Disappointment in people is not a reason to “tie up” with them

Probably almost every person in life was disappointed. In people, in animals, in himself ... In such periods of life, I want to withdraw into ourselves, not to talk to anyone and not to trust anyone. However, it is strictly forbidden to do this, otherwise the usual disappointment in a person can turn into a real depression. What to do and how to live on is discussed in the article.

Getting wiser

Whenever a person is disappointed in people, it brings him a certain experience. It is thanks to the latter that wisdom is accumulated. If the disappointment was more or less justified, and not far-fetched, then in the future a person will most likely not allow such situations, will not make the same mistakes.

The main thing in this case is that disappointment does not become clinical. Otherwise, a person will never again be able to trust people, which is bad. Then it will be useless to talk about wisdom and life experience, but you can only send a disappointed to a psychologist. True, the case can be called truly clinical if the feeling of emptiness and dissatisfaction with others lasts a long time, and not a couple of days or weeks.

Why is this happening

Disappointment in people can occur for many reasons. The most common ones are listed below:

1. Betrayal. When a person betrays, it hurts. And that leads to disappointment. And it’s good if only the same traitor becomes the “object of dislike”, otherwise the thought that all people are scum and you can’t trust anyone can sneak in. It all depends on the scale of human meanness.
2. Treason. This is the same betrayal, but due to the fact that it is committed not just by a friend, but by a loved one, people react to betrayal more rapidly. Most often they are disappointed in potential “soul mates” and then they are already afraid to start a relationship.
3. False. Lies, especially large, is perceived, again, as a betrayal. There is, of course, a difference, but the meaning is the same: we understand that we have been deceived for a long time, we are disappointed in a particular person, and then, perhaps, we completely stop believing in people.
4. Unjustified expectations. This is the most basic reason; all of the above and many others come from it. Any disappointment is due to the fact that a person is too hoping for something. He builds (in his head) illusions that have arisen not from the real state of affairs, but from his own imagination, therefore it is not surprising that they fall apart like a house of cards, leaving the dreamer with a broken trough.

How to survive disappointment

After another exposure of human vices, committing unseemly acts and other unpleasant situations, a completely understandable question comes to mind: how to survive disappointment in people? It seems that everyone around is just like that person who did not live up to your expectations. In fact, this, of course, is not so.

The only way to survive disappointment - any, including in people - is to understand, forgive and accept the idea that there is nobody / nothing perfect on Earth. No way without it. Only the awareness of the futility of trying to find a person without a single flaw can help get rid of disappointment now and prevent similar situations from happening in the future. However, the latter is described in more detail below.

How not to be disappointed in people in the future

The tips below will help you learn how to avoid feeling dissatisfied with people’s unfulfilled expectations.

1. First, you should stop idealizing others. It is impossible to find a perfect person, so you should not even try.
2. Secondly, you need to become tolerant of other people's opinions and thoughts. Disappointing in a person just because of his musical, political or other preferences is stupid.
3. Thirdly, you must try to forget about the person who disappointed you and not judge other people by it. At least because absolutely identical people simply do not exist.
4. Fourthly, it is impossible to see in all surrounding enemies. After disappointment, it seems as if everything around is bad, but it is not.
5. Fifth, you need to listen to other people. Then in the future there will be no disagreements and shouts from the side of the “rival” in the style: “I already told you about something, what are your complaints ?!” etc.
6. Sixthly, people should not have high hopes. The less you expect something from a person, the less likely you will be disappointed in the future. Treat others the way they deserve, and expect nothing from them.

Statuses and sayings about frustration in people

Everyone sometimes wants to show their pain. At that time, statuses about disappointment in people can be very useful, so that, without complaining to everyone you meet, you can still tell others about what is happening on the soul. Another reason for using them is the ability to turn the situation into a joke or look at it with a new look. This is mainly helped not by ordinary statuses, but by wise statements about disappointment in a person. They will not only help to cope with the pain, but also think about the future, in which you can avoid such mistakes.

• Dog is man’s best friend. It will not betray, will not fail, support in difficult times and will never disappoint.
• Ah, the wedding. Women marry out of curiosity, and men marry from boredom. In the end, it turns out that both sides are cruelly disappointed.
• The more disappointments you experience in your life, the less you believe in the existence of worthy people.
• The main thing is never to expect anything from others. And then you will not have to experience disappointment in people.
• Not loneliness attracts me. I just don’t want to get to know someone again so as not to experience another disappointment.
• There is a charm in not loving anyone. You are not disappointed.

So, now that you know a little more about this feeling, you can avoid it in the future. Treat people easier - and life will become easier.