It is interesting that any woman in her childhood dreams of a strong, fearless and courageous knight who will accompany her throughout her married life. But why, when girls grow up, “heroes” with completely opposite characters and psychotypes become their husbands? We are talking about the so-called henpecked people, who are often characters in tales and jokes. They play a trick on them in men's companies and laugh in groups, and women do not particularly like them. However, the mentioned
type of men exists, and many are interested: henpecked - who is it? A ladies man, spineless and weak-willed man, or a man who respects and so shows his love for a woman?
The henpecked man: what is he?
Male husbands are divided into 2 categories: henpecked and everyone else. The first includes all those who, of their own free will, gave the reins of government to a family business in the hands of a wife. Such men fade into the background, get lost on the background of his wife, and she behaves like the head of the family and home. As a rule, such a distribution of roles suits both parties, and a man never claims power. Why? To answer this question, you need to understand the features of the behavior of such a person.
Henpecked. Who is that? This is a man whose functions in the family are taken over by a woman. In fact, she establishes control over her husband, over his life. She also manages the budget, free time and distribution of responsibilities - who, what and when should do in the house. Without her permission or approval, the henpecked husband cannot take a single step; he is not capable of making any decision. He always and in everything obeys his wife, obeys her and runs to her at her first request. No matter how much relatives and friends laugh (who, by the way, henpecked people almost never have during family life), the man continues to be the “second violin” in the family orchestra.
The henpecked man: who is this from the point of view of psychology?
Psychologists and family relations specialists believe that henpecked husbands usually “happen” to strong-willed, strong and powerful women. It is difficult for such ladies to choose an equal partner for themselves, and not every man will endure another "peasant" in the house. However, there are those who do not consider it shameful to be “under the heel” of a strong woman. As a rule, these are men who grew up either in single-parent families without a father, or who were raised by a domineering mother. It is in such families that boys with effeminate characters grow up. They marry (although it would be more correct to say “get married”) to obviously more powerful women, so as not to continue to take responsibility not only for the life of the wife, but also for their own life, not to mention the family as such. That is, not a single woman can make a henpecked man out of a man, if it was not originally laid down in him. Despite all the contradictions, such marriages are sometimes very durable, unless, of course, someone does not "grow out" of such a relationship and does not want to test themselves in a new role. The henpecked, if we take the textbook type, are infantile, weak-willed, current with the flow and
husbands deprived of initiative, in everything and always obeying their spouses. In relationships, they play the role of a son, and the role of the mother falls to the lot of women. They do not fulfill their functions as husbands, that is, they do not fully provide the family with finances, and do not make decisions about vacationing, repairing or buying expensive things. They do not have the right to spend time with friends and are required to report on all their movements. And always should be at home or be with his wife. So, henpecked - who is it? Does this word contain only negative characteristics? No, these men sometimes take great care of everyday life: they cook, wash, clean, keep an eye on children, go shopping for all their purchases. Agree, convenient?