The problem of sexual orientation is quite acute in modern society. Same-sex love in all manifestations, both the relationship between a man and a man, and the woman’s love for a woman, is associated with something unnatural, negative and unacceptable in most people. It was previously believed that the manifestation of feelings and passion between two women is a direct direction to the clinic for the mentally ill. Is it so scary? Why do some ladies prefer their own kind to a stronger sex? What provokes the development of such relationships and what does love between women lead to? Modern psychology provides answers to these questions.
Behavioral characteristics of women
According to numerous studies, females are more sensitive and emotional than males. Nature itself endowed women with the ability to love and have strong feelings for men, create a family and give birth to children. However, under the influence of numerous life factors, the psyche and innate behavioral characteristics of the beautiful half of humanity undergo serious changes. Modern life sometimes forces women to take over part of men's duties, perform hard physical work and play roles that are not peculiar to them in society. All this provokes changes in the character and personal qualities of the fairer sex.
Causes
Same-sex relationships among beautiful ladies can develop on their own, regardless of the age and previous sexual orientation of the person. There are times when, before meeting a new partner, a girl had a fairly strong love affair with a man, but after that she preferred love between women.
In addition to the most inexplicable occurrence of passion for a person of the same sex, the construction of such relationships can provoke social factors, education, environment, LGBT propaganda, as well as negative experiences with a representative of the opposite sex.
Attempts to discover something new
Most people are encouraged by curiosity for various experiments in sexual life. For example, some use escort services (phone sex, ordering “priestesses of love”) or resort to talking with representatives of another race. So what is the difference between the relations between women, the love that arises between them? All this is the same experiment, a peculiar way to diversify personal life, to which uncomplexed, free-thinking individuals are decided, while fully aware of actions and deeds. Part of the fair sex is thus trying to feel exactly what the man is experiencing, touching the woman, caring and enjoying the intimacy with her.
Propaganda
What has been recently broadcast on TV, as well as in various online communities, is nothing more than indirect propaganda of lesbian relations. Celebrities in show business openly demonstrate their sexual orientation, showing how fashionable and modern, and in some countries, rallies of LGBT activists are held.
Provocations of this kind have no effect on the hardened minds of adult held individuals. Mainly under the influence of propaganda fall young girls, adolescents with a fragile psyche. Then the woman’s love for another woman develops under the influence of external suggestion, it dominates the game to the public. Freshmen and high school students often do not realize what they are doing, this kind of relationship ends at a more mature age - up to 20 years.
Alcohol
There are many anecdotes and comedic stories about how a man and a woman, having gone through alcohol, the next morning find themselves in the same bed. Who said this cannot happen between two ladies? For example, the women met to share their personal plan problems, sat in a bar, drank a lot, and “sent off” a couple of obsessive, driven gentlemen. Then they smoothly moved to the apartment of one of her friends and went to bed on the same bed. This was followed by an innocent hug, after - kisses and so on. In the morning, both ladies will be at a loss and feel ashamed, since before this did not happen to them. The love of 2 women at this stage is likely to end, and both partners will never intersect. Less commonly, such relationships develop into something more. Researchers have proven that a similar situation occurs mainly with recently met women, rarely with old close friends.
Man's desire
Passion, female love for a woman can be caused by the desire of the husband / permanent male sexual partner to try a threesome. It has been proven that some men are especially aroused by lesbian games, and many of them would like to turn such fantasies into reality. It is worth noting that women easily agree to such experiments, not opposing such strange dreams. Their motivation is mainly the fear of losing a lover, jealousy, curiosity and a desire to satisfy a partner. However, such a one-time relationship can develop into a new relationship, where a man becomes the third superfluous.
Dissatisfaction
The lack of sex life, as well as dissatisfaction with it, can provoke same-sex love: 2 women will be united by a desire to receive as many positive emotions from intercourse as possible. Recently, there have been many different articles in which it is said that ladies know better what they need, because a woman’s love for a woman can only bring a positive and positive energy charge. Of course, after reading this kind of information, a girl who is dissatisfied with heterosexual relationships and disappointed in love will risk trying the forbidden fruit. Often this ends with a long union or a bad experience.
