Each person has his own meaning of life. His search is traditionally defined as a spiritual and philosophical problem, the essence of which tends to determine the purpose of the existence of each of us. If you think more globally, then to the destination of all mankind. It is important. And if life has lost its meaning, then something worse is unlikely to happen.
About problem
This usually happens during depression. Although most often it is the loss of the meaning of life that causes this condition. During which I do not want anything. The person is depressed, he does not feel joy, does not show interest in anything, constantly feels tired. His speeches are pessimistic, he does not want and cannot concentrate, sometimes he thinks about death or suicide, he constantly sleeps or does not do it at all. And most importantly - a sense of worthlessness, accompanied by a feeling of fear, anxiety and even guilt.
Life has lost its meaning ... How much pain is in this phrase. And what is this problem related to? With a lack of what a person needs the most. For some, this is a job and an opportunity to make a dizzying career. For others - a loved one, spending time together, tender feelings and passion. For the rest - a family with a bunch of children. For someone else, the meaning of life is immense wealth. For others, the opportunity to travel and grow. There can be countless examples. But it all comes down to one simple truth. Fortunately. Yes, this is the meaning of life - to be happy. Or, as they say, to be in a state of complete satisfaction with the conditions of their existence and being. That is the meaning of life. This phenomenon, by the way, is actively studied by occultism, theology, psychology and philosophy.
Eternal search
Itâs a paradox, but many people understand that life lost its meaning during ... attempts to find it. Such cases are not uncommon. Indeed, people who constantly think about the meaning of life are the most unhappy. They are actively trying to know their desires, their own character and themselves. And many are not satisfied with the notorious answer to the eternal question, which assures that the meaning is happiness.
And then a person tries to find him in esoteric, philosophical and religious teachings, which, of course, do not give a clear answer to this question. Therefore, a person begins to look for him in music, literature, lyrics and even the natural sciences.
And in the vast majority of cases, disappointment comes to him. It seems that he has everything that is needed for a full life - work, close people, friends, soulmate, a good salary. But that no longer makes sense. Because the person was sure: everything is perishable. And slowly, but surely he loses interest in everything. He begins to experience headaches, struggles with insomnia, experiences chronic fatigue. And itâs very difficult to live like that. Attempts to distract begin. In the best cases, a person is interested in computer games. At worst, it is buried in alcohol and drugs. The worst consequence is suicide. In general, the real depression.
What to do?
If life has lost its meaning, then you donât want to do anything. For the first time, a turning point, so to speak, it is permissible. But then you need to act. Either yourself, or from the filing of someone close and partial. Many turn to psychologists. Of course, there are effective tips. But a universal recommendation that equally helps everyone does not exist.
So what if you lost the meaning of life? Start looking for answers. To begin with, it is important to determine what is happening. After all, the essence lies not just in a bad mood, parting with a loved one or accumulated fatigue. The loss of the meaning of life cannot be compared with any sadness.
And you also need to remember that desires govern us all. And they must be satisfied. What could be worse than the lack of what is desired? If you do not satisfy your own spiritual needs, then unhappiness cannot be avoided. And the void that needs to be filled. To start gradually getting rid of hatred for yourself and your body, others and the world as a whole, you need to remember what a person always wanted. Suppose, as an example, this is a trip to the sunny Dominican Republic, to the gentle sea. Through power, you need to re-ignite this desire. Start planning a trip, picking things up, picking up a hotel. There is a saying: "Appetite comes with eating." And in this case, too. A person will be inspired in the process. And the result will be the satisfaction of his main desire, which entails a sense of realization, self-sufficiency and enjoyment.
Analysis
Everyone knows that this is a research method in which the studied object is divided into separate parts for its better understanding. Analysis is not just about mathematics, programming, and medicine. But also to the topic under discussion. What to do if you have lost the meaning of life? To analyze the current situation.
