Attention, care, love, care, worries about someone - all these words are close to each other in the actions that people who experience these feelings commit. What is care? Is it a manifestation of love or attention, or is it a separate concept that manifests itself in a special way?
The psychological meaning of the word "care"
This concept is a subject of study not only in psychology, but also in pedagogy, medicine, philological and other sciences. Each branch of scientific knowledge treats this word differently. There are several definitions of the word care. This is attention, care, activity or thought, which is aimed at providing someone or something with well-being. It is clear that these are certain efforts and efforts for the benefit of any object. Some understand concern as anxiety, zeal, or in general something onerous.
How does it manifest?
How care is taken, we learn from a young age. Many are familiar with the picture of a child crying after the fall, whom her mother is trying to calm by all efforts. Mom is ready to carry the baby who is sick, always and always in her arms, giving him the most delicious and healthy, if only he will recover. In prosperous families, mothers are the first example of care and care, combined in one concept - care.
Tender care is shown in the concern of the parents for the children, the wife for the husband and vice versa. This concern is not just in words or in the heart, it is reinforced by specific actions, for example, preparing mother’s favorite or healthy dishes, sheltering his wife on a cold night, shopping for a lonely grandmother by an outsider, and so on.
Taking care of yourself
It is human nature to take care of oneself. This is partly due to nature. We have basic needs that must be met. It may be a need for sleep or food. We cannot forget about them, since the body itself reminds us that it is time to sleep or eat. And we don’t eat sawdust or rotten fruit as food, but look for tasty, nutritious and healthy products. This is an elementary manifestation of self-care. Caring for your health and good lifestyle is only commendable.
But there are cases of excessive concern for yourself and your body. Such concern borders on egoism, egocentrism. It is usually difficult for such people to pay attention to others, as they are completely absorbed in themselves. This behavior adversely affects a person’s communication and his personal dynamics, so sometimes you need to switch to the needs of others. Caring for others brings satisfaction, a feeling of need for someone, gives an internal incentive to the implementation of other good deeds.
Attention and care for your children
All parents are sure that their children are special. For each loving parent, really their own child is the most intelligent, talented and good. Caring for children is a big responsibility for parents. First you need to show love and attention to babies, then to babies, then to teens. At the same time, it is necessary to provide them and constantly solve small or large problems associated with them. Of course, parents get tired of the constant load of problems, but this does not relieve them of responsibility.
While caring for children, they should not forget about the needs of children. There is pseudo-care when mom or dad try to solve some of their problems through the manifestation of excessive care or attention. Sometimes in their desire to provide a child with everything, they forget about his needs for recognition, tactile sensations every day, love and understanding. Tender care for children is a manifestation of attention to the moral, physical, social, psychological and material needs of children. Parents should pay equal attention to all these areas.
Caring for parents
Everything in life is relative: today you are in the spotlight, tomorrow you have already been forgotten; Today you are young and handsome in the care of your parents, tomorrow they need your care. Normal relationships between children and parents involve caring for each other. Caring is actions that help to show your affection and love for family. Parents in
old age especially need the care of their children. They no longer have the same strength as before. They can no longer always move quickly, they don’t have time to do something or because of health reasons they can’t do it. There are diseases that make
it impossible for a
person to take care of themselves. In this case, native people come to the rescue - adult children. Caring for and caring for elderly parents is the responsibility of every sane adult child. If we recall and evaluate all sleepless nights, spent nerves, health and gray hairs of our parents, we will not settle accounts with them until the end of our days. Therefore, once again sharing news with them, wiping the dust off the cabinet, washing the dishes after dinner is not at all something burdensome or shameful.
How do men understand this word?
A man and a woman differ in understanding some actions and words. The same difference is observed in understanding the meaning of care. Most men in the word "care" see the material support of their
women and children. Being realists and pragmatists, they rarely show their concern in words or gentle actions. It is difficult for many men to understand that the material support of children will not replace their time spent together.
Let's do an experiment. Close your eyes and remember the most joyful moments of childhood spent with parents. It is unlikely that it will be 10 eaten servings of ice cream, bought cool sneakers or repairs in the room. Surely the first thing that comes to mind is fun snowball games in the winter, walks in the park or family trips somewhere. In any case, the child remembers the quality of communication with parents, and not its material component. Dad! Do not skimp on caring for the moral state of children and wives, as well as on satisfying their psychological needs.
Caring for women
Women intuitively feel what their children and men need. Caring in the understanding of women is all kinds of actions that make their environment happy. Young mothers wake up with a maternal instinct that helps them to feel their children, their needs, and natural care for the babies arises. A woman can create a paradise around her if she shows sacrificial care for her family. It is because of the different attitudes towards caring between a man and a woman that disagreements can arise. But it is important to remember that this quality can manifest itself from different angles. Therefore, there is nothing wrong with the fact that mom will take more care of the feelings of his child and his physical condition, and dad will buy toys.
Boundaries of care
Oddly enough, real care has its limits. Hyperopeca has never been a healthy parental care for their children or children for their parents. Surround with care should be in moderation, as excessive care relaxes, pampers and destroys the object that it is aimed at. A person should mutually share love, support and care, and not just receive all this unilaterally. In his care, it is necessary to focus on the needs of the person to whom it manifests itself, and not on your ambitions or desires. Then the joy of its manifestation will be on the two sides of good action. The manifestation of tenderness and care is a necessity not only for family members, but also for the environment, because we humans must help each other.