Human phobias and fears are normal. It would seem that representatives of the stronger sex should be spared from them at least partially, but it turns out that they often have more problems than women. So what are men afraid of? What phrases in conversation with them is better for avoiding?
Sex
As a rule, the main fears of men are related to sex.
First, nothing, according to the representative of the stronger sex, can be worse than impotence. Sex is one of the areas of male self-affirmation. Therefore, "getting out of the game" for representatives of the stronger sex of death is similar. Women are much easier to survive some failures associated with sex. The man is afraid not only to lose male viability, but also worries that everyone will know about it.
Secondly, for men it is important to bring a woman to ecstasy in bed, so the phrase: "I pretended to be an orgasm" greatly affects self-esteem.
Representatives of the stronger sex in everything love to be the first, so they like to become the first sexual partners for innocent girls. If they begin a relationship with a lady who already had connections, it is important for men to be more skilled in bed than all their predecessors. Any comparisons with the previous partner cause a flurry of indignation and resentment, because the worst thing is to lose the former to the competition.
Relations
Often a man is afraid to love someone, so as not to become vulnerable to this person. To succumb to manipulation, even from the side of the beloved woman, to depend on her - this seems to them humiliating. Freedom is truly valuable.
However, no matter how paradoxical this may sound, with all his desire for independence, a man is still afraid to be left without a woman. Sooner or later, even an inveterate bachelor will want to return in the evening to a comfortable home, to feel safe there next to a caring girlfriend. Moreover, with age, the demand for beautiful ladies falls even among the most notorious womanizer, and it is during this period of life that you can feel unnecessary, rejected, thrown to the sidelines of life.
Another pronounced phobia is the fear of failure. It doesn’t matter why a man is told no, being rejected and misunderstood is the same as seeing his name on the list of outsiders.
Responsibility
There is an opinion in society that a man is created in order to be responsible for his family, for himself and his actions, etc. But it is precisely the responsibility in the 21st century that the representatives of the stronger sex avoid the most.
What words are men afraid of? The main fears are associated with the following phrases spoken by the partner: “Let me introduce you to your parents”, “I am pregnant”, “Let's get married”, etc. Why is this happening? The answer is simple: after all, such steps oblige a lot.
An unplanned pregnancy or talking about a wedding is a sore subject for any man. The representative of the stronger sex understands that, having acquired a wife and children, he will not be able to lead the same way of life. Instead, you have to provide for your family and protect it. Otherwise, he will face another fear of his own - censure from society.
Reluctance to take on additional responsibility can be associated with heavy loads in other areas of life. If a man gives all his best at work (he is responsible for a large company or company, for example), he may feel that he does not have enough strength to take care of his family, and in the role of husband and father he will not be able to look as brilliant as in the role masters of their craft and professional.
Treason
What are men afraid of like fire? Partnership changes. This fear appears from the very first days of a close relationship with a woman and most often manifests itself in the form of jealousy.
Representatives of the stronger sex often cheat on their chosen ones, but do not think about how they thereby beat their partner in self-esteem. However, the idea of female adultery is simply a storm of emotions.
Firstly, betrayal by the partner suggests that she no longer likes the man, that she neglects him. This is the logic: the psychology of the ladies is such that for intimacy, the new partner should at least be nice, and at the very least be a loved one. Secondly, the betrayal of a beloved woman is a reason for a man to think about something wrong in him. But the representatives of the stronger sex do not like to think about their shortcomings and are not going to change either. Change is another male phobia.
Opinion of mother and friends
Public status, public opinion - this is important for a man. But even more important is the opinion of mother and friends.
A man needs his woman to get along well with his friends. Conflicts between the chosen one and friends, criticism and ridicule from friends - this is unpleasant. A man wants his beloved to be friendly with his surroundings. This will make you proud that next to him is the best girl.
Equally important is the attitude of the mother to everything that her son does. Many men are secretly afraid of disappointing their mother, no matter if it will be an unsuccessful choice of a life partner or something else.
Beautiful women
What are men afraid of besides all of the above? Oddly enough, beautiful women are another phobia of the stronger sex. Even alpha males build relationships with beautiful women carefully. This happens for one simple reason: one wrong step, and a self-confident girl can not only publicly ridicule him, but also refuse at all.
Men are also scared of the popularity that a beautiful woman enjoys among other representatives of the stronger sex. If the competition is too much, it is better not to participate in the race, they think, because what could be worse than losing? When the choice is very large, then the chances of liking slowly disappear.
Moreover, such a woman can leave at any moment, because she will always have a choice or a fallback. The beauty will not be content with the small; she will have to work hard to provide her with the life to which she is accustomed. In a word, a beautiful lady is just a concentration of male fears.
Female competitors
What men really fear is that their chosen one will compete with them. It does not matter in which area this will happen: in family life, in business, in a career.
Men hide behind stories that a smart lady is boring and possibly frigid. Enough, they say, the notorious female wisdom. But in fact, the most common fear is involved here - the fear of loss, failure. And then, when a more successful male overtakes you on a bend - this is one thing, when a fragile lady is something like a blow below the waist.
Very painful is the issue of income. Men are afraid of women who earn more. Next to such a self-sufficient lady, they are lost, because in fact one of the main social roles is taken away from them - the role of the breadwinner.
In addition, the psyche of a man is constantly pressured by the need to compete with his own kind, but if you have to compete with your soulmate, then this becomes only additional stress.
How to deal with male phobias?
How to cope with this flood of fears and phobias? In any case, representatives of both sexes will have to do this together.
What can women do? Relate with understanding to the small fears of their chosen ones, give way in some situations. Women need to know what words men are afraid of, what kind of attacks and what actions on their part they are afraid of, and to avoid this if possible.
“The salvation of drowning people is the work of the drowning themselves,” so no matter how wise a woman is, if a man does not want to work on himself, then he will not get rid of any fears. And no matter how much the fairer sex is either inferior, or kept herself within the permissible limits, he will still find what to cling to. You don’t need to be afraid of many things in this life, you just need to expand your comfort zone, your horizons and leave yourself the right to make a mistake.