What does modern man seem to you ? Reliable, honest, fair? All these qualities are certainly important. But one of the main characteristics for every modern person can be called self-confidence.
Recently, our life is so fast and technologically advanced that human confidence gives him a chance for a bright, happy future. Lacking confidence, he runs the risk of being on the sidelines of this very life.
What is confidence?
Confidence is a fairly broad concept. Each person raises certain aspects for himself with confidence. Not delving into the philosophical justification of confidence, but considering it only as a generalized psychological factor, we can say that a person’s state is taken for confidence when he considers any data to be true. Confidence, from a psychological point of view, is tantamount to faith and belief.
But if we consider the main popular definition, we get the following statement. Confidence is a positive perception by a person of his own skills, abilities and achievements, which, in turn, bring satisfaction and positive emotions in achieving goals. That is, it is nothing but self-confidence.
It is on self-confidence that I would like to stop. Indeed, it is this quality that allows people to achieve life goals and actively coexist and communicate with each other in modern society.
When does a person gain self-confidence?
Every parent wants to see their child successful, sociable, witty. For the team to accept and for the child to feel comfortable in society.
To do this, you need to raise the confidence of the child from an early age.
It is proved that even at the age of elementary school, children have an adequate self-esteem corresponding to an adult.
What is the best way to educate your baby so that he grows up as a confident person?
How to build confidence in a child
- No comparisons! Each child is unique. One draws beautifully, the second has a mathematical mindset, and the third is a born athlete. You should not set each of them as an example. Such an approach will only humiliate a small person.
- Praise. It is strictly dosed. If a child easily copes with difficult tasks always - this is the norm and you should not sing praises to him. And if he suddenly received "excellent" in the previously not given Russian language, this is just an opportunity to rejoice from the heart and praise his child. Naturally given examples are conditional and should be acted upon in accordance with the situation.
- Adequate judgment. If a child has made a mistake, cheated, offended someone, you need to condemn only his actions and deeds. In no case should you tell your child "you are bad", "you are naughty." It would be more correct to say “this is a wrong act”, “it was not worth doing that”. Indeed, confidence is a very precarious state in childhood. And to grow or ruin her - everything is in the hands of adults.
How to gain confidence in an adult
If it so happens that from an early age a person’s self-confidence, those around him, and life in general are not instilled. If a person grew up and matured in doubt and with unstable self-esteem - do not think that everything was lost.
Confidence is a very flexible concept. And it can change throughout life more than once.
It is quite possible for an adult to instill confidence in himself and increase his self-esteem. To do this, follow a few points:
- Understand for yourself that work on yourself is really needed. A person must strive to increase self-esteem, without his participation this undertaking is useless
- Surround yourself with communication. Start communicating with people with whom communication previously seemed unusual and unusual. Do not refuse friendly meetings and gatherings. Open up in conversations. Without active, adequate, diverse communication, gaining self-confidence is quite difficult.
- Eyes to eyes! When meeting and communicating, you need to try not to look away. Indeed, direct contact with the eyes is one of the main signs of a self-confident person.
- Fears out! Busting over your main fears, you can automatically be considered a confident person, courageous and strong both morally and physically. Afraid to ride the elevator - sit down and ride up and down. Afraid of cockroaches - visit the exhibition of exotic insects.
By gaining self-confidence, each person becomes real. Only with confidence can he accept and understand the world around him exactly as he really is. But this is exactly what is important for a full and high-quality life.