Human sexual behavior is formed as a complex set of mental, social and physiological processes. Often, the development of sexual desire is strongly influenced by the relationships that have developed in the family, as well as the views of the close environment on sexual life. The nature of sexual perception may vary depending on age, gender, personal preferences and marital status.
The concept
Human sexual behavior is a complex of behavioral reactions that are aimed at finding a partner to interact with him at the sex level. That is, this is the personās internal readiness for such an interaction.
It is important to understand that sexuality is determined by a personās inner desire to enter into an intimate relationship, and not by bright make-up, worked out gait and provocative outfits and gestures. Only a state of inner confidence, passion and fire can be expressed in sexual behavior.
Goals and Functions
Initially, it was arranged so that the search for a partner was carried out exclusively for reproduction, that is, procreation. Accordingly, sex was aimed at fulfilling its reproductive function. After it became possible to regulate the birth rate of children, sex began to be seen more as a pleasure, relaxation and communication between people of the opposite sex.
Types of Sexual Behaviors
Zbigniew Lev-Starovich highlighted several basic varieties of interaction in sex and love that exist in world love:
- Platonic type. It is characterized by manifestations of feelings, but does not apply to bodily contacts. Such a model exists both in the Christian faith and in Buddhism.
- Sensual model. It is characterized by the presence of sexual desire when a feeling of love arises. Moreover, sex is an integral part and manifestation of feelings for a person of the opposite sex.
- Psychophysical variety. Sex and love cannot be considered separately.
- The contrast model. Sex and love are seen as separate forms of relationships. That is, sex can be without love, and love can exist without sex.
- Sex without love. Romantic relationships and manifestations of feelings are inappropriate in such a relationship model. The basis is exclusively sexual satisfaction.
Motives
The psychology of sexual behavior distinguishes sex as one of the basic human needs. Entering into an intimate relationship, people can achieve one or more of the goals that are listed:
- Satisfying physiological needs.
- Expression of oneās feelings.
- The desire to feel loved.
- Procreation.
- Getting sensual pleasure.
- Satisfying sexual curiosity.
- Fear of loneliness, as well as the establishment of close relationships.
- Achievement of material wealth (for example, marriage of convenience).
- Performance of duty. Usually we are talking about marital relations, but there is a category of men who are not able to refuse a woman.
- Concession in response to harassment.
- The desire to bind or subjugate a partner.
- Increased self-esteem due to the number of sexual victories.
Features
To perform the reproductive function, a woman needs to show her inner readiness for copulation to her chosen partner. According to the laws of evolution, the female always chooses the male, although often this happens quite unconsciously.
A woman should be attractive, healthy, have a pleasant smell and appropriate discharge in order to attract a man. Moreover, the partner should feel her inner readiness for sex. Sometimes a woman just needs to be ready for intimacy and wait for the initiative from the man who will find ways to get a partner if he really wants it.
By nature, it is arranged that it is the woman who must choose her partner, since it is the female who is entrusted with the role of bringing and reproducing new life. Every girl is interested in giving birth to a beautiful and healthy baby. Therefore, females tend to choose the best representative from their suitors. And the manās task is to show the woman he is interested in that he is the best among all.
Consider the features of sexual behavior on the example of nature. You can pay attention to the fact that the male is always larger and more attractive than the female. For example, a male peacock has a chic tail with a bright color, and a lion has a thick, silky hair and has a stately gait.
In anticipation of the breeding season, males begin to actively do things that help them get the femaleās attention. Most often these are ritual dances and courtship games. The males show off in front of the females, while fluffing their tails, they spin, and also come to grips with other males if competition occurs.
It is important to understand that evolution and nature are almost impossible to deceive. Therefore, human sexual behavior is often very similar to the male in anticipation of the breeding season. In the modern world, women began to āchaseā men, which is considered an unnatural process in nature.
The main task of a woman is to direct all her forces to self-development, the search for talents, skills and internal work. Thus, a sufficient number of men will appear around her who will be interested in building a relationship with her. It is much easier for a woman to choose a worthy partner when there are many men interested in her.
It is important to remember that wasting her energy and strength in anticipation of the āhandsome princeā or āchasingā the object she liked, the woman risks not getting the best companion for her life, but āgot what was leftā.
