A baby is not born a liar. He becomes so in the process of growing up, communicating, entering society. Noting that by telling a lie, you can achieve the desired result, he begins to lie. Recognizing fiction is sometimes very difficult, because in the process of conversation a person uses all the information channels: speech, non-verbal, behavioral. To determine whether you are a liar or not, you can pay attention to his facial expressions, gestures, posture and gait, voice intonation. Identifying lies on non-verbal grounds involves monitoring the behavior of a person during a conversation. When he lies, his reactions and facial expressions change .
Facial expressions
Often it is informative and allows you to look into the depths of human consciousness, to feel what the interlocutor is thinking. Identifying lies by observing a person helps to uncover the truth, despite the flow of words. For example, if his cheek muscles are too tense, his cheekbones go, this may indicate a lie. There is even such an expression: "A shadow flickered on the face." If you feel it, then the liar is caught. The voltage does not last long, literally a second. Although there are such persons who make a long deceitful speech with a completely stone face. It does not display emotions and tension. In this case, you should pay attention to other facial expressions.
The psychology of lies lies in the change in skin color. Involuntarily a person blushes or, conversely, becomes very pale. Also signs of insincerity are trembling lips, their biting, licking. It is believed that the eyes are a reflection of our internal state, therefore, the expansion of the pupils, frequent blinking also serves as a reason for suspicion that a person is lying to you. The same can be said if the interlocutor looks away. Usually, when a person tells the truth, he looks right in your eyes. If 2/3 of your communication you met with views, then there is no reason to suspect your opponent of a lie. If all this time he was looking to the side, then most likely he was lying.
A personâs lie also manifests itself in various kinds of tweaks. If he frowns, then perhaps he is telling a lie. Individual facial expressions also serve as indicators of lies. Studying the interlocutor, you will gradually notice his unusual facial expression of behavioral signs and draw the appropriate conclusions.
Smile
A smile should be considered separately, because by its special features, much can be said about the veracity of the opponent. True or false sounds from the lips of the interlocutor, you can determine by carefully observing it. There are several reasons why a smile appears when lying. Firstly, it can be used to relieve stress. Lying requires a special emotional outlay. Therefore, a person seeks strength within himself not to be caught. And in this way relaxes. Secondly, the presence of a smile during a conversation may indicate that with its help the interlocutor is trying to hide his emotions, feelings, lie about his current state. One such manifestation is the so-called stupid smile when reporting tragic news. A man tries to hide behind her as a shield from the troubles of others, involuntarily showing his true state of mind. âIt's good that this did not happen to me,â the owner of the âstupidâ smile thinks, giving this gesture his fake condolences.
Unfortunately, the methods of detecting lies by smile, although they work, require special experience that only professionals can boast of. After all, people smile equally often both when lying and when telling the truth. Specialists have identified more than 50 types of different smiles. When determining a lie, the following characteristic is important. It is proved that if a personâs lips are pulled back from the teeth and form an elongated line, and the smile itself seems shallow, this demonstrates the politeness of the interlocutor, his attentiveness, but not sincerity and willingness to tell the truth. When a person lies, he can also laugh unnaturally and sometimes hysterically.
General expression
Features of non-verbal communication are manifested in the look of the interlocutor. Sometimes, just by observing a person, you can learn more about a person, about his inner world, feelings and fears, than by listening to his long speech. How, by analyzing the general expression of the face, one can detect a lie? Three ways to identify a lie are:
- Asymmetry. Two halves of a personâs face always express the same feelings, only on one side are they stronger, on the other a little weaker. In any case, the facial muscles work synchronously. If you notice a disagreement between them , this is a clear sign that you are being lied to. The interlocutor is trying to demonstrate a feeling that he does not actually experience.
- Localization with respect to words. If emotions adequately color phrases, it means that they are talking to you without deceiving. If they are late, then, most likely, the interlocutor "fakes". Having said the phrase, he selects the desired facial expression for a split second, which indicates his insincerity. The truth is manifested in the complete harmony and simultaneity of speech and emotions. This phenomenon was called âsound gestureâ by Russian film and theater director Sergei Eisenstein.
- Temporary characteristics. If a facial expression containing one emotion lasts about 5 seconds, it means that you are being deceived. If it does not change for 10 seconds - you are definitely lying. Sincere feelings on the face change much faster and more often. The exceptions are deep depression, intense rage, and genuine ecstasy. Other genuine feelings are usually very short-lived. They hold on for only a few seconds. A long demonstration of one emotion is most likely a mask, behind which the interlocutor hides his real feelings.
Detecting lies by observing a general facial expression is very effective. This can be learned without much effort.
