were the first rulers? Were there women among them? Rurik, Oleg, Igor. Next Olga. Her rule was completely random, strange, unjustified, having a single purpose - retaliation. It is worth noting that after Olga Elena Glinskaya managed to get to state power, but again after 6 centuries and only in the person of the regent under Ivan the Fourth. Then the palace coups, again just an accident. The rest of the time, only men ruled the state. And veche? Remember, only the stronger sex could be present there. This natural desire of men to be always ahead, to be primarily transmitted to them by blood. Therefore, when men understand that they didn’t take something from life, missed something, didn’t achieve something, their self-esteem immediately falls. But one cannot just accept and admit it, one must try to prove the less weak (in this case women are) the opposite. But how to do it? Of course, try to show their superiority by humiliating and insulting a woman. After all, not all males are able to feel this line. This criterion should answer the question of why men humiliate women.
Example 2
Married couple. The husband always earned more than his wife and provided for the whole family, but suddenly the unexpected happened - he lost his job. My wife was not taken aback, she remembered that she was good at baking cakes, took a loan and opened her own business. In just six months, her affairs went uphill, a client base appeared, the loan was repaid, but her husband was dissatisfied. Why? It would seem that there is everything, live and rejoice. But no, he writes negative reviews to her website, orders cakes that he doesn’t pay, scolds her for spending a lot of time at work, not realizing that his wife is the only one who makes money in the family. A man can be understood, he just at the psychological level cannot recognize that his wife is ahead of him. But in this case, when it simply could not have happened otherwise, why does a man humiliate a woman? Psychology of consciousness of any person. The answer is simple.
Fear
As they say, great love can also give rise to certain troubles. And not always Madame Platonic can bring only happiness. But rather, this criterion can be attributed to jealous men. Why does a man humiliate and insult a woman? It is possible that he loves her very much and is afraid to lose her. We all know how susceptible human nature is to the assessment of other people. Therefore, when a man periodically tells his beloved that she is fat, ugly, worthless - she begins to believe in it and consider herself to be such, no matter how beautiful she may be. And indeed, women whose men humiliated them in this way almost never left them. Therefore, this point of view is fully justified.
Example 3
In psychology, this example refers to the Theory of social consciousness. American psychologists conducted an interesting experiment in which every person in the room saw the same monitor screen (there were 50 people). The screen was black. Forty-nine out of fifty people were told that the screen was black, but were asked to say the opposite in the room. So, when all 49 people said that the screen is white, the latter did not doubt it for a second, although with his own eyes he observed the opposite. This example is easy to transfer to gender psychology and understand why a man humiliates and insults a woman (psychology).
Woman behavior
Very often, women themselves become the culprits of such behavior of men. After all, one and the other representatives of the sexes may be different. For example, girls can begin to unjustifiably insult their second half, constantly suspect of cheating, checking social networks, asking friends and mutual acquaintances, resorting to persecution. No man will like it. And not just a man, but any person. Indeed, despite the relationship, there should always be some kind of personal space that cannot be violated . It turns out, in this case, the ladies themselves run into conflicts and abuse, and then they also ask themselves why men are trying to humiliate a woman. But how not to answer the same? Indeed, in almost all areas there is a golden rule of morality, which states that the attitude towards others should be the same as what is desired for oneself. And it does not lose its importance in communication and in relation to its young man.
Conclusion
I would like to note that so many are asking why a man is trying to humiliate a woman, but did all of those who ever wondered about them find a reason in themselves? It seems to be units. Yes, it happens that men just insult their women, but even the latter are not always “God's dandelions”. The main thing is to look for an optimal balance and build relations on full understanding, trust and dialogue, when you can always discuss something together, and if something does not suit you, find a common way out. Perhaps then fewer girls will need this article.