This article is for men. She is about the art of complimenting girls and women. In our not-too-gallant age, it has declined a bit. Manners have become simpler and more frank. Sometimes compliments are confused with flattery, affectionate words, and this is not the same thing. Let's first decide what a compliment is.
A compliment is praise, approval, admiration for beauty, intelligence, spiritual qualities, etc. A small amount of exaggeration is permissible in it. In this he differs from flattery. The flatterer brazenly lies, exaggerating someone's dignity. He does this, trying to achieve benefits for himself. The purpose of the compliment is to give a little pleasure to the vanity of a woman, to create a light, pleasant, relaxed atmosphere.
When making compliments, one must remember a few not-too-complicated rules. We must not forget about courtesy and decency. If compliments for a woman sound frivolous or rude, the impression will be spoiled, despite your sincere feeling of admiration for her.
The real compliment should be as smart, subtle as possible. Light playfulness and exaggeration of virtues are permissible in it, but they should not cross a certain line. Coarse flattery is unpleasant, familiarity is unacceptable. Making a compliment, you seem to slightly raise the interlocutor above you.
A compliment must be true. If a lady has large forms, do not compare her with a graceful gazelle. It is better to admire the freshness of her face, beautiful eyes, dress, subtlety of the soul. Women know their flaws, and, for all their weakness for compliments, they feel a lie.
Compliments for girls and women should be sincere. If you don’t like a woman, it’s better not to say anything. Your words in any case will sound false and cause hostility. It is a completely different matter when a compliment comes from the heart.
You should not think of words, phrases in advance and, especially, use stamps gleaned from the network. Let it be better not too skillful compliment arises impromptu. It will sound more natural, sweet, than prepared in advance. If you add your admiring glance to this, the effect will be excellent.
Of course, compliments for girls should be in place and in time. They should not be ambiguous. If you tell a woman that today she is smart as never before, she may suspect that to this day she was a fool in your eyes. For the same reason, you should not say: “How good you are today!”
What qualities of a girl are better to emphasize in a compliment? Obviously, not only external, but also internal. Let her know that you admire her sincerity, kindness, sincerity, subtlety, dissimilarity to others.
Compliments to a woman can be indirect. Praise what may be dear to her. For example, a beloved cat, or needlework, or a collection of music discs. If you want to make a compliment more convincing, do not use general expressions, such as excellent, very, beautiful. Let there be more specifics.
Perhaps there is some kind of trait in her appearance that she secretly would like to be proud of. Suppose she is a natural blonde, but her hair is not thick enough. Tell her she has amazingly beautiful hair. And in no case should compliments for girls emphasize the qualities that they would like to get rid of. No matter how you like chubby girls, do not praise the fatness of her figure dreaming of losing weight. She will hate you!
If a girl is not pretty, admire her with beautiful hands, manicure, and the ability to dress. Of course, she knows her flaws, but your compliment will be accepted positively. Just do not cross the line between a little exaggeration and flattery. This is the subtle art of compliment.