All people on earth, regardless of gender, skin color, age and religion, are united by one desire - to be happy. Just be happy, not thinking about what tomorrow is preparing for us, not worrying about how much money is left on the account, whether your favorite football team will win and if there are enough funds for new shoes from Gucci.
Concept of happiness
However, each of us understands happiness in our own way. For some, happiness is the health and well-being of loved ones; for some, a dizzying career, Swiss bank accounts, expensive cars and vacations in Hawaii.
Someone sees their happiness in fame, recognition and creativity, and someone will be immensely happy when they discover a tiny browned piece of bread that seems like the most delicious treat in the world, and find a place to sleep at least for one night, so that in the morning to continue the
struggle for existence again
. Happiness is different even in the understanding of men and women. What does a man need to be happy? To establish oneself in one’s own eyes and those of others, to earn decent money, to occupy a certain position in society, to meet a faithful and caring companion of life, and paradoxically, it’s delicious to eat. While a strong man’s shoulder, a strong family, confidence in the future, healthy children are exactly what a woman needs to be happy, or rather, most women, not to mention those women who put self-realization and a career in the first place.
We live and work, we strive to fill life with bright moments, constantly wondering why happiness is needed and how to deserve it. Why does man need happiness? Why is the meaning of life of any of us reduced to the search for this good? Are the concepts of "love" and "happiness" identical? A series of eternal questions with no answers. Because happiness is difficult to achieve, changeable and deceptive. And there is no clear set of rules on how to find it and keep it.
Money for happiness or happiness in money?
One of the common beliefs that money makes us happier, unfortunately, is wrong. And not even their number, as the French millionaire Paul Getty said. 60% of millionaires, show business stars and successful businessmen abuse alcohol and get drugs, in order to get out of depression, get sick more often and die prematurely from diseases caused by stress and injections that support youth and beauty. They experience the same feelings as people with disabilities, losing loved ones, worrying about children, fearing the future, suffering from loneliness, betrayal and betrayal. And no money can give them an all-consuming feeling of satisfaction and joy.
And sometimes how little is needed for happiness: a hearty lunch and a good night's sleep; brilliant exam results; the long-awaited "love." Let a short, but delightful moment of euphoria and delight, not depending on the number of notes in the wallet.
Labor as a way to become happy
If you believe the greatest thinkers and authors of thematic books, the meaning of happiness lies in purposeful work and exhausting work. The lack of joyful moments can be replaced by your favorite business, blocking the need for happiness with thoughts about the expected success and achievement of the goal. And the achievement of the goal is one of the components of a happy and self-sufficient life. Moreover, the process of moving towards it, each stage passed gives meaning to existence, fills life with colors, hopes, the sweet taste of the expected victory, giving wonderful, unique moments. However, in many cases, the end result brings only a feeling of bitterness and disappointment instead of the expected joy. Why it happens?
“Everyone wants to live on the top of the mountain, but all happiness, all development takes place while you climb there,” P. Coelho said. The path has been successfully passed, the goal has been achieved, and there is no longer that excitement, that aspiration, that adrenaline that fills life with a bright palette of feelings. What to do in this case, and how long does it take to pass such roads for happiness? Psychologists recommend regularly setting themselves various goals and seek to achieve them. And then you can keep the changeable and capricious Fortuna near you for a long time.
Love and happiness. Are these concepts identical?
Returning to the question of what happiness is for, I want to say that a positive attitude caused by an all-consuming feeling called “love” has a beneficial effect on human health and life. Yes, it is able to make people happy, because the need for this wonderful feeling is inherent in us since childhood, we absorbed it along with mother’s milk, received it from relatives and friends.
Love and only love is what a woman needs to be happy, to shine her eyes, to preserve youth and beauty. Love is the very force that moves the world, softens hearts and inspires action. Love, even undivided, embodies happiness. Happiness is to feel, tremble, live another person, rejoice, worry about him and even suffer. Only love can give a person a dizzying cocktail of feelings, a volcano of emotions and a hurricane of sensations. This is the highest feeling that everyone deserves and which gives true meaning to our existence.
The laws of a happy life
Each person should have his own personal code of laws of a “happy life”, guided by which he will make it better and more interesting. These golden rules are a kind of line of behavior aimed at achieving goals, fulfilling desires and gaining spiritual harmony. They are wonderful in that they serve as an excellent motivation for success, form a way of thinking, a system of values and in no case will they allow you to give up, being a kind of answer to the eternal question of what happiness is for.
Victory over oneself
Subjugate your inner self and inspire him to fulfill his dream. Victory over oneself is one of the greatest deeds worthy of admiration. To defeat oneself means to defeat laziness, expel doubts, inner fears, insecurity and fill the mind with pleasant thoughts and the desire to achieve the goal. And the realization of a dream, as mentioned above, is the condition that can make us a little happier.
Thoughts are material
We are the result of what we think of ourselves. You do not need to consider yourself worthless, unnecessary, unlucky, just because there are people in your environment who are more successful, smart and vibrant than you. You will never become them, but you can become those who are admired and envied. And in order to achieve such a result, you just need to believe in yourself, try to see only good in everything, do good, be focused on success and not give up. Bad thoughts, a pessimistic attitude, nagging and rejecting oneself are evil that will sooner or later destroy your life.
Generosity is a trait of strong people
Know how to forgive and let go. Forgiving the person who has done you harm, you free your soul from unnecessary memories and grievances. And letting go of the source of pain, thereby destroying the pain itself, having earned the right to a carefree and unclouded by unpleasant memories existence.
Happiness is within you!
Your peace of mind should not depend on the material goods and values accepted by the surrounding society. Do not consider yourself worse than others if you do not possess what they have. Each person has his own happiness, it does not come along with the acquired machine, mansion, expensive things, but lives inside you, quietly and imperceptibly, until you realize this.
Do not compare yourself with other people, do not let them shape their life scenario, do not adapt to the opinions of others and public stereotypes. High social status is not a guarantee of a happy and carefree life, but rather its miserable copy. The harmony of the soul is a simple happiness that should settle in your heart and sow in it the fruits of love and luck.
Dream ... And what if it comes true?
Dream and believe in your dreams. Every dream has a wonderful property to come true. Do not pay attention to those who are trying to inspire you with the impossibility of its implementation. The impossible becomes possible, if you really want to. A person always considers himself weaker than he is, forgetting about the powerful internal reserves that are usually activated in difficult life situations.
Support Group
Learn to feel the people around you.
“Hall Help” is a powerful stimulant, tremendous support and untold wealth. The wider your circle of friends, the more friends and associates you have, the happier and calmer your life. Learn to win over people, be an interesting conversationalist, an attentive listener, a sincere and responsive friend. Know how to control your emotions, understand and justify the words and actions of another person, support his crazy ideas and undertakings. And then you will have a reliable rear and a huge support group that will believe in you, follow you and take an example. Confidence in friends and one's own significance - and what does a man need to be happy?
Following these golden laws of life, you will not only succeed, but also will find peace of mind, inner harmony and respect of others, which are integral components of changeable happiness.
So what is happiness for? According to statistics, happy people live longer and get sick less. Their life is bright, sunny, interesting, they attract people like a magnet, infecting them with their enthusiasm, admiring the surging life energy, they are facilitated by success, they easily realize all their dreams. Want to become like them? Stop complaining about life and blame yourself for all failures, smile broadly and look at the world from a different angle. He is beautiful, isn't he?