Non-verbal means of communication give us more information than speech. It is through the use of body language that we express our true emotions. People who have mastered this can easily identify fraud. But some are able to take control of most of their gestures and even fool a lie detector. Although such people are extremely few.
Verbal and non-verbal modes of communication
Modern man utters about 30 thousand words every day. It is speech that is a
verbal means of communication. There are several
types of speech activity: speaking, listening / perceiving, writing and reading. Types of non-verbal communication are gestures, postures, intonations, facial expressions, looks, position in space, etc.
Kinesthetics includes pantomime, facial expressions and gestures. She considers the external aspect of the manifestation of emotions and feelings. Head and arm movements are the oldest way to communicate. Today , the sign language is quite studied, there are even books on the “reading” of the true meaning of a person’s words, depending on his involuntary movements. Each people uses gestures in different ways. So, Finns use this type of communication per hour about 1 time, Italians - 80 times, and Mexicans - 180.
Facial expressions, i.e., movements of the facial muscles, are the main indicator of feelings. Without this component, that is, during a conversation, when we do not see the face of the interlocutor, about 10-15% of all information is lost. All muscle movements in emotional states are coordinated. The main informative load is on the lips and eyebrows.
Eye contact is also crucial. If you are rarely and briefly looked at, this may indicate that you are lying. But in order to correctly recognize the lie, it is important to consider other non - verbal forms of communication. The look can be business (concentration on the interlocutor's forehead), social (triangle between the mouth and eyes), intimate (at the chest level).
Pantomime includes non-verbal modes of communication such as gait, posture, posture, and general motor skills. Gait varies in rhythm, dynamics and amplitude. By this indicator, one can judge both well-being and the character, mood and age of a person. The sufferer has a sluggish gait, the joyful one has a light one, the proud one has a wide swing. It is noticed that people who keep their hands on their hips strive to achieve goals in the shortest possible time.
About a thousand stable postures are known, each of which shows how a person perceives his own status in relation to the position of others. The laid-back position is inherent to persons who have achieved much. A pose may indicate openness or closure.
In short, by studying non-verbal methods of communication, you can easily understand what your interlocutor wants. You will be less likely to succumb to provocations; in most cases, learn to recognize lies and insincerity. These skills will be useful in all circumstances: both in negotiations and in personal life. We often need to make decisions about how to continue to maintain relationships, in what way to conduct a conversation, etc. Knowing the basics will help you find answers to most of your questions. The main thing is to practice and apply knowledge.