“Who is the perfect man?”
- The one who believes that his wife is an ideal woman.
(bearded joke)
The question that worries women at all times: what should be a real man? At first, all women respond without hesitation: smart, tall, beautiful, rich. Then, after pausing and comprehending the question, they hesitantly add: to the good ... spiritually strong ... able to understand, protect ...
I was convinced that each woman in her own way represents the only, unique, real ideal man. Moreover, his image very often does not match the model that came to us from Hollywood films.
The image of a tanned, lean gentleman in a cowboy hat excites girls under the age of 16. Then they begin to understand that a hat and muscles are not the main thing. And to the question what a real man should be, they answer (not always aloud): - Rich.
Girls grow up, get married, their worldview is changing.
At an older age, the same question as a real man should give a completely different answer. Undoubtedly, material wealth is vital, and a man should always remain a breadwinner. However, statistics knows a lot of examples when a man was handsome, well-off, and good in bed, and women left him for the poor and ugly. Why?
Probably, one sociological international study, in which more than 1000 women were vulgarized, answers the question to some extent. They were asked to name the qualities of the present, from their point of view, men. The result was somewhat unexpected. Qualities were distributed in this order (in descending order of votes):
- kind, caring, affectionate;
- smart, educated;
- sexy, attractive;
- honest, truthful;
- strong-willed, strong in spirit;
- business, responsible;
- industrious;
- beautiful.
It seems to me that it is impossible to give a complete answer to the question of what an ideal man should be. Each representative of the female half of humanity has its own, personal image of the ideal. I can only speculate about whom I represent as an ideal for myself.
So, from my own point of view, a real man should be:
- like a man. I can endure the concepts of "unisex" and "man." A real man should impress at first glance: to be fit (not skinny, namely fit), collected, clean, fragrantly smelling good perfume and freshly shaved. Only under these conditions can I isolate him from the crowd;
- he must be well-mannered and educated. He should interest me. To be always new, interesting, perhaps somewhat mysterious;
- agile mentally and physically. I am a woman, I think broadly, figuratively, but slowly. My ideal is to think faster and know more;
- responsible and independent. Second roles in the family do not bother me if my man is able to provide my comfort (mental and physical) without questioning me every minute what to do;
- loving, understanding, gentle, affectionate. He must love me, children, parents. To be able to regret, caress, support in time. A man is a rock capable of sheltering from the wind, heat, and bad weather. I really love the words that have become a proverb: “A real man will always achieve what a woman wants”;
- non-drinker. It is the smell of sour alcohol that I associate with the word "man", and, as I said earlier, I do not consider them as real men;
- reliable. This is probably the most important thing for me. I have to believe my man. And trust;
- versatile. He must be able to turn my head around, drive me crazy and sober, put me in place at the right time. To give me freedom, but to behave in such a way that I do not need it.
Perhaps many disagree with me. And that's great. Because a real man is different: tall and small, thin and with a big belly, bald and unshaven. How many women - so many ideas about a real man. But, it seems to me that each of us will agree with the lines from the poem of the Soviet poet Eduard Asadov. He answers the question of what a real man should be: "... He’s just ready to help if you feel bad."