For the sake of success in work, business and personal life, sometimes it is not enough to be able to establish contact with other people and resist manipulators. Sometimes you need to be able to go on the offensive.
This interesting and very attractive question for power-hungry people - how to manage people - always worried representatives of different professions: managers, politicians, sectarians, psychotherapists, businessmen. The high need for such knowledge has provided the study of the issue by several sciences: first of all, management and psychology.
And today the question - how to manage people, has several answers. Manipulations make up 90% of all the ways people control considered by mankind . They are effective and simple, because they are based on psychological laws. Each person is subject to feelings: we are sometimes ambitious, and everyone craves recognition, respect. This is where manipulators play - on the basic feelings and needs of a person.
The remaining 10% can rightfully be given to the so-called “energy systems”. According to the adherents of this strange theory (scientifically unfounded): in the world there is a higher mind and, touching it, you can break out of parasitic connections and become the manager of your life, destiny and the people around you. An energy parasite is called by adherents of this theory of those who have learned to connect to the energy of those around them, to eat it for their own good. This ideological theory is not based on scientifically derived and proven patterns of human behavior, unlike manipulation. But it still exists and is so liked by most ignorant people only because it promises a quick result. But, alas, only practice and psychological knowledge can give you what you want.
The ability to manage people is half the success in all areas of human life. It is not surprising that everyone wants to master these methods perfectly.
Hence the new question - how to learn to manage people? The psychologist’s answer will be unequivocal: to manipulate in extreme cases and never harm. This is the main principle of work of adherents of humane science. However, representatives of other professions neglect this parting word. Both managers and politicians are only interested in 100% of the result of achieving the goal.
Therefore, not only simple manipulations (poorly veiled, playing on the feelings inherent in everyone, for example, on the desire to like, to be recognized) go into action, but also complex psychological attacks aimed at a specific person taking into account his psychological characteristics. An attack is also called so because its strength grows with time, providing a lasting result of targeted influence on another person. The most "modest" example of such an attack is contained in the well-known aphorism: "Lies repeated many times become truth."
In recent years, audio courses, books describing various manipulation techniques have been actively published, and special training programs have been developed (for example, sales techniques or techniques for effective communication of a realtor with clients). The last way to learn is the most effective. In a group of people eager to learn how to manipulate, each training participant in practice acquires the necessary skills. It remains only to bring them to the level of skills.
Yes, there are several tricks on how to manage people. To master them is quite possible. One has only to constantly train on all those around, first for the sake of experience, and then for the sake of a specific main goal. But is it worth it? After all, an intelligent person will not fall for manipulations (at least simple ones), and then you will lose the trust of your relatives, friends, colleagues, partners ...
It is much better to learn to negotiate, honestly discussing problems, your needs with loved ones and even partners. This is how the strongest relations are built: on mutual understanding (look for a common language), on the ability to compromise (points of convergence of interests), on the ability to express one’s point of view and accept someone else’s.
Moreover, power over others is dangerous. She is dizzy, and you gradually lose humanity: the ability to sympathize, empathize. At the forefront are only their own interests. But you must always remember that not weak people are manageable. Everyone has a moment of weakness. And someday the manipulator will meet a stronger personality and also become a victim ...
Therefore, instead of finding the answer to the question of how to manage people, it is better to learn how to defend against manipulators and to promote honesty and value trust.