It is unnecessary to prove that a person is a social being. Even the most accomplished introvert sometimes wants to, if not chat, at least be in the company of someone, feel someone's support, or at least understand and empathize with the processes that take place in the soul. However, more and more people in our technological age suffer from loneliness and wonder: why do I have no friends? We do not live on an uninhabited island, there are a lot of people around, and there is no one to call a friend ... But let's, for starters, ask ourselves: who is this “friend” and how does it differ from just a “friend” and “friend”.
Most likely, each of us at least once in our lives, but had an experience of friendship (successful or unsuccessful - this is another matter). Remember what distinguished this person from others? First of all, you mutually sought communication. You always had something to tell each other. And you were not afraid to share your most secret thoughts with this person, you were not afraid that you would be ridiculed or torn away with contempt. Secondly, you were also driven by the desire to help your friend: you deeply empathized with all his misfortunes and joys. And, most importantly, you perceived him for what he is, that is, you did not try to “treat” him and educate him. You gave advice, and did not impose your opinion, just as you expected from him friendly advice and tips, and not orders and moralizing. Now it's time to move on to the question of why someone has a lot of buddies and I don't have real friends?
It is foolish to blame yourself for not having the “organ” with which we are friends. It is foolish to blame others for being indifferently walking past you and not wanting to see how wonderful you are. But still, the answer to the question of why I do not have friends lies in the plane of interpersonal communication between you and the society around you. A person with 100 friends is not afraid to open up to other people. In this sense, we can say that friendship is a truly risky business. But as they say, who does not risk, there is no one to drink champagne with.
Believe me, there are people in your environment who are not uninteresting to you. Only, perhaps, few among them are so stubborn and patient to endure your "snort of a prickly hedgehog."
Perhaps your isolation has its own reasons: the betrayal of former so-called friends can negate trust in the entire human race. However, if someone betrayed you, this does not mean that the other person will do the same, and betrayal is not a reason to say: “I have no more friends.” If you are an introvert, you suffer less from loneliness, but your inner world will not suffer at all if you let in another person. Start a blog and write down your experiences and interesting thoughts - over time, you will surely have virtual “friends” who - who knows? - can become real friends in real life.
“He who loves, he loves” is sung in a famous song. The answer to the question of why I do not have friends often lies in the reluctance or inability to love. Do you want to share your feelings, tell about hardships, but it is terribly boring to listen to someone's tales about sores and family ups and downs of little-known people? Try to treat people not as a means to pour out your own soul, but as a different world, unknown and very interesting.
Suppose you have the exact opposite case: you really like to delve into someone else's life, you love to listen to stories about other people and comment on who did the right thing and who is fundamentally wrong. With all your sociability and desire to give others wise advice (you know life so!), Very soon you begin to feel a vacuum around you and ask yourself perplexed: why do I not have friends? Friendship is based on respect for the other as a person. Give advice not at every opportunity, but only when people really ask for it. Do not teach, do not moralize, and in no case do not manipulate people.