Do you often argue and swear? Trying to blame it on your environment, weather conditions or fate? To learn to understand the causes of conflicts, you should take a critical look at yourself. If you swear more often than many others, you may be a conflicting person. Below are the main causes of controversial situations. If you try to resolve them, then any issue will be resolved peacefully, without turning to a cry.
Moral standards
It is sometimes difficult to understand the cause of the conflict, especially if it does not lie on the surface. It should be understood that all people are different, they were brought up under the supervision of people with different social status. Therefore, it is logical that each person has his own moral values. For example, some people swear, but for others this is unacceptable. So, if such two personalities meet, they will definitely have a conflict, since an intelligent person will not be able to talk with foul language. Because of this, the second may be offended, as he thinks that his opponent is asking. In such a situation, one who is smarter will be wrong. If someone offends you, consider whether he does it on purpose. Perhaps in his circle, communication is considered normal to express and act in the way your opponent acts. Therefore, the reason for resolving the conflict will be very simple. You should never offend a person. If communication with your moral outlook is unpleasant for you, end up so that your interlocutor does not suspect a contemptuous attitude towards him.
Inability to listen
Another common cause of conflict is the amazing ability of many people to disengage from the current conversation. Sometimes you have to sadly notice that the interlocutor seems to be listening, but does not hear at all. How can this happen? There are several reasons for this phenomenon. The first one is that your opponent is bored. No need to run into rudeness and shout at a person that he does not hear. Try to concisely conclude the topic and find a more worthy listener. The second reason for conflicts due to inability to listen is the active mental activity of a person. For example, in a heated argument, your interlocutor may not listen to you. This is unrealistic, many might think, but it really is. Instead of listening, a person can reflect on a jabber, appropriate sarcasm, as well as on his arguments. How, then, to avoid conflict? First you need to make sure that your words do not reach the person, and then smoothly minimize the discussion. You can even close the dispute by admitting defeat. This should not affect your ego in any way, since a dispute with a person who does not bother listening to criticism is equivalent to a dispute with a wall.
False
People lie to each other all the time. Moreover, the degree of lies can be different, from a simple exaggeration to a serious redo of facts. And some people believe that hiding information and lying are not the same thing. All this lies often causes conflicts. People swear, and very seriously. Especially the conflict will be strong if a person completely lies, and then they catch him red-handed. How to avoid this? It should be understood that the main cause of conflicts - a lie - tends to accumulate. She will grow like a snowball. Today you are lying to your parents about grades, and tomorrow, your boss about your successes. And when you are taken to clean water, there is nothing left but to change your job or spoil your relationship with your parents. Even a lie called white can cause conflict. If you have a choice: tell the person the truth or lie - tell the truth. Yes, it can be unpleasant, but it can help maintain a good relationship.
Envy
Human vices are different. Someone used to lie, and someone envy. But neither one nor the other leads to good. Envy is one of the causes of social conflict. This is especially true in our century. Why? Because inequality has never been so visible. With the advent of Instagram, people became more envious. Why? Because when you look daily at the beautiful life of acquaintances, in photographs from foreign trips and wonderful landscapes, and then return to your reality, your soul becomes sad. Many people today have forgotten how to rejoice for others. When meeting with a more successful comrade, a person can be rude to him simply because he earns more. How to avoid such conflicts? Very simple. You need to understand that the life that people lead on social networks is not their reality. This is an illusion, a fairy tale, which they demonstrate to others. A girl who accepts expensive gifts from wealthy gentlemen may not be loved by anyone at all, and a guy who has an athletic body can be very stupid. No, do not look for vices in people. Just keep in mind that too often you don’t know what you envy.
Misunderstanding
Another cause of social conflict is human judgment. People often see a situation the way they want to see it, and not the way it really is. It is this amazing property of the human brain that makes people scandal. Sometimes fantasy jokes about people, but it happens that friends can add fuel to the fire. For example, a woman may believe that her husband is cheating on her. Why does she think so? Because a friend complained that her husband had cheated on her. A woman can conclude that all men go to the left, and because of this, a scandal will break out.
But sometimes it happens that people talk to each other and even hear each other, but interpret the words in different ways. Of course, girls have this ability more often. After the dialogue is over, they can scroll through what they hear several times, and then they also interpret the words of the interlocutor in their own way, looking for the secret meaning in them. What could be worse? Only the fact that women love to share their misinterpreted dialogue with friends.
Bad relationship
What else could be the causes of conflict? One of them is a bad relationship between people. Probably, every person in the circle of friends has a personality that for some reason is unpleasant. For example, a person could offend, and this is very memorable. Or perhaps people just have different moral values. And due to the fact that you do not like a person, you can sometimes break on him. And the reason you will absolutely not need. It is enough that the unpleasant person just cast a sidelong glance. Is it stupid? But many people conflict solely on this basis. To avoid such conflicts, you should simply not communicate with people who are unpleasant to you. Well, if you have to do this, try not to judge the person, but to understand his point of view. Are you not interested in football? Why not listen to him from a person who understands this topic. See conversation as an opportunity to broaden your horizons.
Fight for leadership
The reasons for the conflict between men can be many. The most common is the struggle for leadership. Guys can even use physical force to figure out which one is cooler. But this method of clarifying relationships is used by young men. Adult men try to emphasize their superiority over other expensive toys. It can be branded watches, sports cars, the best women. Possessing such things and objects helps a man to assert himself.
But women often fight, but they rarely want to take a leadership position. They are focused on finding a rich gentleman and are in conflict precisely because of his person. And as you know, in war, all means are good. Girls can not only intrigue each other, but also use physical force.
Conflict of interest
Psychologists have identified the causes of conflicts, which are considered the most common. And among them is the difference of interests. People who cannot find common topics for conversation have a difficult time communicating. And if they by the will of fate must face every day, for example, at work? Then, sooner or later, conflicts will begin to arise between them. Even on the basis of various favorite sports, you can quarrel, for example, figuring out what is cooler, football or hockey. Moreover, such disputes may arise between well-communicating people. For example, girls can discuss with foam at the mouth which brand of fashion houses is better, and men will prove to each other that one brand of car is better than another.
Different culture
And what are the causes of interethnic conflicts? Most often they arise due to differences in culture. People do not know the customs of foreigners, therefore they cannot communicate normally with them. For example, when arriving in a Muslim country, women from Russia do not always consider it necessary to put on a long skirt in public places, rather than mini-shorts. It is because of such small clashes that an ethnic conflict can even arise. To avoid such unfriendliness on the part of people from other states, you need to remember the proverb: don’t go into someone else’s monastery with your charter. So if you are going to rest abroad, then be sure to study the customs of the country that you are going to visit.
Bad mood
How often do you get angry? One of the common causes of conflict is a bad mood. There are days when everything goes wrong in the morning. Coffee escaped, the wheel in the car turned out to be punctured, because of such a mess, the person was late for work and received a reprimand from his superiors. It is clear that even a simple good morning wish from a colleague can be broken. Moreover, in this way you can spoil the mood of a person who has not done anything wrong. They say that a hot hand should not be climbed. But in order to eliminate such conflicts, each person must learn to hold himself and his emotions in his hands. Well, if you still broke, do not forget to apologize to the person who yelled at when you cool.