You need to evaluate your actions and identify errors. Nothing just happens. And the reason why a person is on the verge also has roots. But the most important thing is that in no case should you blame yourself. Everything has already happened. What happened is gone. And now we need to find out why it all happened in order not to repeat our mistakes in the future.
It is very important not to feel sorry. This is a bad feeling that once again depresses a person. He must accept the moment as it is. And even in the most terrible, wild situation, try to find the pros. At least in the fact that life goes on. And in the long run there is a chance to succeed.
And even if a person has an incredibly difficult life, a story about which can cause tears for the most callous person in the Universe, you do not need to feel sorry for yourself for a long time. Yes, everything collapsed. Already the bottom, nowhere to fall further. Therefore it is necessary to rise. With difficulty, through pain and torment. It may help to realize that the perception of everything around is just a matter of tuning. Yes, itâs easier to argue than to worry about everything, but the person himself will come to this conclusion when he gets out of a deplorable state.
Outburst of emotions
If a person is overcome by the question âWhy do I live?â, Then it's time to get a beautiful clean notebook with a pen and turn it into a diary. This is a very powerful technique. And do not underestimate it.
âAnd what shall I write in it?â - Sluggishly, but with a share of skepticism will ask a person mired in depression. And the answer is simple - that's it. Absolutely anything. Thoughts can begin with any phrases and expressions - you do not need to structure and organize them, because this is not an essay. Diary is a way to throw out your emotions. As a rule, a person who constantly asks himself the question âWhy do I live?â Does not want to make contact with anyone. And emotions accumulate. So itâs better to reflect them on paper. Over time, this will become a habit. And then a person will notice that in his head, like on paper, there is no longer such a confusion, which was observed at the very beginning.
And then in the diary it will be possible to start celebrating the results of your work on yourself. Is anyone bothering to outline a small plan for the future?
By the way, when you feel better, you need to find something to your liking. No wonder they say that a person is alive while he is interested in living. You need to find a hobby that would not only bring pleasure, but also inspire at least minimal optimism and joy. Maybe start raising parrots? This will be a great idea, because everyone knows that our smaller brothers give unlimited positive, joy and help pass life's trials. After all, they infinitely love their master. And love gives us strength.
Who needs to live for?
People, falling into impotence and tired of looking for the reasons why they were on the verge, begin to ask this question. Search for a reason from the outside, so to speak. Some through force begin to live for a loved one, parents, beloved pet or children. Maybe it helps. But the key phrase here is âthrough powerâ. Because the problem that touched a person directly and as directly as possible remains unresolved.
You need to live for yourself. Selfish? Not at all. And even if so, there is nothing wrong with healthy, productive egoism. You need to stop thinking about what you can do for others. And finally, put yourself in first place.
By the way, often the reason for deep depression lies precisely in this. The fact that a person never lived for himself. He did as usual. He did what needed to be done. I tried to meet the expectations of my parents or boss. I tried to comply with generally accepted standards, so that "everything is like people". Although deep down I wanted a completely different. And awareness of this usually comes at a time when he is standing on the edge. But do not despair. We must remember that there is enough time for everything that you really want to catch. This is true. Because desires always subjugate time. And you do not need to wait - you need to start their implementation immediately. And then questions about why life has lost its meaning will recede into the background.
Forget about everything
This is another effective method. He is able to help. Anyone - be it a man drowning in depression, or a woman who has lost meaning in life. The advice of a psychologist is as follows: you need to take away the past from yourself. Forget him. Erase from memory forever. The past often pulls a person down, like a stone to the bottom of a river, attached to the foot of a drowned man.
You need to burn all the bridges. Break contacts with unpleasant people with whom a person was forced to communicate. Quit hating work. Oppressed by the boss? So, finally, you can express to his eyes everything that has accumulated in your soul. Divorce from the legitimate "soulmate", to establish a life with which there is no longer any chance. To move from a boring and hated city to another place. In general, we are talking about the beginning of a truly new life. The one that everyone loves to talk about today.
