Strange, but for some reason the question "What to do?" arises after the lady has done stupid things. Treason is versatile, a lot of reasons can push it, and it can be difficult to understand the situation.
Stagnation in bed - what leads
Yes, a harmonious sex life is not the main thing, but still it is one of the components of a successful marriage. Having exhausted their potential and knowledge in this area in two or three years, spouses usually come into sexual contact less and less, and nothing new, exciting, causing a surge of emotions does not occur. You seem to know each other by heart, all the habits, habits and manners in bed. Why does this happen - the husband is cheating on his wife, the wife is cheating on her husband? What to do in such situations? People are cheating in order to experience new emotions from another person who is able to give them. It is guaranteed. But the fact is that after a little analysis of their intimate life, both partners can do the same for each other without outside help. Or, if mores allow, then with her too (now we are talking about both inanimate objects and people, what the hell is not joking. But the main thing is that everything is within the law).
It is important not only to miss the moment when you began to move away from each other, but still it has not gone so far that the process has become irreversible.
Analysis and work on bugs
They say that you do not need to compare your spouse with anyone. Which is - and good. This is hardly true. It is necessary to carry out such an analysis for yourself (in your head, rather than run rather try to see how that pretty neighbor behaves in bed; then a careless cuckold will ask the same neighbor for advice on what to do if his wife cheated on her husband). It is necessary to analyze the behavior of the spouse in relation to himself, to household chores, to making money to ensure cohabitation. Every day you see each other, you know all the habits, manner of behavior. So take advantage of this, show cunning, intelligence and change not your husband, but the situation that drives your marriage back to the registry office. "He used to love me more." But then he was hit in the head with hormones that made him do something like that in order to win your favor. Now both you and he know that you are together, and it seems that you are not going anywhere from each other. In this case, why conquer what is already yours for so long? How wrong are those who think so, both men and women!
Looking for new in old
You can not afford to get used to each other. The search for new sensations is the first thing that pushes to treason. And if the other half is always able to surprise, then why look for someone on the side? This, incidentally, applies to both spouses. If only the husband or only the wife tries to do something, and there is no return from the other half, the desire to surprise, care, delight fades and disappears for good, turning once happy newlyweds into an average couple tired of life.
You need to learn together
A wise woman will be able to make her husband hurry home from work more often, surround his wife with care, and be a strong support. You will say: “Why should I teach him something? I’m not his mother. ” The whole truth is that the first marriage is something new for both, and two people need to learn to live together so that both are good. This is the easiest way to get away from problems - I took it and cheating on my husband. “What to do, because it’s easier for me, I had a desire to live, I felt loved again.” But to try to establish the existing mechanism of the family is a more difficult task. You can find yourself another that seems like a better option than your existing spouse, but here's a bad luck, over time, he becomes the same as the first husband. “They are all the same” - a woman makes such a conclusion for herself. The thought that, by her behavior, she provokes men to the same acts, does not arise.
The problem of loyalty, or What the first pushes for treason
Fidelity is not something incomprehensible that is imposed by social canons. Fidelity is the realization that the person next to you may be hurt by your actions, as well as the reluctance to inflict such things on your soul mate. But betrayal is not uncommon. Why it happens?
The first factor entailing treason is the lack of a full intimate life in marriage. And if the reason for this is only this, then, most likely, either the husband was always "not very" in this regard, either youthful passions subsided, or a lot of time passed from the moment of going to the registry office, so people were uninterested together.
The bed did not suit initially
A woman, before getting married, could have experience in sexual relations. But at the same time, she chose a person who does not have the opportunity to satisfy her. We omit the reasons why this happened; the fact remains: she married him. In this case, there were good reasons that prompted the creation of a married couple. Perhaps it is in such a situation that a woman asks the question: "I am cheating on my husband, what to do next?" To begin with, she needs to remember why, after all, she created a unit of society with this man.
If it was a marriage of convenience
A woman in such a situation often admits her friends: “I regularly cheat on my husband. What to do?" First of all, she needs to analyze her position at the current moment. Is the calculation still valid? Wife upset to learn that his wife is cheating on him? But if you see a better perspective with another man, and marriage weighs on both of you, then feel free to rush for a new person. It is likely that such an outcome will suit two partners, but the relationship should be broken carefully: without scandals, tantrums, mutual insults. Act like adults, discuss your relationship, try to figure out what led to this outcome, and come to a common conclusion together.
Love marriage and betrayal
If marriage was for love, which grew into something more, then betrayal was, rather, a fleeting hobby. And this also happens quite often. So, a woman cheated on her beloved husband. What to do in this case? Just do not tell your spouse about what happened. It is better to stop all kinds of adventures on the side, and also to analyze why this happened. If you are dissatisfied with any moments in everyday life, in intonations, in relation to the whole, do things that will push your husband to change the situation. If the marriage is really built on mutual love, your attempts to improve the shaken prosperity in the house by a loving husband will be noticed. Why should a woman do this? Most likely, conscience will interfere with sleep, and a sense of guilt for a perfect deed should encourage better relations in a marriage. The husband will not know why the wife suddenly started a romantic dinner. This all seems to him a beautiful gesture, and is also likely to prompt a response.
