Willpower processes in the human psyche are those that manifest themselves in the ability to control one’s own behavior. Each person is responsible for his own life, the events occurring in it and for the habits that he has formed. For this reason, when the conversation comes to any harmful actions that a person is addicted to and is not able to part with, one can draw a conclusion about the weak development of volitional processes.
The formation of the will of the child
If the will is not developed at a good enough level, this can be manifested in the rejection of personal responsibility or shifting it to something or someone from outside. The way emotionally volitional processes develop can be observed in a person’s childhood. They can be easily noticed in attempts to get what you want, as well as while defending your own interests.
The important role in this development, of course, is played by the parents, their support and personal example, which each of the partners demonstrates. In those cases when the parents strongly support the child emotionally and build up normal motivation to achieve any goals, the development of the qualities of volitional processes in a person proceeds normally.
If from childhood, a person has the opportunity to observe how his parents normally cope with their emotions, skillfully defeat bad habits, constantly improve their quality of life, and also take good care of health, then with a high probability he will follow them in his adult life for example.
In addition to parents, the environment in which the child is most of his time has a significant influence on the development of emotional-volitional processes.
The negative sides of self-control
It has always been customary to believe that a strong will is an exceptionally positive trait of character, although this point may actually be controversial. Often, enhanced self-control does not allow us to discern the particular behind the overall picture and does not always take into account external circumstances.
Thus, a person who devotes excessive attention to self-control may cease to devote it to his needs and desires. Then there is a chance to unlearn how to enjoy life.
Not in all cases, order and complete control over oneself can bring a person a sense of satisfaction. When building relationships with each other, people tend to make mistakes, and complete submission to their strong-willed mental processes can lower the quality of the ability to forgive people for these very mistakes.
In addition to all this, it was noted that strong-willed people may have difficulty in relaxing and getting good emotions here and now.
Strong-willed qualities
These are personality traits that a person develops when he receives an important life experience and is inextricably linked with overcoming various obstacles in his path, as well as the realization of his will.
Psychology identifies many personal qualities, one way or another connected with the manifestation of the will. The main ones include the following:
- purposefulness;
- determination;
- manifestation of the initiative;
- persistence;
- discipline;
- excerpt.
All of the above qualities, one way or another, are associated with the manifestation of one's own will. And their development begins in childhood, when the child carries out the most banal family assignments and school assignments, and this development continues already in higher educational institutions, the army, and so on.
Nurturing qualities
Naturally, work on one’s qualities should not go through increasing nervous tension and end with stress. Moreover, in the repetition of certain actions every day you need to find your positive sides, develop your optimism in general, it is a little easier to relate to life, ideally with humor.
As for the goals, it is best to set them as specifically as possible. Naturally, there are often moments of uncertainty in life, but they should be an incentive to search for new solutions to the problems that have arisen.
A person who makes a contribution to the development of his volitional qualities needs to have a sense of responsibility, otherwise the ego can take over him.
Confidence development
Psychologists and senior teachers of the school were able to achieve the development of a sense of confidence among students (who were engaged in complex physical exercises) using the following methods:
- Gradual complication of tasks that arise in the way of students.
- Analysis of exercises, separation of the most complex of them into separate elements.
- The study of special exercises designed to create a confident attitude while performing the basic elements of the program.
- Connection of the competitive part.
- Psychological support for students.
Perseverance and determination
Such qualities as determination and perseverance are formed when we set a goal that we can fully cope with and subsequently bring it to the end.
It’s good when these qualities are formed even before the child enters school, because it is extremely important to be able to not give up when there are various obstacles to the goal.
Discipline development
If you do not discipline yourself, then there can be no talk of developing any other qualities. In order to develop your discipline, you can resort to the following:
- Adequately evaluate yourself.
- Do not self-flagellate if something went wrong.
- Fully accept yourself, while striving to be better.
- Do not make promises that will not be fulfilled.
- If the promise has already been given, fulfill it.
- Do not be late anywhere.
Manifestation of independence
Such a personal quality of a person as independence, exists not so much in itself, but in relation to a certain activity. And in order to develop this volitional quality, the following will be required:
- In order to become independent in any business, knowledge and skills in this business will be required.
- A teacher or mentor who opens the path to knowledge is desirable, but it is important that he does not interfere with the student’s initiative.
- Real interest in the job.
How to be decisive
Decisiveness arises from a feeling of confidence that sufficient forces are available to achieve the result, and also because of a lack of understanding of what the final result will be and because of the banal fear of defeat.
When not the simplest situations have already been overcome before, when similar problems have already been resolved, and when there is adequate preparation, then decisiveness will quickly appear on its own and will help to overcome uncertainty and fear, and will also allow you to gain full control over the current situation.