And this is the most important thing: with the completion of each action, a person must pass through himself the realization that he is becoming a new person. Not what he was. You can even fix this with visualization - change your appearance (haircut, hair color and contact lenses, image, tan, etc.). All this may be taken lightly by some. But, again, it only seems so from the outside. After completing all of the above, a person will look around, look at himself in the mirror, and understand - he is already different. And he has no right to return to the old life.
Break
When thoughts like âWhat am I doing?â Begin to appear in a personâs head and âWhat am I doing with my life?â, it's time to pause. Long preferably. In order not to completely become bogged down and not to fall into a real depression, we must urgently take a vacation, rent a house by the lake or in the forest and go there. A sharp change of scenery and unity with nature saved a considerable number of people.
What after? Then you will need to give yourself answers to the notorious questions âWhat am I doing?â and "What am I doing with my life?" To realize what exactly causes discomfort. Why exactly is there discontent and when did these questions, in fact, arise. And then - find a solution to the problems. Maybe find a new meaning in life. As a rule, people who have taken a break in time and figured out the oppression that has begun to accumulate do not reach the edge and do not fall into deep depression.
By the way, a break does not do without planning for the near future and setting goals. They, like the meaning of life, should be in every normal person who wants to be an accomplished person. The goals do not have to be global (buy a villa in Spain, transfer from Lada to Mercedes, engage in investment business, etc.). They should be feasible. And those for which I would like to wake up in the morning. It is desirable that the goals are long-term. Three is enough. It is better to write them in the notorious diary. It may look like this: âGoal number 1: save up for a year on vacation in Greece. No. 2: do a 5-minute exercise every morning. Number 3: Pull up English to conversational level. " Goals should motivate and tune in to positive life changes. This is the main principle of their formulation.
Help neighbor
It is not easy for a person on the edge. But the depressed state experienced by him also affects people close to him, who begin to think: how to help a person who has lost the meaning of life?
That's a very difficult question. There is no universal answer. It all depends on individual psychological characteristics. What will help one is not able to get the other out of depression.
One thing is certain. A person who knows him well has a chance to help a person. A person who is perfectly familiar with the specific features of his loved one can roughly guess what actions should be taken to make it easier. The main thing is to avoid standards that usually show nothing but indifference, even if a person really wanted to help. These are phrases such as âEverything will be fineâ, âDonât worry, life will get betterâ, âJust forget it!â etc., they must be forgotten. A person is faced with a problem: the meaning of life is lost, how to live on? About âJust Forget!â out of the question.
So what to do? For starters - just come to a person. The simple âHow are you?â may well make him want to share. But not the psychological âDo you want to talk about this?â It is necessary to avoid pressure and do everything that usually elevates his mood. Unless, of course, he does not drive away the well-wisher. In this case, you donât need to be offended - heâs bad, the tipping point has not yet passed (if a long time does not pass, then, unfortunately, you will have to consult a doctor for antidepressants).
So, you can quietly turn on his favorite music or series, bring his favorite food and drinks, start talking about the most interesting topic for him. Trivia? Perhaps, but they will at least help to restore the taste of life to a person.
The technique of the last day of life
This is the last thing I would like to talk about. When a person is depressed and no longer sees the point in his existence, it will not hurt him to think: what if this day of life was the last? The thought of the imminent disappearance of all reality will invigorate everyone. Of course, when a person is alive and well, he has enough time for depression, sadness and gloom. It sounds exaggerated, but it is. But if he thinks that he has only 24 hours left - everything takes on a different meaning, not to mention the fact that there is a rethinking of values.
And when there is no desire to exist, it is worth using this technique. Live the current day like the last. Perhaps after this, the desire to exist will reignite.
Losing the meaning of life is the worst thing that can happen. And it would be better if no one went through this. But in any case, the most important thing is to hope for the best at heart. And act. After all, as the great American writer Jack London said: "One life is given to man. So why not live it properly?"