In ancient Greek mythology, there is a small myth about the narcissistic son of the river God Narcissus, who tried his best to reject such a wonderful feeling as love. The goddess of love found out about this and decided to punish him. Once Narcissus saw his reflection in the river and really fell in love, because of this he could not leave his own reflection for a second, after which he died a terrible death from starvation.
Of course, this story is just a myth, but, unfortunately, in the modern world there are more and more such people who are not ready to perceive others as they are. For them, there is only their own solid "I", which no one has yet managed to break. A similar problem for a modern person is a generally accepted norm, while in psychiatry, a patient with such a temperament, doctors boldly ascribe the diagnosis of “narcissistic inclinations”. Let's talk about the causes of narcissism, and also answer some of the most important questions regarding this deviation.
- Is narcissism a disease?
- Is a person a daffodil because of upbringing?
- What treatment is advised by qualified psychiatrists for patients diagnosed with narcissism?
A man with narcissistic inclinations
To begin with, we suggest that you decide on the very concept of "narcissism." Narcissistic people, as a rule, are incorrigible egoists, narcissistic and fixated only on themselves and on their problems. Most often they underestimate those around them and demand from them constant admiration for their life manifestations. The orderly tone and the head held high for them are the main calling card, although more often than not they are in fact truly unhappy. Self-confidence is only hypertrophied self-esteem. Indeed, in fact, in each of us there is a daffodil, only someone can skillfully turn it on and off, and someone to this day equates himself with God. In addition, daffodil people do not stand up to criticism, while they themselves are ready to express their dissatisfaction with the clock.
Narcissism as a disease
People with narcissistic inclinations are actually carriers of a psychological illness that modifies their personal qualities. Such individuals are constantly striving for the ideal, correcting the errors of their body using various methods. Therefore, as a result, they can become "owners" of anorexia, depression and even drug addiction. People-daffodils have one unique feature - their anterior cerebral gyrus is too active, so they can not look at their behavior from the side and objectively evaluate others. Such people are not able to soberly assess their behavior, and therefore believe that they behave within normal limits.
Symptoms of Narcissism
In order to help a person with psychological abnormalities, first of all, it is necessary to consider the signs of narcissism. We will talk about them further.
A person feels exhausted and useless to anyone
Many daffodils describe this condition as a large black hole within themselves that constantly needs to be filled. Because of this, it is likely that sooner or later they may resort to alcohol and drugs. The only thing that can truly help is a sense of true victory. In order to feel the taste of victory, a person with deviations is ready for anything, even for the most disgusting acts.
Evaluating others and comparing them to yourself
A narcissist man (by nature) is used to evaluating other people and compulsorily comparing them with himself, it doesn’t matter if this assessment is about appearance or character. If a person with disabilities does not feel recognition and love from others on his part, he begins to fall into a depressive state, which can lead to addiction to drugs and alcohol.
Two sides of the coin
A person who has a narcissistic character tends to stay in several states at the same time. On the one hand, he is insanely beautiful, beautiful and unique, and on the other, he is clumsy and very unhappy. As a rule, the first state prevails during the universal admiration and manifestation of immense love, and the second during non-recognition and contempt. In fact, each of us can recall the presence of such moods, but there is a big difference between a narcissus and an ordinary person. First of all, this consists in the fact that the former does not have a simple distinction between “good” and “bad”, everything is either “terrible” or “great to the loss of consciousness”.
Having become acquainted with the symptoms, we can conclude that narcissism is a disease that can really threaten the further development of a person, while not allowing him to live peacefully and feel like a real person.
Narcissism and education
We all know that the personality of a child is formed through parenting. From the first time, highly qualified psychologists can determine by an adult how he was brought up and how much attention was paid to him in childhood. Narcissism and parental love are directly related.
Firstly, the attitude of the father and mother towards the baby can become a driving factor that triggered the onset of the disease, and secondly, sometimes because of one incorrectly phrased phrase, the child begins to see and perceive the world in a different way. It is common for a narcissistic person to evaluate and compare himself with the people around him, and this is directly related to parenting. After all, once it was they who tried to remind the kid that classmates at school read it better, and the guys from the gym run faster. Of course, what they wanted was the best, they thought that thanks to the statements, their child would become more self-sufficient and successful, and they achieved the opposite result. You will ask why?" The answer is simple. After all, this problem lies in the fact that the father and mother did not give their son or daughter a chance to accept themselves as he is, did not give the opportunity to study their characteristics and skills. Now the child who has been deprived of his personal “I” will look at other people all his life and compare his successes with the successes of the majority, and since his parents always reminded him that there are better people in the world, the advantage will obviously not be in his direction.
The feelings most often experienced by a narcissist man
There are several types of feelings that tend to feel a narcissistic person almost daily:
- Feeling of shame. This category of people very often experiences shame, which skillfully hides inside itself. Due to the terrible feeling of emptiness, uselessness, invalidity, daffodils can not only become depressed, but also feel ashamed because of themselves, so for many of them going to a psychotherapist is almost unrealistic, because in the office the narcissus will have to face her shame.
- Guilt. Is it a woman, a male narcissist — they have been guilty of their parents all their lives, because they could not live up to their hopes, in addition, if the goal achieved is not appreciated by others, the narcissus is completely captured by guilt. Very rarely, only when such a person really gets tired of self-incrimination, his claims are switched from personal reflection in the mirror to others.
- Sense of anxiety. Such feelings accompany the narcissus man almost constantly, this is directly related to the fact that he expects a failure or a situation that will be insoluble for him. Fear of stumbling on one's life path about another bandwagon forces the narcissus to be in a state of eternal anxiety.
Helping a person with narcissistic disabilities
If you find signs of narcissism in your loved one, you must help him. The task of such assistance is to push a person to gain his own individual “I”, while going through anxiety, shame and constant guilt. All psychotherapists believe that in such cases only a long relationship with a loved one will help. It is believed that this mission is practically impossible, because it is possible to pull a person out of depression and alcoholism with the help of support, to deprive him of feelings of shame, anxiety and guilt, but to make him fall in love is an impossible task. Therefore, the recovery and liberation of man from the torment of narcissism depends only on him. The main thing is to remember that a narcissist must undergo all stages of therapy without fail: from “terrible” to “beautiful”.
Be always healthy and careful when raising your children!