From the very first moments of birth, a tiny creature that has come into this world has a huge flow of information. And the little man perceives it with all the senses. After some time, a small subject learns to systematize the information received, from which the first impressions of the environment are made up. But the emerging consciousness would not have had enough of all life to know one huge world. And therefore, soon the baby enters into communication with other people, learning to perceive the information accumulated by them, listening to their conversations and receiving advice. And only after many years, the grown up subject begins to develop his own opinion about the environment. This serves as evidence that he is forming as a person.
Stages of knowledge
Who should the child listen to, if not their own parents. Moreover, they, as a rule, always want only good for their beloved children. But it happens that the opinion of even the most native people is not just expressed to the rising son or daughter, but is imposed. In some cases, this happens covertly, but can take the form of an outright dictate.
Not all parents want to understand that the child has the right to their own opinion. But even without perceiving him as a person, relatives do not want evil. They simply believe that they know better what to do in this or that case.
The worldview of the child is a variable thing. It most often changes over time under the influence of accumulated experience. In this, in fact, the stages of cognition of the surrounding world are reflected.
Learn from your own mistakes
Many young people are sure that doing everything according to the rules is a guarantee that nothing bad will ever happen to you. However, life destroys their stereotypes. Others, on the contrary, try to act contrary to everything, seeking the right to act as they see fit. They crush dogma and ridicule established truths. Sometimes this contributes to progress, but often ends in tragedy.
You have to pay for mistakes, and sometimes it’s extremely cruel. By imposing their own opinions on children, parents want to protect them from disappointment and pain. But one does not want to understand that life experience is often formed precisely on errors. Otherwise, their child will never take place as a person.
Dependence on the opinions of others
You have to listen to the opinions of others, because human life is too short, and the experience of ancestors and contemporaries is simply necessary to do something worthwhile in your lifetime. You cannot judge everything yourself. However, should any opinion be heeded, and does each advice contain valuable information? If parents, sharing their opinions and wishing only good, are mistaken, then people who give advice from bad motives are often found.
Some only listen to the opinions of reputable, trusted mentors. But there are those for whom any sideways glance, a sharp remark, an insulting remark is already a tragedy. Those representatives of the human race who are able to adequately and soberly react to such things, without moral throwing and internal torment, can already consider themselves people to be self-sufficient and independent. Therefore, when others are slandering, you can give only one piece of advice: have your own opinion.
Is it worth following the crowd?
Most of the representatives of the human race find it easier to perceive what is generally accepted, tested, popular than to find their own answers to questions that arise in life. In order not to seem stupid, not to become an object of censure in society and criticism of others, people hide true feelings, do not give way to secret thoughts. They do not dare to openly express their own opinions. But if you constantly shut up your mouth with your inner “I,” how then can you bring your ideas to the world and leave a mark in this Universe?
In addition, if you live not from your own mind from birth, then this contributes to the development of indecision and self-doubt. And all this for the "vultures" of this world serves as a signal to attack. After all, wimps in the herd of "predators" decided to "eat" first.
Self-education
The formation of one’s own opinion is not something that ends at a certain moment and then miraculously freezes in place. This process, like our life, is in constant motion. Moreover, it can be called a tool of knowledge. And education serves as food for him. But learning in itself is nothing without constant self-improvement.
A personal opinion can be formed from facts that were once heard and read somewhere. But it is much better if all this is confirmed by their own experience. The knowledge accumulated by others is best tested in practice. And then the questions about whose advice you should listen to will disappear by themselves.
Influence others
When a person does not have his own opinion, he already gives occasion to others to manipulate themselves. Desires, dreams and impulses remain unfulfilled. Life passes, and looking back on the path traveled, a person is able to see only once missed opportunities. For those around, such a subject remains nothing more than an empty place. Nobody will take such personalities seriously.
Personal opinion is simply necessary in order to be aware of oneself and one's place in society, even just to remain human. Such people begin to do what others are actually unable to do. Bright personalities are followed, they are equated and try to be like. If a person does not exist something unique, strictly individual - his own "I", then, in fact, it turns out that he does not need to live.