Have you come across people whose communication seemed annoyingly boring? Congratulations, you know an ordinary bore. This is not uncommon - they are everywhere. Among them are many smart people, which is very disappointing. After all, if such an intellect, but for the benefit of man ... But alas, the word "bore" has to be pronounced very often, characterizing annoying, boring people.
Why is that?
What are the reasons for this behavior? The most common reason is an undeveloped ability to communicate. This often appears in people whose parents solved all problems and admired remarkable intelligence. As a result, people learned to tell in detail and in detail, but there was no need for others - therefore, there was no need to communicate. And it was not necessary to take into account other people's needs. So, parents of smart children, be careful! And try to create situations where your child can’t cope without someone else’s help so that he or she is forced to resort to interacting with others. A bore is a person who does not know how to cooperate.
Mathematics did not pass without a trace
Another such an unfair title is given to people who simply do not have communication skills. Funnily enough, they seem smarter than they really are. The base of their knowledge is not so great, but they talk about their hobbies so thoroughly and ... boringly that they seem to be knowledgeable. Since the time of unsuccessful lessons in mathematics, there has been a bunch in the minds of some: if it is boring, then the conversation is smart. Helping such a person is harder than a really boring bore.
Training works
If a bore person is stuck to you, try to educate him like Pavlov’s dog. That is, do not react to boring remarks at all. As if they had not heard. Over time, he or she will understand that certain topics do not suit you, and others will begin to discuss. Or, in general, they will find other “free ears” to “ride through” them, which was required by the condition of the problem. You do not have to go into an open conflict, and push the bore away from you.
How to make your life easier with him
A bore is always a hidden pain. After all, he is usually not stupid and sees that people with him feel bad. And few people want to be constantly fenced off from others as if by a wall. Therefore, boring can be cured if such a person is dear to you and he wants it. It is necessary to encourage conversations on interesting topics, palm off light books, openly explain that you do not want to discuss certain issues. If the relationship is close enough, tactics will work soon.
Understand the reasons
An intelligent, boring person often deifies clarity. Clarity, as understood by a terrible bore, does not exclude the well-known. That is, they will tell you for the twenty-fifth time that "the Volga - it nevertheless flows into the Caspian Sea." Try to understand what forces a person to behave inappropriately - a real loop on the topic or the fact that he is trying to come up with topics for conversation, but it does not work out. Maybe you can get an alternative to him.
A bore is an almost lifetime diagnosis. Or maybe you should not torment a person? What you are not interested in may be quite necessary for another. And a bore for you can satisfy your need to be understood by others.