We benefit from stupid things
It is also possible that before painting in the registry office the couple had no sexual contact. Now it’s hard to believe, but nevertheless this was previously practiced - the man cared about the “cleanliness” of his future wife. If in this situation a woman can confess: “I cheated on my husband,” what should I do? Think about whether it is worth a minute sexual adventure with another man in a relationship with a spouse, as well as learn something new from the experience gained. It’s only worth being careful, because the spouse may ask where the wife comes from, except for him not knowing a single man anymore, knows this “something”. In advance, pick up a list of possible sources on the Web or from women's magazines.
The problem is not only in intimate relationships
If a man does not tire out a woman, not only as a partner, but also as a life partner in general (in terms of financial support, housework, child care, that is, a person is not capable of anything, according to his wife), it’s no wonder that when the first opportunity that comes up she will find another. And at the same time, she will openly be able to confess to the same friends: "I am cheating on my husband." What to do in this case? Few modern women or girls have the patience to remake a neglected case of a spouse for themselves, so the answer is obvious.
If life with this person depresses, turns into a grumpy aunt, and all your efforts to somehow establish relations end in failure, run away from this person. Marriage should bring harmony to the life of both people and make it, if not better, then at least not worse.
Cheating with the former
There is a situation when suddenly you meet a long-forgotten student love. And he, as luck would have it, became only better when, at home, a cold blows in bed at home. As a result, cheated on her husband with the former. What to do? Probably, hoping that the former is also married, and for him what happened will remain an adventure and nothing more. But this is if the woman is quite happy with her marriage. If both have really awakened bright feelings, then it is worth considering whether you are ready to plunge headlong into a new "old relationship." Remember why you broke up, determine whether time could correct this cause, and also decide whether you are ready to hurt your spouse.
It is good if the fact (or facts already) of the “left” steps has not become public knowledge. But if a woman says: “I cheated on my husband with a neighbor,” what should I do? After all, some interesting grandmother living nearby could notice your entrance to the wrong apartment, as well as note the time of leaving, in order to savor these details in the morning on a bench with girlfriends. If it so happened that a neighbor acts as your new lover, you first need to find out what kind of person he is, whether he knows how to keep secrets. In addition, you need to think about a safe meeting place. But an analysis of what happened, on the subject of how all this will affect the relationship with her husband, will definitely not hurt.
Cheated on her husband, recognized her mother in law
What to do in this case? First of all, do not panic. If the mother-in-law only somewhere heard about the incident and probably doesn’t know any details, and with these arguments she goes on the attack, then one should not deny everything. Just adjust her story. You didn’t leave the hotel, but from a cafe nearby. They were not with the young man, but with their old acquaintance whom they were glad to see. And in general, he was at a meeting with his wife. So, without sharp notes, simply, calmly and easily, you must stand your ground. Do not immediately admit: "I'm cheating on my husband." What to do? Take a lesson and benefit from what is happening. New relationships have increased the level of adrenaline and the hormone of happiness, do you want to sing and laugh, enjoy life? So do it. And at the same time remember the rest and try to make their life easier too. The fewer people around you grumble, the less trouble you will have.
But if you were caught in bed with another man, then this situation may seem hopeless. There are few options. Most likely, you will have to collect things. But if you are ready, after all that has happened, to fight for your family and want to save the marriage, begin to deny everything. Yes, so you spoil relations with the mother-in-law even more, but you will have a chance. There is one more thing to understand: your husband’s mother will not calm down. Perhaps you yourself would have behaved the same way if you had a son. It can even reach surveillance. But you must break the relationship on the side if you want to keep your marriage.
When it comes to more than you alone
Inaccuracy in such matters can have much more serious consequences. I cheated on my husband and became pregnant - what to do in such a situation?
There are several solutions in this regard. From the most radical - abortion, to hiding the fact of fatherhood from her husband and the birth of a new man. You can go to a lover if you and your husband do not have joint children, and if this man is ready to accept you.
In any case, until the news of the wife’s adventures reaches her husband, she decides what to do - to divorce or to hide what is happening. There is no need to talk about the moral side of the issue, because men are no less likely to be caught in treason than women. “I cheated on my husband? What to do?" Husband left after learning about this fact? The experience of many couples shows that this happens often. But sometimes, if you make an effort, you can return everything.
Why cheating causes discomfort
If you are cheating on your spouse and do not know what to do, then you are not sure about anything. Answer the following questions:
- What event (or their set) contributed to the betrayal?
- Whose fault is this situation?
- How many problems does treason solve?
- How many problems does she add?
There is no single solution to this situation. In order not to worry about the created stupidities, the best solution is not to do them. And then you do not have to worry and admit to yourself the worst: “I cheated on my husband. What to do?"