Gestures
If the stone face and the complete absence of facial expressions are able to hide the truth, then restoring full control over the movements is much more difficult. Determining lies by gestures is a fairly easy and very exciting experience. Usually liars begin to clutch at the face and its parts. Rubbing the nose and earlobes, covering the mouth with the palm of your hand, puffing out your cheeks, exhaling upward, playing with the air with your bangs are all signs that something is being hidden from you. Just pay attention: if a person suffers from allergies, then all kinds of scratching and rubbing can indicate an exacerbation of the disease, and not a lie. The same can be said about coughing: if the interlocutor became ill, then coughing is normal. If he does this for no apparent reason, then this is a potential fraud.
The theory of lies suggests that trembling in the whole body or its separate parts (knees and arms) indicates the insincerity of the interlocutor. If at the same time he relies on some object, dances or rushes about, you can also safely suspect him of lying. If a person is sitting during a conversation, then obvious signs of a lie are his fidgeting in a chair, a change in posture, and position of his legs. Women are much easier to convict than men. Identifying lies by non-verbal signs in the fairer sex is a simple process. Pay attention to what she does during the conversation. Scrolling the ring on the finger, any actions with the hair and even correcting makeup are the most obvious signs that she is telling a lie. And even a quick look at the watchâs dial or at the screen of a mobile phone may indicate that a person is lying, this lie is unpleasant for him, and he wants to reduce the conversation to nothing as soon as possible.
When "pulls to the left"
This side is more truthful and will never let you down if you are trying to guess: the truth or the lie sounds from the lips of your interlocutor. The left side of the face, left arm or leg give out real feelings and emotions. If during a conversation with you a person does not know where to put his left hand, it randomly dangles in the air, pulls its pockets and collar, thoughtlessly writes out somersaults - this is a sign that they tell you a lie. The left leg also gives out its master. During an outright lie, she periodically bends at the knee or draws figures on the ground.
Why exactly the left side? The thing is that the brain controls the right half of the body better. We involuntarily pay attention to it, completely losing sight of what the left side is doing at this time. And she can âunravelâ our secrets and give out the true mood and state of mind.
The thing is that different hemispheres of the brain are responsible for human actions. So, its right part gives vent to emotions, imagination, imagination and creativity. And the left controls speech, intelligence, analytical thinking. At the same time management is crossed. Therefore, the right side of the personâs face and body is more controlled, while the left side can unconsciously turn our inner self inside out.
Remember that the hand, especially the left, is your greatest enemy. No other part of the body is able to convict us so clearly of lies. Therefore, if you want to hide your feelings and real feelings from others, it is better to put it in your pocket in advance, squeeze it into a fist and do not make it move. In this way, perhaps you will hide the deception if your behavior and facial expressions do not give out true emotions.
Conversation pose
The psychology of lies is built in such a way that when a person tells a lie, he is stretched like a string. Usually he stands straight, too straight and unnatural. When the interlocutor sincerely listens to you, is ready to make contact, the distance between you decreases. He reaches as much as possible, looks into your eyes, and you feel his location inwardly.
But when he moves away, this indicates his unwillingness to listen to you, empathize and show his mood. If the opponent sits and draws flowers and patterns on paper, he is bored, but he is trying to hide it. Discontent and even anger show his eyes set aside or a look of sullenness. Even if you are nicely smiling, but your arms are crossed and your body is leaning forward, this means a complete denial of you as a person. The bound legs demonstrate a personâs willingness to compete with you in all areas of life.
Hands can also tell true intentions. If the thumb is raised upwards, this is approval. If the little finger is denial. Suspicion and distrust show tightly coupled hands. Crossed fingers give out uncertainty and nervousness, while the big ones are in motion, rubbing and fingering each other. The standard posture that shows superiority is the hands behind the back. In this case, the chin is lifted up.
The aggression of the interlocutor can be easily calculated by his breathing. If it is unstable, inhale and exhale short, nostrils swell, it means that he is on the verge. And if you donât stop, you can provoke a conflict. Hostility is also traditionally evidenced by an "oblique" look, a frowned forehead, lowered corners of the lips and the tips of the eyebrows. Identifying lies on non-verbal grounds, including the pose of a person, will help you understand his true intentions, feelings and mood.
Lies and gait
Features of non-verbal communication are colorfully manifested in the way a person goes, what are his steps. Psychologists have always argued that the walk of a positive-minded and joyful individual is easy. He seems to be flying. At the same time, he can go quickly, being on the rise of good emotions. And the evil man has heavy steps. The sad one goes, hunched over, dropping his shoulders and head down, confident in himself - directly and slowly.
