Today we’ll talk about what almost everyone knows. Cronyism is our topic. Consider whether familiarity is so harmless, we select synonyms and examples.
Value
We do not go out into the sea of ​​unknown words without our compass and lantern in one person - an explanatory dictionary. And he tells us that the meaning of the object in question is as follows: "Disrespectful, familiar attitude to those who demand respect, to the elders."
An example is quite simple. For example, imagine that some teacher’s name is Ekaterina Ivanovna, and here the student Vasily comes to her and says: “Hello, Katka, what’s up?” Slightly embarrassing, is n't it? This is familiarity as it is.
What does the example teach? That you always need to keep your distance. And it is not only a matter of age, but of a person’s position, his possibly changed ideas about life. Suppose someone studied in the same class with someone, but 20 years have passed, and one works at the factory, and the other runs a small car rental company. Theoretically, classmates, of course, can meet, slap each other on the shoulder and hug, and then go to the nearest tavern, but this is possible if each of them agrees to communicate without ceremony, and if not? Cronyism is not always vulgarity, sometimes sincerity expresses itself this way, but an agreement is needed between the parties.
Woland and Margarita
Literally a small episode from an epoch-making novel, the name of which is unnecessary to mention, because the actors speak for themselves. Remember the moment when Margarita appeared at the ball of the prince of darkness to fulfill the role of queen and mistress of the celebration? This event was preceded by a conversation between the girl and the devil. Seeing the guest, Woland already wanted to cancel his chess game with the Hippopotamus, but Margarita categorically forbade it. But this was a test that the master’s mistress passed not without difficulty with the help of Koroviev.
Then Woland himself proposed to communicate with him “without ceremony”, but Margarita nevertheless maintained a respectful distance with the spirit of evil and did the right thing, for the opposite behavior is fraught. And in that situation it was so easy to slip into familiarity, but it would be regrettable for the guest. But she showed wisdom.
What does the example teach? If the elders allow you to recline the ceremony, this does not mean that you need to reduce the distance, turning into a pig. What does the pig have to do with it? Everything will become clear a little lower.
Synonyms
Familiarity is what we are talking about today. Let us turn to substitution words, which will help us understand more precisely the meaning of the phenomenon under consideration. Here they are:
- bonhomie;
- unceremoniousness;
- liberty;
- disrespect;
- familiarity.
Remember, we promised to return to friends who looked like pigs? The fact is that amiconia is a synonym for familiarity, which is translated from French as follows: “friends like pigs” or “friends-pigs”.
Is it worth the risk?
Of course not. In general, with teachers, even former ones, do not violate subordination, because you can earn a reputation for years and spray it at once. Familiarity is a phenomenon, no matter how you look at it, rather disgusting and inappropriate than good and good.
If you want to show a person your disposition, love and reverence - respect him, nothing more is needed. Of course, sometimes it’s necessary to switch to “your people” mode, but this option should not be turned on automatically when a certain person is seen, even if you are sure that everything will be in place and a disaster will not happen.
Bernard Shaw claimed that only a tailor acts wisely, because he takes measurements every time he sees a person. But the rest of the people are not so resourceful, they try to squeeze others into their ideas, and then they are still offended when they are not willing to match them. This is a common mistake, do not repeat it and, of course, learn from the classics.
And yes, who needs synonyms for familiarity, see the list above, for this concept has no other replacements.