What is charisma and male charisma in particular? By themselves, these words already mesmerize, fascinate, and draw in the subconscious the image of a person with a certain gait, demeanor, unusual voice, gaze. Women dream of meeting a charismatic man, and the men themselves want to become one. The most interesting thing is that there is no clearly defined definition of what a charismatic man looks like. Everyone puts his ideas, his own experience, etc. into this concept. However, let us nevertheless try to determine which man can be called charismatic, consider some examples of such personalities and learn how to become a person who literally attracts him.
What is charisma?
In the scientific community, there are not one or two definitions of this concept, but more than 60! That is why we are talking about ambiguity and breadth. The very concept of "charisma" appeared in ancient Greece and it means "gift". This is the usual meaning of the word "charismatic." A man who can be described in this way possesses magnetism. In Christianity, they believed that such a person was endowed with great power, he was given God's gift, he has a special spark. If we talk about the Russian language, then the synonym for the word "charismatic" will be "charming."
Why is charisma necessary?
A charismatic man is usually a mentally strong, strong-willed, successful person, it is easy for him to realize his goals, he feels great in society. Surely at least once in her life, every woman met a representative of the stronger sex, who, it would seem, doesn’t stand out much - neither in appearance nor in dress, but he attracts, has, has, wants to be with him, to communicate, and so on. This is a charismatic man.
At all times there have been successful and successful personalities, to whom everything is easy. They freely and unconstrainedly direct both three people and thousands, they have them, they listen to them and want to obey them. These are bosses, directors of all levels, and actors. Although there are many examples where a man does not lead a country or a team, he is not a cool boss, but the aura around him is simply magical. Women next to such representatives of the stronger sex feel confident, warm and comfortable. That's who such a charismatic man is. Now it becomes clear why this trait is needed and why many people want to be just such personalities.
Max Weber about a Charismatic Man
Now let's look at what a charismatic man is in terms of psychology. The German political scientist and social psychologist Weber was the first to describe this concept from a scientific point of view. He believed that charisma is a unique quality of personality. It helps to look against the background of others as an exceptional, outstanding person who is endowed with special power, inaccessible to most.
According to Weber’s theory, such a man (less often a woman) is able to influence huge masses of people, “charge” them with a certain energy. Today, this quality of personality is a necessary tool for a successful leader, a leader who wants to influence the consciousness of the group, subjugate people. In order to know how to become a charismatic man, it is necessary to determine what features he should possess. We will talk about this further.
Qualities of a charismatic man
- Individual and unique image. Such a person has his own external image, special facial expressions, gestures, gait, timbre, intonation.
- Full self-confidence. This is a rather multifaceted quality, but its main components are courage, determination, clarity in decision-making; complete independence, that is, a developed habit of relying only on one’s own strength, not relying on others; the ability to confidently and specifically make others understand their position.
- Empathy and self-control. This is the ability to regulate, control your emotions, feelings. This is tactfulness, flexibility, the ability not only to listen, but also to hear, the ability to understand other people at the level of intuition, to “feel” them.
- Gallantry, politeness, lack of brutal behavior, sharp gestures.
They are not born charismatic, they become so
If the above qualities are not inherent to you, then it is never too late to start working on yourself. No one is born immediately great or famous, but the resources of a person allow to achieve much in life, the main thing is to want. For example, Arnold Schwarzenegger. He did not come into the world with 57 cm biceps! All that we see today is the result of work on ourselves, exhausting training. Yes, this is physical strength. But with it the flexibility of the mind, thinking develops. You can train everything, including charisma.
Remember Winston Churchill. In childhood, he had very poor health, studied poorly, because parents decided to send their son to the army class. And what happened in the end? He graduated from this class with one of 12 students, took up self-education, became a great speaker, writer, journalist, influential political figure, winner of many awards, and the prime minister. This suggests that anyone can become charismatic. How to work on yourself? What do we have to do? How to become a charismatic man? Consider a few techniques.
"The image of a charismatic personality"
Create a relaxing environment for yourself so that people or sounds do not bother you. Close your eyes, focus and clearly imagine the image of such a person who will cause you admiration. This is not a real person, but just your imagination. Imagine clearly his appearance, ability to keep himself, to have a conversation, style of clothing. Think over as many characteristics as possible. Next, give this image the necessary qualities, imagine them in action. Do not rush to finish the exercise, everything should be fixed in your mind as clearly and concretely as possible. Now try to translate everything into real life.
“Controlling emotions”
In this case, you will need a regular dice. Throw it, and subtract three from the drawn number. Depending on what the result is, you have to control your emotions. If, for example, “-2”, then you need to get rid of two feelings that you have today (from despondency, laziness, hunger, etc.). If you get the number “1”, on the contrary, invent a feeling and develop it (inspiration, joy, happiness, etc.).
"Feeling"
Every day in the process of conversation with a person, try not just to speak, but to pay close attention to his intonation, voice, facial expressions, gestures, pauses. So you will learn to feel and “see” the inner world of other people, to better understand their thoughts, actions.
Conclusion
The most charismatic men are speakers, scientists, leaders, politicians, and many others. For example, we all know a person like Mahatma Gandhi. His main credo in life was the idea of non-violence. His charisma contributed to the fact that the masses followed him, people believed in the possibility of resolving conflicts peacefully, and this is in a society that is simply overwhelmed with violence!
Steve Jobs is another example of a charismatic person. His biography is read more than the most popular novels and detective stories. He became a successful entrepreneur only thanks to strong personal qualities, internal strength. He believed that a person cannot become successful if before he had not stumbled and did not suffer failure. It tempers the personality. If you make a mistake, then change the strategy, not the course! Follow this rule, develop and become charismatic!