Recently, scientists even made a device that at a distance can pick up the mood of an object only by its gait. With the help of the apparatus, they can not only convict people of lies, but also diagnose diseases of both mental and physical nature. The device is capable of fixing 100 micromotion in just one second. After analyzing them, you can add a clear and true picture of the internal state of the âexperimentalâ.
The purpose of this device is to predict possible severe depression and stress in a person in order to take timely measures. He is very useful in psychiatry. It will be possible to diagnose complex mental illnesses, and even epileptic seizures. In politics, the apparatus will also play a large role. By installing such a device near the official, people will be able to understand his true intentions and the false manifestations of his nature.
Verbal signs of lies
Focusing on the interlocutorâs speech, you can also easily catch him on a lie. Usually insincere people speak very briefly. They avoid giving extensive answers to questions so as not to get confused in the future about what they said to a particular person. Reluctance to disclose details, they explain the lack of information. Some, on the contrary, describe everything in too much detail. Their endless imagination leads into such impassable wilds that you forget how the story actually began. In any case, there must be a middle ground: without undue brevity and detail.
In addition, liars in every possible way emphasize their truth and honesty, require you to confirm their own words. They skillfully juggle expressions such as âI swearâ, âhand on heartâ and so on.
Sometimes a potential liar is very harsh and even rude - this is a defensive reaction. In this way, it minimizes your refutation and its further exposure. Determining lies by voice is a task that every observant person will cope with. Usually the voice trembles in all the liars. In this case, intonation can be either monophonic to hide true emotions, or too pronounced: a person seems to replay.
The deceiver will distract you with unnecessary questions if the conversation takes an unwanted turn for him. He will even try to quietly translate the topic. He will try not to use personal pronouns such as "I", "me", "mine." They will be replaced by separate "they" or "we." Determining lies by voice will help to calculate the liar, even if he successfully disguised from you non-verbal signs of deception.
How to bring a liar to clean water
The theory of lies provides several tricks with which you can recognize a lie:
- A liar needs to talk. Say that you misunderstood his story and ask him to retell it again. This task is very difficult even for a professional cheater. After all, you need to exactly repeat all the details that he could already forget about in the process of lying. If you ask to retell the story from the end, then the liar will definitely get confused.
- Ask the right questions. That is, those to which he must give an exact answer. For example, you can say: "Clarify this point in detail"; âDescribe in more detail,â and so on. Questions should be general at first, leave detailed for later. Ideally, when the interlocutor has moved away from the topic and forgotten, itâs easier for him to talk out. Go back and ask something about the beginning of the story. The narrator will have to strain his brain to remember what he was talking about a couple of minutes ago, which is quite difficult.
- Listen very carefully. Make an interested person. Sometimes frown, as if in doubt about something. A liar carefully monitors your expression, reaction. Any perplexity or distrust in your eyes confuses him all the cards. He begins to stray, stutter, blush and even sweat.
Do not be angry if a person is lying. What to do and how to confuse it, you already know. Remember that superiority is on the side of truth, falsehood will always be discovered and punished according to your deserts.
If a person is hiding something
Let's summarize. How does a person behave when he is lying? Firstly, he weakly expresses his emotions. His reaction is slow, intermittent speech, begins with a delay, then the storyline is rapidly developing and suddenly breaks off. Secondly, there may be long pauses between sentences and words. And emotions do not keep up with the speech flow. For example, they tell you that you did an excellent job, and only then they smile. For a sincere person, a smile will accompany these words.
Identifying lies on non-verbal grounds involves observing a person. His expression should correspond to what was said. If the interlocutor confesses his love, and his face is sour or tired, then most likely this is not true. Remember that the deceiver smiles only with his mouth.
The liar usually cringes, squeezes into a chair, clasps his hands to himself - he tries to take as little space as possible around. He constantly touches and tugs at something, usually with his left hand: parts of his face or clothes. Avoids your gaze, does not look in the eye. The liar tries to turn away at every opportunity, puts between you various improvised objects: a bag, a vase or a chair. This is his so-called protective barrier.
The liar answers the questions vaguely, as if he âfloatsâ in his story. Or, conversely, sometimes it speaks too detailed. And when suddenly a pause hangs in the air, he feels as uncomfortable as possible. When a person lies, he gets confused in facts and arguments, jumps in the story from place to place.
If you are sure that you are being deceived, just change the subject. If you are not mistaken in suspicion, then the liar will willingly begin to discuss a new subject of conversation. He can even breathe a sigh of relief. Sometimes he uses humor to laugh it off and get away from a direct answer.
These tips will help you accurately figure out a liar. Just remember that stuttering, an âempty lookâ, slurred speech, a tight smile and other signs may not be direct evidence of a lie, but simply the consequences of a hard day, trouble, illness or fatigue. Therefore, be careful and as objective as possible.