Most girls are confused with the concept of true sexuality with imaginary, which is based on external attributes. Such women spend a lot of time and money on dresses, beauty salons, neglecting their inner state, feelings and spirituality. Sometimes a correctly played performance gives a girl such confidence in her sexuality that not even one of the most gorgeous and expensive dress in the world can give.
A happy girl who enjoys sex with a partner is always beautiful and sexually attractive. Unlike an unlucky woman with bright makeup and a beautiful outfit who knows a lot of manual and oral ways to satisfy a man, but she does not get pleasure and satisfaction from this.
Attraction
The development of sexual behavior is innate, but over time it has the peculiarity of becoming more complicated.
The sexual and personal development of a person is most often characterized by the following areas of experience:
- Whether the baby was able to develop a sense of trust that his thirst and hunger will be quenched, and he will be in complete physical safety.
- Conclusions that the child will draw from relationships with loved ones (parents, brothers and sisters).
- Much depends on whether the children learn to love and care for their bodies.
- The nature of education. It is important for parents to understand that a boy needs to be raised as a future man, and a girl as a real woman.
The above items are not of primary importance, but are fundamental in the development of the character and sexuality of any person.
Norms of sexual behavior
Most people are well aware that the following things are not considered normal:
- Your male friend paints his lips.
- The girl satisfies herself with a vibrator and ignores men.
- Partners resort to lashes, clamps, ropes in the intimacy ...
It is important to understand that the concept of the norm is completely different for everyone. A lot depends on the circumstances, place of residence, religion and cultural traditions. Therefore, you do not need to blame your friends for the fact that they live differently. The most dangerous condition for a person is when he considers himself wrong, that is, he is sure that he has deviations in sexual behavior. Such an opinion about yourself can develop due to statements that a person has to hear in his address. For this reason, most people may have problems with their own sexuality.
Consider the points that indicate that a person has no problems in sexual behavior:
- A person can enjoy sex in a variety of ways. He has no fixation. For example, the āfetish of the left legā of his partner.
- He continues to communicate, develop, and realize himself in all spheres of life. A person does not confine himself to a problem.
- He behaves absolutely adequately, and also in accordance with the framework of culture, religion and parenting in the family where he grew up.
If all of the above items are met, then the person is all right, even if others think differently.
Deviations
Sexual deviations do not belong to diseases, therefore, the help of a doctor may be needed only when a person experiences psychological discomfort from their characteristics.
It is important to understand that the limits and characteristics of the normal manifestations of sexual behavior are not established. Today, sexual deviations are considered everything that does not fit into the specific framework of the society in which you live.
Varieties of Sexual Abnormalities
- Transsexualism. Dissatisfaction with belonging to oneās biological sex.
- Asexuality Refusal of sexual relations.
- Homosexuality and lesbianism. Sexual attraction and feelings for people of their gender.
- Masochism. The desire to self-torture yourself. The desire to receive moral and physical pain from your partner.
- Sadism. An irresistible desire to inflict moral and physical pain on your partner, while enjoying it.
- Pedophilia. Sexual attraction to children.
Extreme manifestations of sadism and pedophilia are criminally punishable, they are unacceptable in our society. In all other cases, it is generally accepted that a person has the right to do whatever he wants, without going beyond the law.
Causes
The types of sexual behavior associated with deviations, as well as the nature of their occurrence, are not fully understood. It is believed that the following factors play the main role in the formation of sexual deviations:
- Heredity.
- Intoxication.
- Mental disorders.
- Problems of a psychosexual nature. Often provoked by sex education and the specificity of contact with peers.
- Hormonal abnormalities.
- Changes in brain function due to birth injury.
What can lead to
Sexual behavior with disorders sometimes requires medical attention. Most often it is necessary for people who lose control over their actions. Sexual experiences can take on the character of extreme addiction. Over time, such people can feel their inferiority, bankruptcy, as well as the internal bifurcation of their experiences. Insoluble conflicts between sexual satisfaction methods can lead to dire consequences, such as neurotic disorders or attempted suicide.
It should be noted that most people with a variety of options for sexual development do not have feelings of guilt and emotional feelings. Accordingly, they do not need medical care.