Dissatisfaction can be triggered by male egoism, the desire to bring more pleasure to oneself than a partner. Therefore, the female subconscious erects a kind of wall in front of relationships with representatives of the stronger sex, which forces the person to radically change his sexual orientation.
Fear of pregnancy
Despite their main natural purpose - to bear and give birth to offspring - some women are afraid of pregnancy and the very fact of conception of a child. This pushes them into unnatural relationships - a woman’s love for a woman. The very realization that it is impossible to get pregnant from a person of the same sex as you, allows them to relax and enjoy sex.
About love between women: psychological trauma
This factor means both emotional and physical violence, as well as misunderstanding on the part of the person’s environment, child and adolescent cruelty. The family is the main social factor influencing the development of the individual. Negative attitude to the girl in childhood, assault by the father, his betrayal or sexual abuse - all this in the future affects the preferences of an adult in terms of sexual orientation.
A woman’s love for a woman can develop not only thanks to “ghosts” from childhood and psychological injuries received during this period. The first negative sexual experience with a man, ridicule and bullying by peers of the opposite sex leave an empty gap in the psyche of a woman. For her, communication with a man becomes painful, and intimacy becomes something unnatural and unpleasant. In this connection, a woman begins to seek solace in relations with a representative of the same gender.
Psychologists believe that the love of two women, based on psychological injuries and fears received at any stage of a person’s development, does not bring positive emotions, they are a psychological problem requiring correction, and in some cases treatment.
Woman with girl: love and sex. Male attitude
Most representatives of the strong half of humanity are positive about the love and intimacy of two women. This is due to erotic fantasies, where girls participate in sexual games, and a man is a direct observer, and sometimes a participant in intercourse.
Some believe that individuals with similar sexual preferences are great friends, companions for men. However, in reality, everything can be different: in addition to non-traditional orientation, women can be ardent fans of feminism and, as a result, haters of males.
Love of beautiful women for each other can be perceived negatively. Among men who do not accept any manifestation of homosexuality, including female, it is generally accepted that a person should follow his original purpose - creating a family and procreation, and any discrepancy with natural settings and instincts is a manifestation of mental deviations. Similar opinions are found in heterosexual women, but the weaker sex is more inclined to sympathize and pity people with a different sexual orientation.
Religion
Almost all official world religions consider homosexuality to be a sin. Despite the loyalty of modern society in Western countries to LGBT people, most Christian and Catholic churches, as well as Islam, do not accept individuals who openly declare their sexual preferences in favor of people of the same gender. Religious foundations say that such phenomena are a fall, since God originally conceived a marriage, the union of loving hearts of a man and a woman, which gives rise to a new life.
However, recently in some Catholic churches and communities there has been a tendency to adopt homosexuality as such and open support for sex minorities.
What are the relationships in a pair of two women
It is believed that in a same-sex family life, both partners behave like ordinary housewives: they cook, clean, wash, spend joint evenings watching melodramas and romantic films, while empathizing with the heroes of the films.
This is far from the case. In each of the homosexual couples, relationships are built on the same principle as in heterosexual couples. One of the women takes a stronger, masculine position, and the other, respectively, female. For example, a partner with a strong desire to protect, protect and provide for a family will work and play the role of a husband. The second will fulfill the basic female responsibilities: to cook food, to keep the house clean.
The opinion of psychologists
It is believed that if a person is comfortable in relations with a person of the same gender as him, then this does not require any treatment and attention of specialists. However, if a person experiences a certain discomfort, does not fail to constantly publicly declare his involvement in a particular sexual minority, and also openly demonstrates his relationship in the presence of minors - these are signs of mental disorders.
It is worth noting that female homosexuality itself in modern psychology and psychiatry is not considered a disease. In most cases, a woman’s attraction to a woman is determined by a defensive reaction to painful relationships with men, dissatisfaction with sexual life, and violence. But it also happens that a woman simply meets a man of the same sex, falls in love with him for inexplicable and incomprehensible reasons, and creates a couple with him.