The world is a combination of opposites. We observe a wide variety of tastes, opinions and characters, which, in turn, confuses those who are not ready to face the harsh reality.
The topic of this article is communication with a person who can hardly be called a pleasant conversationalist.
Formulation of the problem
Why do some people, through their actions, lead us to white-hot, although, in principle, their actions are not much different from anyone else's. There is already a "taste" - a pleasant person can do numerous nasty things and at the same time not lose his attractiveness, and another, less pleasant character pisses us off if he simply puts the spoon wrong. All of this and much more can be found rational answers in psychology.
Decipher your feelings
An unpleasant person in psychology is considered a person who reflects our own fears and actions. That is, we are annoyed because of someone because he has qualities that we thoroughly suppress or prevent from developing in ourselves.
Even the closest people fall into the category of so-called “stuffy” people, which leads to numerous disappointments and family dramas.
By projecting repressed qualities onto another person, you are able to increase your own strength. An integrated personality trait helps to build a more complete picture of one’s personality and the personality of an unpleasant “stuffy” person.
Master the power of the enemy
To use the power of the enemy, you need to get used to his role.
First you need to fully imagine a “stuffy” person, describe his habits, behavior aloud or to himself.
Then you need to play this character. To do this, you need to behave exactly like this person (to gesticulate, copy his voice timbre, that is, practically turn into him).
Having felt the field (atmosphere) of a “stuffy” person, you will find the presence and its strength in you. This advantage will allow you to merge with it and create a full-fledged image of this power (it can be a mythical character, animal or plant).
The power received through this projection will help you to "establish" interpersonal relationships with an unpleasant person and redirect your own forces in a different direction.
Finding peace of mind
In order to understand the essence of the problem that bothers you, you can use the following guide.
First, step aside from a person annoying you (reduce communication with him to a minimum or eliminate it altogether).
Secondly, you need to understand the feelings that an annoying person causes you.
Thirdly, you need to throw out of yourself all the emotions that arise in relation to an unpleasant person. Sometimes the feelings shown help the hostility disappear forever.
Fourthly, it is necessary to express on paper all claims against this person.
Fifth, it’s worth realizing exactly what you expect from an unpleasant character and what exactly you would like, but for some reason you cannot do “non grata” with respect to a person.
How to communicate with someone who frankly "infuriates"?
First you need to find impartiality in assessing yourself and an unpleasant person.
The sequence of the following actions will help you with this:
- You need to find a place that will be yours in the room and put any thing there - the personification of you. Then find a place for the enemy and also give him a thing-symbol. And finally, to allocate a place to the sage, who will look at everything impartially.
- You need to feel your deepest hidden essence (it can be anything that fits into the framework of your perception). Transferring your personality to another non-existent place will allow you to look at yourself and your annoying personality.
To normalize relations with an unpleasant person, you need to try to master his strength. Thanks to this exercise, you can build the most high-quality and productive relationships with a person who excites your whole being.
The right actions will come to mind only when you can put yourself in the place of a "stuffy" person.
Go ahead and be happy!