A fairly common question in our time, which everyone, well, or almost everyone, asked himself or, more likely, a search engine. But have we thought about how many times a day we tell a lie, and most importantly - why? People lie for many reasons, as psychologists say, and do it at least 50 times a day. It is worth considering this.
So, the answer to the question of why people lie, should be considered in detail, namely, for individual reasons:
1. Fear of responsibility.
Indeed, sometimes a lie helps us slip away from a situation in which we would have to be responsible for something, for example, for organizing an important event. It’s always easier to come up with a beautiful story than to explain that we just don’t care.
2. A lie is a joke.
Very often, many of us joke that we don’t really dare or just don’t want to talk seriously. There is also an unconscious lie, on a subconscious level, when a joke said without a second thought is our thoughts.
3. Unwillingness to offend anyone.
Of course, one of the most common types of lies. Here the question automatically disappears, why. People lie so that the interlocutor or opponent would not be annoyed or embarrassed because of some kind of cue, such a lie, of course, for the good. However, it should be borne in mind that sometimes people need to tell the truth in their eyes, but do it tactfully so as not to make enemies and surround themselves with an aura of misunderstanding.
4. Manipulating people.
The most insidious form of lying, when deception is used to mislead a person in order to obtain his own benefit, possibly to the detriment of his personal interests.
5. The desire to like.
Surely, each of us often uses lies in order to make a positive impression. But we refuse to acknowledge this fact, believing that we are simply embellishing our real achievements. In many cases, this technique is used when applying for a job, which ultimately leads to negative consequences, because in practice we cannot confirm a significant part of an ideal resume.
Here are the most popular answers to the question of why people lie. Of course, there are other reasons that we are guided by, or they may not be at all, for example, an amazing hoax "just like that" that does not pursue any specific goal.
The psychology of lies, in addition to why people lie, is also studying how to recognize a lying person. Specialists designated certain gestures (specific behavior), which, in most cases, are accompanied by false statements.
First, pay attention to the eyes, which “run” and shine at such moments. However, it all depends on the situation, because the sparkle in the eyes may appear because a person shares joyful news, the main thing is to take into account the nuances.
Secondly, most of the gestures related to touching the face are classified as revealing. Particular attention should be paid to the speech of a person who puts his hand to his mouth. This gesture at the subconscious level peculiarly prohibits him from sharing deliberately false information.
But I want to give advice: you should not blindly trust all the book recommendations for calculating a liar. The fact is that for many of us certain gestures, classified as outstanding with “offal”, are a commonplace habit.
Thus, it is obvious that the psychology of lies is quite interesting to study, but at the same time complicated. To understand why people lie, as well as in all the intricacies of human behavior during lies, not even every specialist is given - our inner world is so ambiguous. However, if one sets a goal, then for a start you should analyze yourself why I’m lying, what motivates me, how I disguise it and so on. Perhaps the path to knowing the inner world of another individual lies through the awareness of his own "I".